good and evil
You can’t even imagine, dear friends, how much your understanding of good and evil affects your life. We are taught to distinguish between good and evil from early childhood, when we are carefully convinced of the correctness of some actions and the incorrectness of others. And we ourselves, to the best of our ability, try to figure out what is good for us in this life and what is bad. And not always, far from always, we manage to find out the truth about good and evil, right and wrong, good and bad. As a result, we face various problems in our lives due to our inadequate perception of reality. We make unnecessary mistakes, the consequences of which can be very, very disastrous for us.
Many problems of a psychological nature come down to a person’s definition of good and evil and his development of an adequate, from his point of view, reaction to both. Many of you are probably unhappy with your situation in life, and this is a very common phenomenon. All sorts of philosophical and religious beliefs about the attitude towards money, towards one’s neighbor, towards lifestyle, towards moderation and the like, try to convince us of what we feel with our whole body. Well, it seems like money is evil, the desire to possess some woman you like is a sin, the desire to live in a palace is an optional luxury. It turns out that things that are completely natural for our lives are something wrong and bad, and we should not want what we really want. Sorry, but what about those people who have it all, who live life to the fullest and are not going to give it up? Why on earth should we limit ourselves in some way and concede something to someone?
What is good for us and what is bad for us, we can probably understand ourselves if no one imposes on us their point of view on certain things and instills in us their ideas about good and evil. A person has a basic set of instincts that give rise to natural desires in him, and by listening to our instincts, but giving them a reasonable form, we can easily understand what exactly and why we need, what is good for us and what is evil. If you follow your true desires, learn to satisfy your basic needs, and you will have significantly fewer problems with your mental and psychological health.
I know what I'm talking about, thousands of people with various problems have gone through me. And very often these problems rested on their incorrect, or rather, deliberately distorted worldview. But one has only to show a person the right path, and he gradually comes to the understanding that he has driven himself into a dead end, following other people’s beliefs about good and evil. Well, for example, people write to me that their family life is like hell and that they can no longer tolerate the pigish attitude towards themselves, but they don’t know what to do, how best to act. But they don’t have the courage to simply break off a relationship with the wrong person, because it’s somehow not good to leave a person who perhaps loves you in the depths of his soul. Well, yes, of course he loves, he loves so much that he beats, insults, humiliates, mercilessly exploits, and even threatens to kill. Very sincere love, which sometimes ends in very disastrous results. Yes, sometimes you shouldn’t rush into divorces because the problem may lie within yourself, but when things go too far, when family life turns into a game of survival, a decision should be made immediately. True, sometimes making the right decision is not easy, because a person is overcome by doubts regarding the correctness of this decision, and besides, there is such a thing as habit, which forces a person to get used to everything, including a very bad, and even very dangerous life .
Well, in this case, given that we live in the modern world, you should seek help from a psychologist who will help you make the right decision and explain to you its correctness. You can go to an appointment with a psychologist, or even better, contact him on the Internet, for example, write him a letter and ask him to help you understand a difficult situation for you, ask him to help you decide on the right step. Believe me, good specialists are not poisoned by any inadequate nonsense, they look at life with sober eyes, and the advice they give is guaranteed to be correct, following which you will gain more than you lose. A wise answer from a specialist to your question does not necessarily have to be a revelation for you, it can simply help you decide on the action that you yourself perfectly understand is correct.
So the meaning of a psychologist’s advice, as well as any wise advice in general, comes down to encouraging a person to make the only right decision for him in life. What sometimes seems evil to a person, and about which he is very worried, can, in fact, be good for him and for other people. Conversely, what we perceive as good may turn out to be evil. If our mental decoder of the external world is configured incorrectly, in this case we also make incorrect decisions, moreover, we also suffer from our incorrect attitude towards this or that situation in life, or from our attitude towards this or that action. Sometimes a person believes that he acted wrongly, that he acted badly, if his action is at odds with his beliefs, whereas in fact, he feels very good and the result of his actions convincingly proves that they were correct. And the question is, what should we believe, what someone inspired us, or our own feelings?
