You will never be there again. My whole life stopped for a moment. Where did trouble suddenly come to me Such that I said goodbye to you. She pushed the air slowly with her hand, You are not here.
She walked along the wall quietly to the corner, leaned her back, and began to sob. You will never be there again.
The soul shrinks into a ball, He was given a short term.. And he couldn’t do much, Although he wanted to continue living, he could have lived, But alas, the time is over and life can be too short..
- You are far out of the communication zone And inaccessible to me so sorry, How I want to hear your voice And tell my sadness, Talk about what happened, About what I will dream about.
From a distance I appreciated how you can understand me. You are my elder brother, my support, my closest friend. The fact is that I know we will meet soon, When we arrive at our father’s house.
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You can come in at least at night and talk to me in your sleep. I will be here, you will be there We are leaving, the door reluctantly closed, And he remained lying there forever, Our heart is compressed from terrible pain. In this moment, no words are needed.
- Those who are dear and loved suddenly, irrevocably, hopelessly leave. How difficult it is for a human heart to experience and realize. (almost impossible.)
When, it seemed, Youth was in full bloom, And there were still so many paths ahead, But the bright light burned out at sunset, And only one road was “open” to them
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The white snow of past years and days gone by will hide the burden without a trace, The run of a short life is completed.
That summer day when you were gone, I picked up the phone as usual, Oh God, if only I knew, That the world is now gone forever.
There is fog in the eyes, bewilderment in the soul, fear in the heart to believe and understand. Where is the exit? Where? I don’t even see the door, the Wall. and angle. and the wall again.
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I saw my dad in the mirror, accidentally seeing him. I saw it and almost cried, not understanding why.
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From the twilight of the corridor, suddenly dad smiled at me. As if he was at home, as before, and not in the blue sky.
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- Just a glance, but like an arrow, Sadness pierced my dreams. We have been separated from that spring for ten years by a wall.
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Then I realized that in the reflection I was. Similar to him. One short moment, And how many things were remembered!
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Our parents bought us tickets. We wanted popcorn, we begged for Coke. Completely ordinary spectators of a completely ordinary weekend day.
We arrived early for the session. The adults seated us in our seats. We thought this was wrong! It seemed to them that it was so.
We heard the doors grinding, and then the commercials started. We looked with open mouths at the cartoon superdramas.
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I already had plans in my head about which cartoon to go to first. You just need to ask your mother, After all, we don’t know how to pay yet.
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Someone quickly ran to the door in the dark. We looked at it with hope. Maybe there really was a fire somewhere? The grinding noise was heard again nearby.
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Suddenly the projector went out and the screen turned off. We all screamed out of fear at once. They tried to open the door, but it was locked. This happens a lot in horror films.
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It became difficult to breathe, we put our palms to our mouth. The eyes burn, but closing them is worse. Will no one hear us here? We cry and bang on doors loudly!
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Glares of red, yellow, choking smoke And debris that falls from the roof. They say it's hard to die young, But it's worse when they don't hear.
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It became hot, everyone was crying, there was flames all around, Someone was shouting and swearing loudly. We kept waiting for them to come and save us, But no one rushed to us through the flames.
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We tried to run, but not everyone could get up. Half of them went up in smoke. We wanted to crawl, but the fire was on the way. We will not come out of captivity alive.
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Mom, dad, I'm sorry that you behaved badly, That you brought twos and threes home, That you didn't obey or could offend, That you didn't do your homework often.
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Whatever happens, you need to remember that we fought for freedom to the end. In the morning the wind will scatter both the ashes and the smoke, He will definitely send us to heaven.
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Don’t be sad, don’t cry and make sure that we don’t die in vain, so that our uncles fix every little thing, so that it’s safe everywhere.
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Early in the morning the birds will take us with them and sing to you about us at dawn. We will always be with you and in your hearts. Your forever beloved Children.
Poems for deceased loved ones, friend, son, father
We will all miss it so much, But this is life, where can we go? Now read and read.
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Tell me, where did you go early? Tell me, what happened? Yes, there was time, suddenly it’s gone. It’s like you’re sleeping, and now you’ll wake up! But this is what insidious fate planned:
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Know that everything is destined for us by fate! No one knows the path forward in life.
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She walked along the wall quietly to the corner, leaned her back, and began to sob. You will never be there again.
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Well, for now I don’t see you, And I have to wait, no matter how I look at it, As soon as I hear on the phone:
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You can come in at least at night and talk to me in your sleep. I will be here, you will be there We are leaving, the door reluctantly closed, And he remained lying there forever, Our heart is compressed from terrible pain. In this moment, no words are needed.
