Various things happen in life, including unpleasant events. Even in the most ideal family, disputes and disagreements occur, which sometimes lead to quarrels and scandals. Children often suffer because of parental scandals, but adults should set an example for them! In the Christian faith, the family occupies a high place, so every self-respecting Orthodox Christian should honor his or her spouse without letting a disagreement lead to a scandal. But if a person cannot curb his inner feelings in any way and can break down at any moment, then he needs to read a prayer for quarrels and scandals in the family. Children who see that their father and mother often quarrel are advised to read a prayer so that their parents do not quarrel with each other.
Reason for enmity
According to the Holy Scriptures, after committing the first sin (eating the forbidden fruit), man alienated himself from his Creator. Man has developed a tendency towards evil and the influence of demonic forces. To correct this vice, prayer for the reconciliation of warring parties is required.
According to St. Maximus the Confessor (580-662):
“The mind has lost the power of moral guidance over the unreasonable (passionate) forces of the soul - lust and irritability - and submitted to their disorderly movements, which prompted a person to strive only for pleasure, and thus fell into the power of carnal pride, the passion of carnality and the passion of violence, which prompted to the struggle for worldly goods, means of pleasure, and expressed in hatred of everything that interferes with pleasure and causes suffering."
Feud
The fall of the first people turned out to be a whole complex of sinful acts. They are led by pride, the desire to become God besides God. This also includes unbelief (distrust of the words of God), apostasy from God and going over to the side of the enemy. And also ingratitude to God for all His mercies and bounties. The corruption of human nature has led to the weakening of love. Disputes and quarrels began to arise between people, caused by envy and pride.
Saint Basil the Great (330-379) said that
“From a quarrel comes enmity. Quarrel or envy do not begin by themselves, but grow from the root of love of fame.”
conclusions
When you are in harmony with yourself and the people around you, you feel grace. In the presence of quarrels and conflict situations, a person’s mental balance collapses. This is why it is so important to use a prayer service. It is important to prepare accordingly: buy candles, go to church, or carry out the procedure yourself at home. It is of great importance to reinforce the sincere words of prayer by cleansing the soul and body. For these purposes, people fast and give alms. In large centers there are entire points where you can get advice. It is worth helping other people, sharing problems, finding solutions. In addition to prayers, it is worth supporting them with actions that together will help to reconcile.
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Love vs. enmity
The most sublime lines about love in Holy Scripture are the words of the Apostle Paul (First Epistle to the Corinthians, 13: 4-7):
“Love is long-suffering, it is kind, love does not envy, love is not arrogant, is not proud, does not act rudely, does not seek its own, is not irritated, does not think evil, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; covers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
This is a hymn of love. Where there is love, there is no enmity. But as a result of the Fall of man, evil entered the world. Misunderstandings, minor quarrels, and conflicts often arise between people. Enmity is often present not only between strangers, but even within the family.
Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets (1924-1994) advised Christians who came to him for advice to treat
“towards injustice spiritually, that is, to treat everything as Divine justice requires. Strive for what brings peace to others. After all, if someone makes a mistake, being weak, then in some way he has mitigating circumstances.”
How many days after a breakup or quarrel is it better to start making peace?
Naturally, after the scandal there remains an unpleasant aftertaste in the soul. Therefore, psychologists do not advise immediately starting to look for ways of reconciliation. Both loving hearts must first be given time to think about what happened. Wait for the emotional state to improve and for all grievances to settle. At a minimum, four hours is enough for this; in some situations, even a day is not enough.
If a girl wants to end the conflict as quickly as possible, then she needs to take action when her loved one cools down. But first, think about why the guy behaved this way. It doesn’t hurt to put yourself in his place to understand the essence of the quarrel. It makes no sense to find out who is right and who is wrong - this will only make the situation worse.
In order not to provoke a new quarrel, do not start reconciliation with the words:
- Even though you were wrong, I agree to make peace with you
- Okay, don’t sulk already, you yourself started this quarrel.
Reconciliation with a guy after a fight
Forgiving enemies
One of the principles of Orthodoxy is forgiveness not only of family and friends, but also of enemies.
“God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (Gospel of John 3:16).
The Church teaches not to harbor a grudge against your neighbor, to love your enemies, not to slander, not to become despondent because of a quarrel, and not to be angry. Therefore, prayer is very important for Christians, including prayer to pacify warring parties.
“Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who use you and persecute you” (Gospel of Matthew 5:44).
This is a deep, wise and at the same time mysterious (not understandable to everyone) commandment of the Savior. From the point of view of ordinary, worldly logic, this is an inevitable defeat. It seems that a Christian becomes completely defenseless against the aggression and injustice of the surrounding world. But there is a historical and spiritual paradox. Through the fulfillment of this particular commandment by Christians, many pagans began to profess faith in the True God. The saints demonstrated love for their enemies through their lives.