Why should we ever believe what other people tell us about good and bad deeds, good and evil, right and wrong? What reasons do we have for this? Look at all these virtues, bringing pure and bright things to the masses, but many of them drowned in vices and lies, many of them, such as priests in the Vatican, commit sexual crimes against children, and we are taught to follow God’s commandments. A mother who defends her son, who mercilessly killed several people, including small children, sees evil not in her son, but in society, which is supposedly to blame for the way she raised him. So, should we believe all this, should we follow the rules that people like this impose on us? To be able to distinguish good from evil, you just need to learn to foresee the consequences of certain of your actions and take into account their impact on your life and the lives of other people in the long term. I think you understand that you cannot live on your own, therefore, you need to somehow take into account the interests of the people around you, and not do everything just for your own sake. Unhealthy selfishness is fraught with unhealthy consequences. On the other hand, doing wrong and thoughtless good to other people is also unreasonable; no one will appreciate your efforts; rather, people will try to get more from you, taking advantage of your kindness. So do things that are useful for yourself and for other people, if necessary, taking into account all the possible consequences of these things. Having calculated the consequences of your actions and adequately assessed these consequences, you will not encounter unpleasant surprises.
Sometimes this is not easy to do, it is not easy to understand what this or that action you have committed can lead to, and therefore, it is impossible to give it a correct assessment, defining it as a good or bad action, as right or wrong. That is why we turn to other people for advice who, thanks to their experience and knowledge, can warn us about the likely consequences of our actions, about which we ourselves know nothing. Whether your acquaintance, your relative or a psychologist will be such an adviser for you does not matter, the main thing is that it is a wise person who understands life. And this can only be a person who faces various life problems directly, who knows what they are and knows how to solve them. Do not listen to various advisers who, having made a lot of mistakes in life, begin to teach other people how they should live. They certainly won’t tell you anything worthwhile about what is good and what is bad.
Remember how many times in your life did you do everything you thought was right, but in the end didn’t get the best result? How do we say in this case: we wanted the best, but it turned out as always? Where did you get the idea that you wanted the best, did you even know how best to act in this or that situation, or did you just think that you knew? It often turns out that people did not know or understand this, and so they received the same unexpected and completely unacceptable result for them. This is the whole problem, without knowing how best to act in a given situation, you cannot achieve what you planned to achieve. Sometimes you don’t need to do anything at all, you shouldn’t interfere in other people’s affairs and even in the situation in your own life, and then the end result of other people’s efforts will benefit you. Inaction, to a certain extent, is also an action, and often a very effective one, capable of significantly influencing the outcome of certain events.
It happens that people turn to me for help, describe their situation, considering it unfavorable for them, and forgive me to give them practical advice on what they should do to influence this situation. However, when deeply analyzing the situation described by these people, I sometimes come to the conclusion that they should not interfere in anything at all and they do not need to change anything in their lives. I see that sometimes it is more profitable for a person to remain indifferent to certain matters and then they will end in his favor. To understand this, you must, of course, be able to calculate the likely outcome of certain events that occur in our lives, you need to think several steps ahead, then in some cases you can do nothing at all and still get the results you need. Well, this is when you know, a fool is doing something, and we simply do not interfere with him, do not interfere in his activities, and in the end, the result of this activity turns out to be quite acceptable to us.
Sometimes it just seems to us that a person is doing a good, or vice versa, an evil deed, and we are indignant, worried, interfere and try to change something, not realizing that even without us everything is going exactly as it should, including as it should us. And all because of our incorrect idea of good and evil, which awakens in us emotions that are adequate to our beliefs and thereby forces us to react in a certain way to a particular situation. Only, if you think carefully, if you carefully weigh everything and evaluate it properly, then you will probably find positive sides in everything that happens in your life and will be able to take advantage of this or that situation to your advantage.
How many mistakes in life could be avoided if people were able to accurately distinguish good from evil, good from bad, right from wrong. But as usually happens, if we see, hear, or learn about something, we immediately give this information our own explanation, which may be completely untrue. Thus, we can be upset in situations when we actually should be happy, or, conversely, we can be happy when we should be concerned about what is happening, taking into account all the possible consequences of certain events and preparing for these consequences. In other words, the fallacy of our beliefs is a very, very serious thing, and if everything in a person’s life is not going in the best way for him, he should reconsider his views on life, independently or with the help of a specialist.