Why you can’t have lavish feasts
The Orthodox Church does not approve of the desire to organize lavish feasts on such a day. The person is no longer in this world, and a traditional feast, as for a living person, would not be appropriate in this case. The soul leaves the body after death and is no longer connected with anything earthly. And therefore, on his birthday, a modest lunch is allowed, which is also prepared for the wake. The menu must include kutia, and if the date falls during Lent, the dishes must be made from plant products.
It is also not recommended to drink alcoholic beverages or make toasts on this day. The funeral dinner should be held quietly, calmly, with peaceful conversations about the deceased. After lunch, you can distribute sweets and cookies to everyone who came. Women are also supposed to be given headscarves and men handkerchiefs or towels.
In memory of a deceased brother
Memory in the past has become lost. Father's house and me, silly. The door opened quietly: “Well, run to me, baby!”
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In an instant I’m flying to the ceiling, Laughter rings like a bell. My brother took my dad's hammer and repaired an old trailer.
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Mom is busy at the stove, her eyes glow with happiness. He suddenly bursts into merrily laughter - Dad told me something!
I remember all the decent people went to the cleanup in a crowd Spring April master of difficult days There was a lazy person and there was a worker
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I remember the happiness in people's souls. Pensioners and pioneers. The former pigs did not crawl in the mud. The minds of engineers were slaves.
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I remembered the slogan for ordinary people: Unite, brothers and sisters. Let us drive the devils away from our homeland. Our dear Stars will help us!
Examples of mourning poems for happy birthday
If you are unwilling or lack talent, you can use ready-made texts from the Internet. Works can be changed to suit yourself, paraphrased. You can read a happy birthday poem to a deceased mother from children or from other relatives. Poems for close relatives will be similar: brother, sister, father, child.
Memorial poems for the birthday of a deceased friend differ from friends in their love of life and often contain personal information.
Happy birthday memorial poems for a deceased friend from friends and loved ones combine grief and the desire to live. No one forgets a loved one and is forever in mourning.
Poems - Brother against brother.
Tears for tears - Peace to the murdered. Who sent them to the kingdom of the forgotten?
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Were you silent? Do you care about everything? Grief was called - And the crows came to you.
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If it's not too late, save the world! The Angels of Death are flying towards you.
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We didn’t call you, we didn’t raise the Sword. Why did you come in a vile pack?
The memory is disturbing again, Sending me pictures of the past. The memory prevents me from sleeping, stabs me with shame again.
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Shame and repentance, torment of conscience, I did a lot of wrong things in my life. I often did stupid things out of boredom, I lived like everyone else, I went with the flow.
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I never set goals for myself, I lived just like that, neither good nor evil. I left an uneven trail behind me, I left a lot of things for later.
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Memory, having now recalled those deeds, My heart stings with shame for my lies. I will quietly close the door to the past, Let the past pass.
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Brother in mind, your planet is somewhere far away in the Universe. But you warmed my soul with light, When it was not easy for me here.
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A light invisible to the eye, but with my soul, I was able to see the hour of trials. And he saved her, warming her with himself, And I found my way among the roads.
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Through the deserted streets at night, the wind wanders, quietly howling. Together with him, we don’t sleep all night, Walking among the houses in the silence of the night.
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Like me, he is a naive romantic, Just like me, he is impetuous and open. We will listen to the stars again with him, While the city is noisy.
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Those who are dear and loved suddenly, irrevocably, hopelessly leave. How difficult it is for a human heart to experience and realize. (almost impossible.)
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When, it seemed, Youth was in full bloom, And there were still so many paths ahead, But the bright light burned out at sunset, And only one road was “open” to them
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The white snow of past years and days gone by will hide the burden without a trace, The run of a short life is completed.
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I saw my dad in the mirror, accidentally seeing him. I saw it and almost cried, not understanding why.
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From the twilight of the corridor, suddenly dad smiled at me. As if he was at home, as before, and not in the blue sky.
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Just a glance, but like an arrow, Sadness pierced my dreams. We have been separated from that spring for ten years by a wall.
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Then I realized that in the reflection I was. Similar to him. One short moment, And how many things were remembered!
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Our parents bought us tickets. We wanted popcorn, we begged for Coke. Completely ordinary spectators of a completely ordinary weekend day.
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We arrived early for the session. The adults seated us in our seats. We thought this was wrong! It seemed to them that it was so.
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We heard the doors grinding, and then the commercials started. We looked with open mouths at the cartoon superdramas.
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I already had plans in my head about which cartoon to go to first. You just need to ask your mother, After all, we don’t know how to pay yet.
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Suddenly the projector went out and the screen turned off. We all screamed out of fear at once. They tried to open the door, but it was locked. This happens a lot in horror films.
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Glares of red, yellow, choking smoke And debris that falls from the roof. They say it's hard to die young, But it's worse when they don't hear.
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We tried to run, but not everyone could get up. Half of them went up in smoke. We wanted to crawl, but the fire was on the way. We will not come out of captivity alive.
