How to get rid of pride and arrogance? Tips and methods of struggle

Signs of pride and arrogance

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The proud man is a prisoner of far-fetched principles:

I am the best;
do not admit your mistakes;
to be a leader;
ignore the opinions of others;
remember other people's mistakes;
taking help for granted;
criticize other people unreasonably;
put your interests above all else;
to assert oneself at the expense of others.

People who have this unpleasant behavioral quality are loners. They are unable to find friends because they are not capable of making friends. Sacrificing oneself for someone is a quality that is completely alien to an arrogant person.

First you need to understand - do you have these qualities?

The presence of vanity and pride is manifested by the following signs:

self-concentration and self-admiration. "I" and "Mine". Such a person divides the world into two unequal halves - “He” and everyone else. Moreover, other people are something insignificant;
contempt of others . A proud person remembers others in pursuit of profit. He pleases his ego that there are weaklings and fools around, against whom he feels superior;
confidence in one's rightness. A proud person perceives any situation with prejudice. He is sure that only his opinion is correct. Does not want to listen to other people's arguments;
constant condemnation of people . A proud person concentrates on the negative qualities of other people, criticizing everyone for their appearance, behavior, and mistakes. Moreover, he puts himself in the best light, claiming that he himself is not like that;
imposing your advice. An arrogant person is accustomed to giving recommendations and directions, even if people do not need them. “You’re doing it wrong! Why are you stupid? - a proud man mocks a person;
inability to admit one's mistakes . The proud person transfers all the blame for his mistake to others, circumstances, etc. He does not admit that he himself is the culprit of the mistakes;
inability to lose . A person with arrogance reacts painfully to the fact that someone is better than him. For this reason, he looks for shortcomings in rivals and competitors;
commanding tone . An arrogant person does not know how to restrain negative emotions. He is selfish and extremely hot-tempered, shouts, orders, demands, communicating with others. He is capable of subtly humiliating a person in the presence of others;
violent reaction to criticism. An arrogant person does not want to hear other people's opinions. He gets very irritated at the slightest remark that is addressed to him;
boasting and arrogance . Struck by exorbitant pride, a person is accustomed to boasting about his achievements. He is confident that he lives and does the right thing.

Note! A vain man walks with his head raised. His facial expressions demonstrate disdain for society.

As a result, the vain person is left alone, as he causes hostility and bewilderment among those around him. No one wants to communicate with him and listen to endless complaints. Pride and arrogance destroy even the warmest relationships.

How to get rid of arrogance

Nothing (neither a general's shoulder straps, nor a dozen higher education diplomas, nor divine beauty, nor a large amount of money) should give one person superiority over another. Learn to accept other people without labeling them, stop thinking that you are superior to them (even if you are more beautiful, smarter and earn more). Don't feel like you don't deserve the situations or life circumstances you're in.

“Smile, gentlemen, smile! All the stupid things in the world are done with a serious expression on your face!” — I always liked this monologue performed by Yankovsky. Learn to smile sincerely, smile at yourself (practice in front of a mirror, remembering pleasant moments), at strangers (on the street, in the subway, in a store). We are talking about a light, kind, welcoming smile, and not about an idiotic, expressionless grin.

If you want to get rid of arrogance, periodically put yourself in the shoes of people who have to put up with your arrogant, arrogant behavior. Try to understand how they feel. For example, imagine you are enthusiastically telling a person about how you had a rest this summer. And you notice that your counterpart is looking at you arrogantly, like, “What, do you call this a vacation?”, or even worse, he interrupts and begins to say in a disdainful voice, “But I was there and there, and my vacation Compared to yours, it was much more interesting and exciting!” It's unpleasant, isn't it?

If you have offended a person in some way and your guilt is obvious, apologize, but only from the bottom of your heart. Don't make excuses, but apologize. In a situation where you do not admit your guilt, but those around you consider you guilty, there is no need to apologize, here you need to prove your point of view, explain that you are right - this is different.