Remember that beyond good and evil lies the truth, a truth that reveals to us all the secrets of our existence. We live according to the strict and inviolable laws of the universe or God's laws, as they are also called, which in fact, no matter what we call them, determine our entire life from beginning to end. Knowing these laws, you can always adapt to them, you can always use them for your own benefit. These laws are partly known to religion, partly to science, partly to each of us, depending on our education. Using these laws, we can protect ourselves from various threats, both from nature and from other people, we can make our lives better by developing science and technology, and we can predict our future. And every good deed in this case will mean that we are doing something that improves our life, which makes it safer, more satisfying, more interesting and promising.
Good is order and the measure that this order provides. When everything is in moderation, when there is order in everything, a competent sequence, when everything is coherent and there is discipline in everything, then everything works out for us in the best possible way. Evil, on the contrary, destroys everything, deprives us of benefits and opportunities to develop, makes our life chaotic, unpredictable, meaningless. We can feel all this on our own skin, our sensations will never deceive us, unlike other people, all phenomena should be explained from the perspective of their final result. Maybe we are not all so educated as to correctly assess all the events that happen in our lives, maybe we don’t all and don’t always understand our feelings, but despite this, it’s better to remain in search of the right answer to your questions than be content with ready-made but incorrect answers.
And for those of you, dear readers, who want to get rid of the problems poisoning your life, I strongly recommend that you put things in order in your head, reconsider all your beliefs, all your desires and actions, and come to a full understanding of the course you are currently on. moment you are moving. If you need help with this, please contact us. The main thing is that you see a way out of any situation, or at least understand that it exists at all. And it really exists, believe me, it cannot but exist, there are no dead-end situations in life, in life there are only people who cannot find a way out of the dead end, and who need help to do so. Do not rush to make fateful decisions in your life without consulting with smart people, do not act on emotions, they often force people to make very serious mistakes, which are not easy to correct later.
Good and evil have always been perceived and are perceived by us, mainly from the position of other people's beliefs, which we adhere to, considering them our own. Well, let’s say you think that giving alms to beggars is a good deed, and you don’t think about the fact that you are actually doing evil, because by your action you are condoning poverty. Moreover, in our world of good and evil, begging is often associated with crime, in which infants suffer, drugged with vodka, which puts them to sleep and at the same time kills them. This is done to create the image of a poor mother asking for money for her child, that is, there is pressure on pity. Such animal savagery, children often die from alcohol, is supported by those who give such mothers money. And people do this with the firm confidence that they are doing the right thing, that is, doing a good deed.
In this way, driven by good intentions, we can do evil, and then be surprised that the end result is exactly the opposite of our expectations. Friends, if you don’t know what’s right, ask wise people for advice, let them tell you what is truly a good deed and what is an evil deed. Just ask them to explain to you why they consider something good and something evil. I understand that you won’t find wise people these days, and yet they exist, and you can always find them and consult with them.
Your life will become much easier if you look at it with a sober look, if you understand what is really happening to you and your life, where it can lead you and what you should do or what you should not do in order to influence her. Knowing the truth and knowing how to use it, you will always be able to make the most correct decisions for you, in any situation.
Orthodox Life
The word of Archimandrite Markell (Pavuk), confessor of the Kyiv theological schools.
We all, dear brothers and sisters, want, as St. Augustine writes, to love and be loved. But the road to real, genuine love lies through Calvary. According to the famous archpastor, Lent is precisely one of the stages of this path. In addition, in order for true love to kindle in our hearts, during fasting we try to strengthen our faith, acquire such virtues as humility, patience, meekness, chastity and, most importantly, reasoning.
St. John Climacus distinguishes three degrees of reasoning.
Reasoning among new Christians is the correct knowledge of one’s spiritual structure; among the average, this is an intelligent feeling that makes it possible to accurately distinguish good from evil; for the perfect, this is spiritual intelligence, which is given through Divine enlightenment, thanks to which a person can see and enlighten other souls.
Now we see that the majority are deprived of this property. It is enough to turn on the TV and listen to modern politicians. Everyone smartly discusses some issues of politics and economics, organizes “revolutions of dignity,” but as a result, morality and the very lives of people become worse and worse every day. Brother rebels against brother, people lose the most important qualities: honesty, mercy, compassion, empathy. And true love, judging by the number of broken families, is generally becoming scarce. Under the influence of Western TV series, many people think that love is just carnal pleasure, and therefore they lose it so quickly.
How to acquire spiritual discernment?