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Mom, dad, I'm sorry that you behaved badly, That you brought twos and threes home, That you didn't obey or could offend, That you didn't do your homework often.
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Whatever happens, you need to remember that we fought for freedom to the end. In the morning the wind will scatter both the ashes and the smoke, He will definitely send us to heaven.
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Don’t be sad, don’t cry and make sure that we don’t die in vain, so that our uncles fix every little thing, so that it’s safe everywhere.
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Early in the morning the birds will take us with them and sing to you about us at dawn. We will always be with you and in your hearts. Your forever beloved Children.
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How to Use Poems Appropriately
When using essays dedicated to the memorable birthday of a deceased person, it is necessary to realize that a literary essay is not always appropriate.
Reading poems at a memorial service in a church or cemetery is unnatural; such behavior will show disrespect for the ritual.
Worth reading:
- Happy birthday poems for the deceased are read by one of the close relatives. For parents, children or spouses, such expression of feelings is permissible without a doubt.
- The deceased was a poet or had a favorable attitude towards poetry. Literary evenings dedicated to the anniversary of the deceased poet involve reading works.
- Poems are published through the use of media. Publications on the Internet, SMS messages, social network posts, emails - allow the content of such text with a reference to condolences to relatives.
- Poems are read in the house of a deceased woman or man among close people. The desire to read poetry with relatives should be discussed in advance. If one of your relatives is against reading poetry, expressing your feelings in this way is rude and disrespectful.
- The poet dedicates the work to a deceased friend for his earthly birthday. This author's idea is justified by the person's professional activity. Naturally, the reading of poetry should be discussed with close relatives of the deceased.
Inappropriate reading of rhymes, even if they are dedicated to the birthday of the deceased, looks false, feigned, and theatrical. It is much more appropriate to express what is painful from the bottom of your heart in simple “human” words. Poems are a beautiful literary genre, but they are quite specific in their application.
How to remember children in prayer?
One of the most terrible trials of all that befalls a person is the death of children. Not everyone can survive something like this without falling into despair, without losing faith in God’s providence and maintaining warmth in their soul. And even for deeply religious people, little consolation is the thought that their child is in a better world than the earthly one.
Funeral prayer is needed in such situations. It helps a person remember the deceased not with tears and despair, but with a smile. Of course, this requires not only funeral prayers, but also time.
Example text:
“Lord God, All-Merciful and Almighty! Comfort the broken heart of your servant (proper name). Leave no room in him for sorrows and despondency, let him be filled with joy for my child (name of the deceased), who resides in your womb. As you called to yourself, do not abandon the innocent soul with your mercy. Do not let the soul of my child (name of the deceased) know unearthly sorrows, do not reject him from your Kingdom, rest in peace, Lord. Amen"
Widow of midshipman Sergei Gryaznykh: “After the death of my husband, I do not celebrate my birthday”
The son of Sergei Gryaznykh is now ten years old. When his father died, Vadik was only six months old.
Every summer the boy goes to his grandparents in Severodvinsk, Valentina Anatolyevna and Vladimir Maksimovich also often visit their daughter-in-law in St. Petersburg.
“I went to Severodvinsk to give birth, where my husband’s parents lived. Seryozha left with me, he was on vacation then,” Elena recalls.
It was a leap year, and everyone was worried that the baby would be born on the 29th, but the boy was born on the 28th. And Sergei was then given another three months of leave, and only at the end of May did he set sail.
By the way, in the Northern capital, Seryozha Dudko studied only at the Popov Naval School. He graduated from school in Vedyaevo.
Is it necessary to pray for the deceased at home?
As a rule, people order a prayer service in the temple on such a date. However, not everyone has such an opportunity. Not everyone can just come to church. In such situations, you should not despair or neglect turning to the Lord. Home prayer helps in remembering the deceased on his birthday without coming to church.
Any words in such prayer are acceptable. It is important not to forget to thank God for every day spent with the deceased, during his lifetime, of course, and to ask for mercy for the soul of the deceased.
Example text:
“Lord Almighty, All-merciful and All-seeing. We all abide in your will, we come from you and return to you. Thank you, Lord, for your mercy towards the servant (name of the deceased) during his life. I pray for mercy and forgiveness for his soul. I pray that you will be allowed into your Kingdom and not let me perish in Gehenna. Amen"
Prayer for a deceased person on his birthday
A prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased is a continuation of our invisible connection. Orthodox Christians believe that the Merciful Lord will grant forgiveness to their souls through prayer.
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For You are the God of mercies and generosity and love for mankind, You are the peace and joy of Your faithful servants, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen.
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Read from the day of death 40 days and before the anniversary 40 days before the day of death daily.
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Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.
Few of the deceased were honored before death with confession and Holy Communion, many die unexpectedly, and some suffer a violent death.