Arrogance is a sin in all world religions, and if you are a believer, you should listen to the scriptures. Biblical parables about pride: Proverbs 28:254 - “A heart caught in pride stirs up strife”, Proverbs 6:17 - “God hates a proud look”, Jeremiah 50:32 - “...all who have pride will stumble and fall”, James 4:6 - “Pride is the very essence of sin. Pride is the mother of discontent, ingratitude, arrogance, and fanaticism. There is hardly any evil that can be committed without satisfying one’s pride in some sense...” The Koran says - “Truly, He (the Almighty) does not love proud people,” in the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad - “He who has pride in his heart, equal to even a grain of mustard, does not enter Paradise.”

While studying articles on the Internet related to this topic, in search of an answer to the question “How to get rid of arrogance?”, I came across a very rude, but quite accurately noted remark: “To get rid of arrogance, a person must remember that he and urine came from the same place, that he was at the beginning a contemptible drop of sperm and that he would turn out to be a rotten corpse, and that in between these intervals he was just a vessel for waste. So why should he be arrogant and proud?!” Rough? Yes! Hard? Yes! But only such statements can make especially arrogant people think about whether they are behaving correctly. The fight against arrogance must be tough.

And lastly, if you think that the earth revolves around you, you are mistaken, it revolves around the sun. If you think that you are the navel of the earth, look at the map of the universe and try to find yourself there.

Reasons for Arrogant Behavior

What is pride formed from and how does it manifest itself? Its roots lie in the historical past, when the people obeyed the will of emperors and kings. The throne, a symbol of power, stands on a pedestal, which emphasizes the difference in status between the ruler and ordinary people. Today, an arrogant person is not a royal person, but simply a proud person with high self-esteem who is used to demonstrating his advantages.

Pride is an acquired quality of character. Old people and children are especially susceptible to it. The reasons for the appearance of this character flaw are various. Let's describe them in more detail.

Luck . A proud person may be born into a wealthy and famous family or suddenly become rich. Financial independence and a high position in society can cause a person to have a contemptuous attitude towards less “successful” acquaintances. This also applies to beautiful individuals.

Poverty, plain appearance. Surprisingly, lack of money and physical imperfection can also give rise to pride. Such a person compensates for his “failure” by humiliating others. He causes squabbles and quarrels, gaining fame as a “toxic” person whom no one likes.

Knowledge of some “higher” wisdom . Among scientists you can meet vain individuals who consider themselves the center of the Universe. This arrogance stems from an exaggerated self-esteem regarding acquired “higher” knowledge. This type of person loves to teach others, treating them with condescension, like children who do not understand anything.

Glory . Fame is fertile ground for vanity, which is why the behavior of most “stars” comes as a shock to ordinary people. The stage, the spotlight, the crowds of fans rapidly develop a painful conceit in a public person.

Flattery . Public and political figures are accustomed to being catered to. They are confident that they deserve the honors given. But they don’t see that they are simply being used for personal gain.

The most common cause of arrogance is considered to be improper upbringing . This happens when parents instill in their child a sense of superiority over others and a disdainful attitude towards others. Adults think that such behavior will accustom him to the post of chief. In fact, they all form the child of a tyrant.

The child is not criticized or punished for mistakes. He considers himself special, a celestial being who has no flaws. Responsibility for the committed negative act is transferred to others.

Every child needs praise, without the harmful suggestion that he is better than others. Otherwise, as he grows up, he will stumble upon a wall of misunderstanding. The environment will not tolerate his consumer nature. It is difficult for such a person to live in society.

So, there are many reasons due to which arrogance can develop. Pride is inherent in both powerful and high-ranking people and the poor and disadvantaged. But the conceit of an arrogant person is usually unjustified.

Reasons for the development of pride

Unfortunately, normal and useful pride can develop into arrogance - groundless and exaggerated pride and a number of other immoral qualities. But pride and such an arrogant attitude towards the world do not necessarily follow from adequate pride.

The roots can go to a person’s insecurity, resentment, anger, complexes. Then pride is a variant of overcompensation.
Another possible reason: a person despises others because of his social status, moreover, coming from the family (the parents achieved it, but the proud person himself did nothing at all, but inflated his Ego).