The Monk John in his Ladder of 30 steps places this virtue on the 26th step. And this suggests that reasoning is the gratifying fruit of many other virtues: fulfilling the commandments of God, prayer, repentance, victory over anger, gluttony, lust, laziness, despondency, idle talk, vanity, pride.
Until we have achieved at least small victories over ourselves, our reasoning about social phenomena and about other people is most often erroneous. The monk writes that mostly because of our passion, we, without even realizing it, slander each other. As a result, the righteous suffer and the wicked prosper.
To correct the situation, the Church constantly, and especially during Lent, calls everyone to repentance. But how many hear this call? Also here in the Lavra, attracted by the beauty of the temples and the wonderful singing, there are always many people. But a little further from the Lavra, and even more so from the city, and the churches are half empty. Everything is aggravated by the split, which is finishing off those remnants of faith among people that the communists have not exterminated in 70 godless years.
As a result, the majority does not distinguish true good from disguised evil. Sin strenuously presents itself as the norm. Those sins that until recently were even embarrassing to mention are now not only not fought, but even taken pride in.
We can only hope that in those churches that, despite pressure and defamation, remain faithful to canonical Orthodoxy, people will grow spiritually, not only learning to discern where is good and where is evil, but also being able, through the power of God’s grace, to enlighten souls in darkness ignorance. The path of Christ to Golgotha was sorrowful and difficult, but it was followed by a joyful Resurrection. Let us try, dear brothers and sisters, so that under the weight of the “words of wickedness” that we now almost constantly hear in the media, we do not turn away from the saving path of the cross and achieve the joy of Easter. Amen.
How can you quickly distinguish good from evil?
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Question:
Dear Rav!
I think that in life we must strive for good and avoid evil. Go towards your goals along the path of good, not evil. But in the whirlwind of daily actions, deeds and decisions, there is often not enough time or understanding to evaluate what your action will be - good or evil.
Is there any simple and quick way or algorithm to assess the situation in a few minutes and understand how to follow the path of good in this case? How can you quickly distinguish good from evil?
Answer:
The sages in the treatise Bava Metzia (83) interpret the verse in the book Tehillim (104, 20): “You spread darkness and night comes” - “this is our world, which is like night.”
The Ramchal (Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto) in his famous book “Mesilat Yesharim” (part 3) writes: “And realize how wonderful this saying is for those who understand it deeply. After all, the darkness of the night deceives the human eye in two ways: either it darkens it so that it does not see what is in front of it at all, or it deceives it so that a pillar seems to it a man, and a man a pillar. Likewise, the materiality and materiality of this world is the darkness of the night for the gaze of the mind, which deceives it in two ways: firstly, it does not allow it to see obstacles on the paths of this world, and there are fools who step confidently, and fall and die before they can to be afraid... And secondly - and the second deception is worse than the first - it distorts vision so that evil appears to be good, and good to be evil, and because of this, people become stronger in their bad deeds and do not abandon them. [In the first case] they simply do not see evil, [in the second] they “see” strong evidence of the “truth” of their false views and conclusions, and this is a great evil that envelops them and leads to death.”
Since the yetzer ha-ra blinds a person, thinking about where the right path is and where the wrong one is, on the one hand, a very important work, but on the other, very difficult. It is almost impossible for a person at the moment of committing an action to understand whether this action is good or bad - because at this moment he has neither the time nor the peace of mind necessary for such reflections.
Anyone who wants to protect themselves from mistakes should follow the advice of Ramchal (ibid.), who writes: “A person needs - at any time and in a specially designated time of solitude - to think about which path is true according to the Law of the Torah, which path he needs to go. And then reflect on your actions - whether they correspond to this path or not. By doing this, he can easily cleanse himself of all evil and straighten his paths.”
Of course, following this advice is not easy. But this is the only way for someone who wants to follow the straight path; there is not, and cannot be, any simple algorithm.
Although there is no simple formula with the help of which it would be possible, being in a given situation, to determine exactly which actions are worth doing and which are not, the Vilna Gaon still gives us some kind of “indication”.
In his commentary on the book of Ruth, he writes (1:18): “Whoever has the opportunity to perform a mitzvah and wants to discern whether it does not come from an evil desire, let him check how the organs of his body behave while performing a mitzvah. If at this time they move nimbly and “playfully”, apparently, this is happening on the advice of an evil desire. Because how can it be that the organs of the body - heavy, created from dust, whose nature is to follow their bodily lusts, to sink as low as possible, as dust should - begin to act willingly? This is nothing more than the advice of an evil desire that wants to later take power over them. And if a person’s inner desire is to get closer to his Creator by performing mitzvot, the organs of his body will be heavy and lazy. Then it is clear that this corresponds to nature: an evil desire influences the organs of the body, wanting to keep them from fulfilling the commandment.”