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For the sake of the good memory of the deceased, relatives and close people are obliged to perform the feat of prayer:
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Commemoration on the 3rd day after death is performed in memory of the Resurrection of Christ. The soul is present on earth for 2 days. She is constantly accompanied by an angel. She visits places dear to her during her life, “visits” her favorite people.
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Important! On the 3rd day the soul ascends to worship the Creator. It is on this day that prayers for her repose and forgiveness of sins are a particularly timely event.
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- On day 9, the Almighty again commands the soul to appear to Him. A memorial service on this day is held in memory of the nine angelic ranks. It is they who intercede for salvation and mercy for the newly deceased.
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Important! An equally effective way to commemorate the dead is to offer the Bloodless Sacrifice for them during the Divine Liturgy.
Funeral speech - sample
First you need to say your name. Not everyone present at a funeral or wake knows you. It should be remembered that long, vague, expansive phrases are suitable for political debates, but not for funeral speeches. You should speak briefly and to the point. So, examples of speech at a wake:
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“I’ll introduce myself for those who don’t know me: my name is (name). We have worked together with (name of deceased) for the past few years and I would like to say a few words in memory of him.
He was a true professional in his field, a Specialist with a capital S. Many of our colleagues, young and not only, learned the basics of their craft from him and often used his advice and help. He was very patient and responsive, he could always listen to everyone who turned to him for support, advise something, help out, and never refused anyone’s requests. He could perfectly lift the spirits of anyone who was upset, confused or depressed about something. The countless funny stories, toasts, jokes and anecdotes he told could amuse anyone. We will all greatly miss him at our dinner gatherings and corporate events, where he invariably shone at the table, lifting our morale. There is no other person like him in our team. And maybe in my memory it will no longer be
We will all miss him greatly. Until the end of his life, he will remain in my memory and the memory of all our colleagues as an example of perseverance, sparkling cheerfulness, activity and professionalism!
Rest in peace, dear colleague!”
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“My grandmother was a wonderful person with a difficult but interesting life. She, along with her three younger brothers and sister, were raised by her mother alone during the difficult post-war years. To say that they lived poorly then would be an understatement. She had to endure many difficulties and hardships, but she never lost her optimism and presence of mind, constantly helping her mother and taking care of the younger members of the family. And later, having married her military grandfather, she steadfastly endured all the hardships of service. In any circumstances, she always maintained exemplary order at home and taught all family members to do so. Grandma was sometimes strict, but fair. I am glad that I managed to learn from her neatness and order, the ability to organize my life. And her famous apple pies were simply incomparable, no one else could do them!
I will always remember you, my dear, beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care will remain with us forever.”
What to do at the burial site?
If, when you come to the grave on a special date, you shouldn’t do any household chores, then what should you do? How to remember the deceased on his birthday? Just stand next to the tombstone? Such questions usually arise among fussy people who are accustomed to the fact that at every minute of their lives they have some kind of activity that brings benefits.
The rules of behavior in a cemetery when commemorating a person who has passed into the world on the date of his birth prohibit fuss and troubles, doing things that can be done on another day. This time it would be appropriate:
- place flowers, both artificial and real;
- put and light a candle or a small lamp;
- leave at the gravestone any object that would please the deceased.
As for leaving objects, this is a very ancient tradition present in every human culture. It is likely that this method of remembering the deceased on his birthday is much older than Christianity and its customs.
How to remember spouses in prayer?
In the modern world, the question of whether the deceased are remembered on their birthday by the remaining spouses in this world if they were divorced from the deceased is quite relevant. The clergy do not have a common opinion on this issue. From the point of view of the church, divorce is nonsense, an out of the ordinary event and is allowed only if there are objective reasons. For example, the physiological failure of one of the spouses. But worldly registration of relationships and marriage is not in principle. That is, for a priest, an unmarried couple is not husband and wife. On the other hand, the Orthodox clergy in our country does not show particular rigidity in matters of marriage due to the fact that the people have endured decades of unbelief.
Commemoration of a former spouse is not forbidden, just like any other person. However, you need to pray for him simply, without focusing on intimacy. That is, plain text is enough.
A completely different attitude is required when praying for a deceased spouse, with whom the whole life was divided in half, with its joys and sorrows. Many people have a question about whether they can remember the deceased on their birthday with prayer on their own, without ordering anything. Of course, the church approves of such a commemoration.
Example text:
“Lord Almighty! We abide in your will, Lord. Through it we come to the earthly world. According to your will, we bear trials until you call us to you. Without grumbling, but with sadness in my heart, I turn to you, Lord. I pray you give me (proper name) strength to bear the loss. And rejoice for my husband (name of the deceased), who abides in your Kingdom. I pray you do not leave his soul, do not let him know your anger and allow him to enter heaven. I pray to give peace to his soul and fill my heart with gratitude. Amen"