Arrogance Problems

The problem of arrogance is a societal one. The main flaw of pride is that an arrogant person has no respect for other people. Dislike comes back like a boomerang. Such an individual finds it difficult to establish a serious relationship with a person of the opposite sex, enter into communication with co-workers at work, and make new connections.

Vain people find it difficult to advance their careers due to an inadequate response to management's claims and attempts to increase their authority at the expense of their colleagues. As a result, the team with such “personnel” comes into conflict. Pathologically proud people have an arrogant disposition, but they do not want to improve their character. Arrogant individuals make the lives of others difficult with their obnoxious behavior.

Arrogance: what is behind it?

The practice of renouncing pride

We relax, close our eyes, turn on our internal sensations and say it out loud.
I call upon you dark forces to perform a ritual of renunciation of the spirit of pride. Pride helps you survive in this world. Pride respects only the proud, but they do not respect the humble. But we pay with our souls for this crafty love of the proud. I no longer need pride, to rise above others, above God.

Heavenly Father, Creator of my soul, help me cleanse myself of pride. Higher powers, help me cleanse myself of pride. I want to follow the path of the heart, the path of humility, and so that there is not even a spirit of pride in me. And even the spirit of pride, I return to you, dark forces, forever. Get this spirit of dark forces out of my body.

Dark forces, give back to me that piece of my soul, my spiritual strength, which I exchanged for pride. Give me back my soul.

Then we sit relaxed and observe the sensations. You may feel like something is being pulled out of you. There may be other sensations or you may not feel anything. You may feel lighter and more pleasant in your soul, you may experience a feeling of joy and happiness.

We continue, we speak out loud.

Walking the path of the soul, I increase love and warmth around me, walking the path of pride, I sow cold into the souls of people and then I myself suffer. I will sow the warmth of the human soul, and for this I remove any elevation above other people.

Pride cannot be removed in one or several practices. Do it as often as possible and with humility, it will give a good effect.

How to overcome pride

Psychologists recognize arrogance as a personality-destroying vice. For this reason, you should seriously think about how to eradicate this quality of character that distorts your worldview.

You can rehabilitate your personality using the following methods:

Admit there is a problem . Take a sober look at your own behavior. Such a step will direct you on the path to correctly building your “I”.
Analyze personal qualities. Write down positive and negative character traits. This is where you have to be honest to see the flaws.
Don't forget about other people's feelings . There is no need to show moral violence to others, imposing your point of view through insults and humiliation. The culture of communication is formed by tact and tolerance.
Keep a personal diary. Write down in it the negative results of the manifestation of vanity and successful steps to eliminate it.
Be humble. Amenable behavior keeps the problem under control. A humble person does not complicate matters, which allows him to work hard to correct mistakes.
Don't judge others. It is advisable to understand that others have their own opinions. They are not required to meet someone else’s far-fetched standards and criteria.
Take care of others. Selfless focus on other people's problems, the desire to help people is a win-win way to combat your own arrogance. It helps you find reliable friends.
React calmly to criticism. Recommendations from loved ones often provide irreplaceable support and valuable assistance. You should learn to accept them calmly, without unnecessary offense.
Dirty job. A person who imagines himself to be a celestial being will not do “dirty” work. To eradicate arrogance in yourself, it is recommended to engage in just such work. You can work as a cleaner for a month.
Refuse to communicate with flatterers. Fawning and ingratiation can cause arrogance even in a modest person. Communication with flatterers harms a person. Stay away from an insincere friend.

So, proud people do not experience true happiness because they are not able to truly rejoice. To free yourself from the strong network of arrogance, it is important to have desire. Regardless of what the true causes of pride are, fighting it requires enormous and daily effort.

Islam is about pride

Pride is when a person boasts about his achievements before the Creator, forgetting that it was from Him that he received them. This disgusting quality makes a person too arrogant; he begins to believe that he himself can achieve everything without God’s help, and therefore he never thanks God for everything he has.

How to get rid of pride? Islam, by the way, also holds the opinion that pride is a great sin, which becomes the cause of a number of other sins.

According to the Koran, a genie named Iblis refused to carry out Allah's order and prostrate to Adam. The genie said that he was better than man because he was made of fire, not clay. After this, he was cast out of heaven and vowed to lead believers astray.