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Every day, thousands of thoughts run through our heads, we take hundreds of actions based on our ideas about peace, happiness and love, and we often remain disappointed with where life takes us.
What is the reason for our disappointments?
Why do we spend so much energy, making incredible efforts for our happiness, but so often achieve completely opposite results?
One of the reasons for our failures lies in the fact that we often make efforts where we cannot change anything, and we ignore those areas of our life that require our immediate intervention.
Because we do not rely on knowledge.
Because our mind is weak or asleep.
Because we tend to go where we are familiar, although not very comfortable, and we are afraid to plunge into areas where we have never been before, where we feel like newbies, and therefore we are afraid to fail.
Therefore, we stand with an outstretched hand at our parents’ house, expecting from them the love we have not received, being angry that we are not receiving it, but not even making an attempt to look around and look for those who are ready to give us love just like that.
Therefore, we remain in relationships that have long outlived their usefulness, preferring to hold the exhausted bird tightly in our hands than to take a risk and follow the pie in the sky.
That's why…
May be enough?
Maybe the time has come to stop and think - why is all this? Where am I going? Why am I living? And who am I anyway?
It is not easy.
It's not fast.
But only by clearing our space of the old, getting rid of the unnecessary, do we make room for new shoots that can lead us to happiness.
How to separate the wheat from the chaff?
How not to throw out the baby with the bathwater, throwing out of your head not only what destroys us, but also what we really need?
A very pressing question that has worried many sages for a long time - where is the line that allows us to separate good from bad, wheat from chaff, useful from destructive, where is the line separating the scheme that lives in our mind and has long been outdated, and living participation in the situation?
To answer this question, in order to see its essence, its roots in every situation, we cannot do without REASON.
A strong mind can separate the wheat from the chaff.
A strong mind is able to determine how to act competently in every situation.
A strong mind relies on true knowledge, and not on its own conjectures, about how the world works and where happiness is located.
There is a wonderful prayer that reflects the importance of developing the mind in our lives, I really like it - “Lord, give me patience to accept what I cannot change, give me the strength to change what is possible, and give me the mind to learn to distinguish between the first from the second."
If you think deeply about these words, you will realize that we are not getting the desired result:
- if we make a lot of efforts where we need to endure;
- if we do not pay attention to the area of life that we have the power to change.
In constellations, I constantly come across a situation where an adult is already dissatisfied with his parents, when he expects from them support, love, care - everything that they did not give him, from his point of view, and that he needed for development and feeling yourself happy.
It is normal for a child to want, wait and even demand love.
Because he is unable to see reality.
Because he needs love.
Because his mind is not developed.
But this is not normal for an adult who simply remains in the position of a child out of habit, without seeing the obvious - PARENTS DO NOT HAVE WHAT WE HAVE EXPECTED FROM THEM FOR MANY YEARS.
No! Because no one gave them love.
Very often wives make incredible efforts to change their husbands. They read books about relationships to understand what to do with their husband and his bad habits, give him advice, make complaints, look for ways to convey information about how he should be to make her happy. They become so immersed in their husband’s life, wanting to restore order there, that they completely forget that their feminine sphere is left unattended at this time.
So, they are not willing to tolerate something that cannot be changed. They do not want to know the law of the Universe that every person is a sacred land, and no one else has the right to make any changes or improvements there.
Because if they learn this law, they will have to pay attention to what they can change - to THEMSELVES, their ability to be feminine, to give love, to inspire, to trust, to open their heart.
It hurts to look inside yourself and not see there that confident person who just yesterday read out his duties to her husband in full knowledge of how he needs to live.
It’s scary to suddenly discover your complete failure in what is most important for every woman, for example, the inability to build a relationship with her husband.
And yet, only by doing this do we have a chance to turn to where we can still change something.
Another example that is familiar to many mothers is that we do not perceive the child as a person separate from us, with his own habits, tastes, character, with his accumulated experience of many centuries.
And then we begin to make incredible efforts to impose, to implant in any way what WE CONSIDER IS RIGHT FOR HIM.