This is shown by the life of Saint Andrew, Christ for the Fool's sake (860-936). One day Andrei walked through the streets of the city of Constantinople (Türkiye) and saw demons. They wrote down the names of passers-by who pushed and cursed at the holy fool, so that in their hour of death they would be accused of this act. Saint Andrew, with the help of prayer to the Lord, erased the demonic records. He referred to the fact that “they beat me, not knowing what they are doing.”
Saint John Chrysostom (347-407) taught:
“If you are reconciled before evening (with your neighbor), you will receive forgiveness from God, but if you remain in enmity longer, then your hostility will not be a sign of being carried away by irritability and anger, but of anger, a sign of a soul corrupted and given over to sin.”
Prayer for the reconciliation of warring relatives pleases God. As Saint John Chrysostom said:
“We will endure, and do, and endure everything, just to reconcile (our) enemies with us. We will not seek whether they are angry with us justly or unfairly, but only so that they stop being hostile against us.”
What to do if there is a quarrel?
Orthodoxy teaches us to blame sins, not the sinner himself. The sinner needs to be helped to get rid of them, and not left alone with his problems. Sinful actions arise from mental delusion, from spiritual loneliness, from an unfavorable environment. It is incredibly important to avoid reproach and slander, not only out loud, but also in thoughts, because thoughts blacken the soul more powerfully than words.
The following tips will help prevent conflicts and safely resolve quarrels as soon as possible:
- monitor your thoughts and words, avoiding blame and envy;
- every time you notice the rage of evil feelings - hatred, condemnation, envy, feelings of superiority, you need to soften your heart with prayer for the reconciliation of those at war and the increase of love;
- show a person your good intentions and desire to live in peace;
- even if it’s difficult, apologize for being wrong, raising your tone, accidentally missing or choosing the wrong word;
- share your feelings and desires, give your interlocutor the opportunity to empathize with you;
- talk with a priest in church, listen to his advice, receive a blessing to read prayers and resolve conflicts.
When using prayers for reconciliation between warring relatives or friends, what is important is the desire to quickly establish relationships and sincere faith in God’s help. Through prayer and work on oneself, spiritual harmony and inner kindness are achieved. Without such prayerful work, all external manifestations of virtue and external efforts become meaningless.
Prayer for reconciliation between warring parties: who to contact
In the Orthodox Church, there is not a definite church order for every aspect of life. The Monk Arseny of Cappadocia (1840-1924) in this case advised using the reading of psalms instead of prayers. Thus, the Monk Arseny recommended reading Psalm 35 in order to dispel hostility after disputes and misunderstandings.
This psalm was written by the prophet David during persecution from King Saul. Here we are talking about the wicked who constantly plots against the righteous and plots against him. Even at night he thinks of evil plans. But no matter how great his strength, the Lord will be the true and indestructible support of the righteous.
In the modern Orthodox prayer book there is a prayer for the reconciliation of warring parties, addressed to the Lord.
Orthodox patrons of the family hearth
The main defenders of the family hearth in the Orthodox faith are considered to be: Archangel Barachiel, the Most Holy Mother of God and Saint Xenia of St. Petersburg. It is on their help that many Christians experiencing difficulties in their families have relied on them since ancient times. It so happened that each of these Saints was related to family life and helped in difficult times to achieve mutual agreement between husband and wife. Children who say a prayer for their parents so that they do not swear can count on the help of each of the listed patrons. If the instigator of the scandal is the husband, then the wife should read a prayer so that everything will be fine with her husband, and then the Lord will help bring him to reason.
Icon of the Mother of God “Softening Evil Hearts”
Among Christian believers, there is a pious tradition of turning to the Mother of God for help. In this case, Her icon “Softening Evil Hearts” is especially revered. Orthodox believe that prayer in front of this image can soften the hearts of people and fill them with the love of God.
“The Mother of God conveys all our requests to Christ, but She herself, through Her care and tenderness, fills our souls with love for Christ. I ask the Mother of God that She would take my heart, cleanse it, and then divide it into four parts: give three parts to the Most Holy Trinity and take one for Herself” (Elder Paisius the Svyatogorets).
How do you know if you will make peace or not?
To do this, you can pick up ordinary, never used cards. Sit at the table, place your right palm on the deck and close your eyes, concentrate. Ask a question. Place the cards in a row. Their number should be equal to the number of letters in your full name. Next, you need to gather your courage and turn the “foretellers” face up. If there are more red suits - the answer is positive, black - accordingly, negative, in half - everything will come true, but not soon. By the way, this fortune telling for reconciliation can also be used to find answers to other questions. It doesn't always come true, but very often.