We destroy what bloomed in it.
And we are trying to plant something on this soil that will never take root there.
Because apricots should not bloom in the Arctic Circle.
Because the nature of a child can be very different from the nature of his parents, and it is not they who decide and determine which path he should take.
What do we see here?
Parents do not want to understand, recognize, accept and tolerate the nature of the child; they want to enjoy him, taking control of his life completely into their own hands.
They make a bad engineer out of a good artist, considering any manifestation of a child’s creativity to be a whim, instilling in him the idea that art cannot make a living.
They turn a great wife and mother into a bad businesswoman, focusing all their attention on the girl's education, and not giving her any knowledge about how to start and maintain a family.
They turn a creative person into a sad, drinking mover, fixated on the mess in his room and the desire to instill neatness in him at any cost.
They break and build a living person to their liking, but then they reap the fruits of their bullying and ignorance, watching how their child’s life flies into tartarus, how the child does not achieve success where he should receive mountains of gold in the opinion of his parents, and are afraid to go there, where he had been drawn all his life, but where he was forbidden to even look.
It’s scary to see how your child dies, how his happiness, built on your wrong ideas, crumbles before your eyes.
It hurts to realize that your actions only led to him hating you and rushing to leave you at the first opportunity.
But only this understanding, the understanding that the nature of the child is unchangeable, and the task of the parents is to STUDY IT in order to know what the child needs and give him the support he needs. This is an area that is within the control of parents, but how many people move into this area? After all, it is more common to repeat with your child the scenario of your parents or the exact opposite of it, instead of finding knowledge on how to act with your child.
Such examples can be given endlessly, and they probably exist in our lives, because our parents did not have knowledge of how to be happy, we have to learn this from scratch ourselves from those people who devoted their lives to the development of the mind.
Now let's look at the other side of the coin - when we tolerate what we have the power to change, hoping that it will somehow change itself and thereby causing ourselves suffering.
A few examples.
You probably know cases when a woman lives with an alcoholic husband, gives birth to children from him and suffers humiliation and bullying from him, sometimes all her life, when a man and a woman save their family “for the sake of the child,” mocking not only each other, but also mentally presenting he is billed for his sacrifice, then demanding that he lay down his life on the altar of his parental desires.
Why do we tolerate something that needs to end long ago?
Why does a woman stay with her husband who raises his hand against her?
The answers are still the same - because it’s scary. Because here, in this horror, she is more familiar and calmer (no matter how terrible it sounds) than alone and with the children.
Because her self-esteem is so low that she does not consider herself worthy of happiness, because she does not believe that other relationships are possible for her, and therefore remains in those that destroy her.
In some cases, divorce is the best solution for the whole family, because this is the only way a man, woman and children get a chance at happiness - we must run away from communication that is destructive for us, because every day spent in it destroys our femininity.
Another situation is when a person works in a job he doesn’t like, convincing himself that it’s impossible to find a job he likes, that there’s a crisis right now, no one needs his specialty, and gradually losing meaning in life, especially for men. When we follow someone else's path, when we take someone else's place, even if we perform someone else's duties well, we lose the opportunity to be happy, because happiness awaits us only on our path. A great artist can be an average engineer, but then he will not create canvases that heal people, he will not fulfill his mission and he will not be happy.
We do all this because we have no knowledge about the world, about life, about the family, about the nature of men and women, about the nature of children. And we need to get serious about filling the gaps in our education.
How to distinguish between good and evil?
It is often difficult for us to admit that we were going the wrong way, to see that most of our life was spent chasing mirages, which deprived us of strength, but did not allow us to achieve what we wanted.
It's hard for us not to kill ourselves for what we've done with our lives.
We are very disappointed that we did not know much earlier.
And yet, if we want to take the road to happiness, we need to stop one day. And admit that we have been heading in the wrong direction for many years.
What to do if you discover that this is about you?
RECOGNIZE THE FACTS by telling yourself the truth about yourself and experiencing all the negative feelings associated with it.
It is very important to HONESTLY tell yourself everything that you think about yourself, preferably if you write it on paper, and write it until you feel that you no longer have the desire to kill yourself, or me, or God for it that happiness did not happen to you before, and that now you will have to work hard not only to turn in the right direction, but also to go there, overcoming difficulties.
It is important to experience all the feelings associated with the fact that you discovered a huge hole inside yourself, which was filled not with what was needed, and not when it was needed - anger - pain - fear - shame, only then can you feel that you are not everything is lost in your life, and continue the letter with words of gratitude and support.
“My dear girl, I understand you, it’s not easy for you now, and I am grateful to you that you tried, and that now you have the courage to change your life.
You could not live differently, because you had no knowledge, there was no example before your eyes, you had nothing to start living differently, and the fact that you lived, even in these conditions, is that you acted like she could do it, she already deserves respect!
I believe that you will succeed, that you will meet people who will help you on your new path to happiness.
I love you even so weak and helpless!”
FIND A NEW COMMUNICATION.
Our minds cannot develop in a vacuum. Our mind is not able to develop in an environment of unreasonable people. This is how man is made.
Therefore, it is so important to stop judging your close circle, expect enlightenment from them, and teach them to live if you don’t like it.
We need to turn around and go to where there is REASON, where there is WISDOM, where people already LIVE HAPPY!
You can't learn to play volleyball if no one shows you how to do it.
You can't grow a tomato unless you know what a tomato seed looks like.
You cannot come to happiness if you have not breathed its air, if you have not communicated with those who live in it, if you have not been infected with love from those who have a lot of it.
You need a person who will take you by the hand and lead you to where there is HAPPINESS, and you will follow him and believe him because you will see everything with your own eyes.
DO SPIRITUAL PRACTICE.
You know very well that we become and go where we think. If there are a lot of bright positive images in our head, we will be happy.
If we constantly scroll through problems in our heads, worry, fear, do not believe in ourselves and judge other people, our life will turn into a swamp.
Without controlling our thoughts, without directing them in a beneficial direction, we automatically fall into the second scenario.
This is why it is so important to give our mind a positive attitude. By tuning in to the good, thinking about it, we begin to adopt the best qualities and understand the world order.
LISTEN TO KNOWLEDGE from the lips of a realized person.
Our mind develops if we listen to the instructions of a person who has been realized in the area where we would like to be realized.
That is, if you want to start a family, you need to listen to knowledge from a person realized in the family, who has a husband (wife) and children, and from whom the energy of happiness and peace emanates.
If you want to create a business, you need to go to the one who created the business, and not to the one who knows everything about it in theory.
If you want to raise children, you need to seek knowledge from someone whose children have grown up, are happy, love their parents and have given birth to their own children.
We learn by IMITATING.
Therefore, happy parents naturally raise happy children.
Therefore, graduates of university teachers work outside of their specialty (because teachers are often not fulfilled in what they teach).
Therefore, you cannot teach another person anything if the knowledge you hear has not become your experience, because he has nothing to imitate, because he sees in front of him a person who wants to give something that he himself does not have, and this is always annoying.
Sound familiar?
When an unhappy mother teaches her daughter how to be happy and what is important in life, how often does her daughter listen to her?
When a wife teaches her husband what kind of husband he should be, instead of showing him what a wife should be and inspiring him with her example to change, how does she make her husband feel? Is it really mad enthusiasm to run and fulfill all your duties at once?
When parents focus all their attention on a child's education, not realizing that it does not make him happy and successful, as it did not make them, instead of helping him show his best qualities and finding mentors in what he is good at instead spending his life on everything that will never be useful, does the child begin to carry only A's from school?
Look for mentors, look for people who will give you a helping hand and give you knowledge about where happiness really lives.
For me, such people were Oleg Torsunov, Ruslan Narushevich, Marina Targakova, Rami Blekt, Valery Sinelnikov, Vladimir Megre.
You can find your mentors who will inspire you to follow the path of knowledge to Happiness.
I went through this path from the feeling of complete failure of my whole life, the feeling of my own insignificance, from the feeling of fruitlessly passing years, I went through bitterness and resentment towards my parents who did not give me this knowledge, I spent several years healing my soul from the scars that they left in me the efforts of others who want to work on me, I continue to acquire knowledge in order to further improve my life, and I know that I will never stop, because I already know the taste of happiness. To be a wife. Being a mom. To be a realized woman in society.
Therefore, I know that each of you is capable of walking this path. If he wants. If you are not afraid to look inside yourself and admit that you are going in the wrong direction.
It's not a crime to not know.
It's not a crime to not be able to.