We advise you to study Prayers to Saint Judas Tadeus
Who to contact about reconciliation between warring parties
The Russian Orthodox Church has developed a tradition of turning to those saints who in their lives have shown the ability to forgive offenders for help in reconciling those at war. For example, to the holy brothers Boris and Gleb, to the Venerable Seraphim of Sarov.
Saints Boris and Gleb (10th-11th century) were the youngest sons of the Kyiv prince Vladimir. After the death of their father in the struggle for power, they were killed by order of their brother Svyatopolk. As the chronicle says, the holy brothers did not want to use weapons in their own defense and oppose their brother. Thus, they actually voluntarily sacrificed themselves. Boris and Gleb were canonized as passion-bearers. This indicates that they suffered martyrdom. And not at the hands of the persecutors of Christianity, but from fellow believers, and their martyrdom consists of goodness and non-resistance to enemies.
The life of Saint Seraphim of Sarov (1754-1833) tells the story of an attack on him by robbers. One day, when the monk was living as a hermit in the forest, three peasants came to him. They believed that the monk had money hidden. The robbers beat him and broke his head with the butt of an ax. The monk did not resist, although he was physically strong. Having found nothing valuable in his hut, the robbers left. Father Seraphim miraculously survived, but remained hunched over forever. These peasants were later caught and identified. However, the monk forgave them and they escaped judicial punishment.
The act of Saint Seraphim is a feat of obedience. The life of a monk belongs entirely to God. And if the Lord considered it best for him to suffer at human hands, he should humble himself and not resist. This is the height of humility that is beyond the power of not only lay people, but also many monks.
How to make peace with a guy beautifully, effectively and quickly: general tips
It's hard to take the first step when pride prevents you from saying even simple phrases for a truce. Moreover, if you have never done this before, but you really want to restore the relationship. And yet you need to overcome yourself and call, write, meet with the young man, have a heart-to-heart talk, otherwise you can lose him forever.
You can also do the following:
Give a gift to your boyfriend with a postcard, where you write that you miss him and want to see him at least with one eye. It’s good when a girl is one of those people who don’t take scandals to heart. And within a few minutes they are ready to agree to a truce. You can make peace quickly thanks to good sex. Some couples can even quarrel and within an hour they are eating pie and drinking tea together in the kitchen without any emotions. Kisses and hugs are also suitable for a truce
Many men are ready to forgive all insults if a girl shows him attention in this way. Although there are exceptions here, a guy does not react to such actions when the offense is strong or he simply does not love you.
How to establish a good relationship with your loved one?
Prayer of the Mother of God before the icon “Softening Evil Hearts”
Oh, Long-Suffering Mother of God, Exceeding all the daughters of the earth in Her purity and in the multitude of sufferings You endured to the earth! Accept our many painful sighs and keep us under the shelter of Your mercy. For you know no other refuge and warm intercession, but as you have the boldness to be born of You, help and save us with Your prayers, so that we may without stumbling reach the Kingdom of Heaven, where with all the saints we will sing praises in the Trinity of the One God, always, now and ever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to the holy noble princes Boris and Gleb
Oh, sacred duo, beautiful brethren, good passion-bearers Boris and Gleb, who from their youth served Christ with faith, purity and love, and adorned themselves with their blood like scarlet, and now reigns with Christ! Do not forget us who exist on earth, but as warm intercessors, by your strong intercession before Christ God, preserve the young in holy faith and purity, unharmed from every excuse of unbelief and impurity, protect us all from all sorrow, bitterness and vain death, tame all enmity and malice, raised up by the action of the devil from neighbors and strangers.
We pray to you, Christ-loving passion-bearers, ask the Great-Gift Master for forgiveness of our sins, unanimity and health, deliverance from the invasion of foreigners, internecine warfare, plagues and famine. Provide (this city) with your intercession to all who honor your holy memory, forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to St. Seraphim of Sarov
Oh, wonderful Father Seraphim, great miracle worker of Sarov, quick and obedient helper to all who come running to you! During the days of your earthly life, no one left you weary and inconsolable, but everyone was blessed with the vision of your face and the benevolent voice of your words. Moreover, the gift of healing, the gift of insight, the gift of healing for weak souls has appeared abundantly in you. When God called you from earthly labors to heavenly rest, your love ceased from us, and it is impossible to count your miracles, which multiplied like the stars of heaven: for throughout the ends of our earth you appeared to the people of God and granted them healing.
In the same way, we cry out to you: O most quiet and meek servant of God, daring man of prayer to Him, denying no one who calls you, offer up your powerful prayer for us to the Lord of hosts, may He strengthen our power, may He grant us all that is useful in this life and all that is spiritual useful to salvation, may he protect us from the falls of sin and teach us true repentance, so that we can enter without stumbling into the eternal Heavenly Kingdom, where you now shine in unfathomable glory, and there sing with all the saints the Life-Giving Trinity until the end of the age. Amen.
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