It is not a crime to be in the first grade of the school of life if you are forty or sixty years old.
It’s a crime to not give yourself this chance at happiness!
Tatiana Plotnikova
Alternative view
The question of good and evil is one of the eternal problems that has tormented the minds of philosophers since ancient times. In fact, we are talking about the moral and ethical choice on the path of every conscious individual.
Through such division into categories, the process of understanding the world occurs. The result of cognition is Knowledge, which gives a person this opportunity to choose. More likely not even an opportunity, but a necessity. After all, whatever one may say, it is impossible to avoid choice. And even the decision to take no action is also a choice.
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Choice between good and evil
It is worth separating the concepts of ethical and moral choice. An ethical choice is a choice of conscience between good and evil. Moral choice is the transfer of one's choice to the public. Both of these categories are natural for life in society, which involves partial adjustment to one’s norms.
Conforming to morality or the voice of one's own conscience is a search for a person's soul on the path of life. And the concepts of good and evil in his mind are the guidelines along which he moves.
Good and evil are a choice between destruction and creation, between truth and lies. It seems that everything is clear: truth is good, and lies are evil. But, you must admit that everything becomes not so clear if we are talking about a destructive truth or a lie for the good. Which of this is positive and which is destructive can only be determined over time. The outcome will depend on the consequences and conclusions drawn.
Therefore, when choosing between lies and truth, we also take responsibility for the consequences of our choice. In the end, the only thing we gain is experience from which wisdom can be drawn. Receiving wisdom is the alchemical transformation of lead into gold, the achievement by consciousness of the highest level of evolution. Therefore, any experience is potentially positive as an opportunity to learn something for the development of one’s own essence.
The duality of the concepts of “good” and “evil”
In our heads, we divide the single world into pairs of dualities - black and white, good and evil, light and darkness. By dividing the whole into particulars, we willy-nilly form our personal attitude towards them. We begin to love white more than dark, light more than darkness. So we forget that light is darkness if it is not reflected from anything. And that a shadow is cast by everything from which light can be reflected.
By cognizing dualities, we cease to be objective, and therefore the question of good and evil is an eternal search for truth. Each view of the world is as unique as human life is unique. Therefore, an infinite number of definitions for the concepts of good and evil can be given.
Personification of “good” and “evil” in myths
The symbol of good and evil in the image of two opposite principles goes back to ancient times. In Zoroastrianism these are Ahura-Mazda and Angra-Mainyu, in the Slavs - Belobog and Chernobog, in the Egyptian tradition - Osiris and Set. Each of these pairs is a reflection of the unity and struggle of the opposites of active and passive, positive and negative, light and darkness, destroying and creating. The unity of opposites implies that there is no destruction without creation and it is impossible to create anything without destroying something.
Personification of good and evil. Osiris and Set, Ahura-Mazda and Angra Mainyu, Belobog and Chernobog.
About the Law of Karma
Good and evil are conditional and relative concepts. They exist only for those who do not see the cause of the phenomenon. Seeing the cause leads to an awareness of the pattern of what is happening. And instead of judgments about good and evil comes an understanding of their single essence.
Personality assessment is always subjective. And the objective reason for the events occurring lies in the Universal Law of Karma. The Law of Karma says that every event that happens to us is natural and is a consequence of the previous one. And the way we react to this event forms a new cause for events that have not yet occurred.
“Every cause has an effect, every effect has its cause.”
Hermetic principle.
Any event is natural, everything has its own reasons. Everything is because of something and everything is for something. Therefore, it is worth remembering that the most unpleasant events in our lives are nothing more than a lesson from the Universe, which we need right here and now.
What is evil?
Picture the picture. The mother, wishing her child a speedy recovery, forces him to drink bitter medicine. The child doesn’t like it, he cries and screams, tries to knock the bottle with the nasty mixture out of his mother’s hands. The child considers his mother’s action to be evil, but only because he does not understand what alternative can await him.
Good and evil can change places depending on which side you look at the problem from. It happens that the price of saving your life is missing a plane or getting fired from your job. How many situations do we not see that protect us from the worst?
What we consider a problem may well turn out to be salvation. And even an enemy can provide a good service in acquiring valuable experience, which one day in the future will protect you from a wrong step.
"Who are you? “Part of that power that does good without number, desiring evil for everyone.”
Goethe "Faust".
Author: Elena Zakharchenko
