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After the article was published What does the Bible say about marrying a woman who is taller than a man? I received this question. I would like to advise all readers of this portal to study the inductive Bible study course “Marriage without Regrets”, which covers the main topics regarding marriage, among them there is a separate lesson devoted to the role of a woman as a wife, mother, housewife and her other roles. In this article, I want to briefly introduce the role of a woman as a wife.
Helper Matching Her Husband
After God gives a general account of the six days of creation in Genesis 1, God describes in more detail the creation of man and woman in Genesis 2. God created man from the dust of the ground, placed him in the Garden of Eden, and gave him the responsibility to work and protect that garden.
And the Lord God said: It is not good for man to be alone; Let us create for him a helper suitable for him. (Genesis 2:18)
Before woman was created, before she received her name from her husband, God established for her a primary role - “a helpmate suitable for her husband.” What does corresponding assistant mean? She is the one who actively participates in everything her husband does, she is equally interested and passionate about the same goal. Therefore, it is very important for those who get married to ask themselves whether they set themselves one goal in life, so as not to become so independent that one day they even become strangers. A woman who wants to play the role of a wife should be interested in her husband's activities, his goals and support his efforts, help and advise in the implementation of these goals.
What to do if the wife cannot combine all this?
This lifestyle is too difficult for most modern women. After all, many wives build careers and make a great contribution to providing for the family. Therefore, combining a career with fulfilling the Holy Scriptures can cause a lot of stress for a woman.
In such situations, religious representatives recommend that the woman prayerfully change the order of her priorities and begin to follow the role prescribed by the Bible.
It is worth noting that every person has the right to choose for himself what to believe and how to build his family. The main thing is that all family members are happy and know how to find compromises in everything.
Actively responds to her husband’s good initiatives
After God created woman and brought her to man, after man greeted the woman with great joy and gave her his own name, showing that they were one, identical, God said:
Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and they will be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
The main point of this verse is that God has placed the responsibility on the husband to initiate a physical relationship and on the wife to respond and support her husband's endeavors to always maintain a wonderful and romantic relationship. This verse also shows another important principle - a woman knows how to respond correctly to her husband's good undertakings, thus encouraging him to do good deeds and appreciating him for what he has already done or is about to do.
Our family
When it came to the Wilson family, my wife and I made an agreement that we would discuss big decisions as a couple—all with the hope that we were truly seeking what was best for our family in the eyes of God. Your family may do things differently and that's okay. The point is for you to come to a decision together as a married couple.
My wife has entrusted me with leadership in our family, but this does not mean that I am an all-powerful dictator. In fact, just the opposite. I never make decisions without her. I value my wife's opinion and her voice as much as I value my own. It is an honor to lead our home together, and the reality is that it would not be possible without the wisdom and support of my wife.
She's a champion. We do this together and that's the way it should be.
Open with my husband
The next verse from Genesis says:
And they were both naked, Adam and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:25)
This passage includes much more than just being undressed or without clothes. This involves being open to each other, or in other words, being open enough to say to your marriage partner the things you say to yourself without expecting to be blamed or ridiculed. It is the responsibility of both the wife and husband to respect and value the personality of the other.
To be the head of the wife
I noticed one day during a marriage how a man, having heard this truth, nudged his wife and said: “Do you hear? Think carefully about what the priest is saying!” And when I taught the course “Marriage without Regrets,” I saw many times how women who did not know the Word of God before were not grateful when they came to this topic. But this is the order established by God:
I also want you to know that the head of every husband is Christ, the head of every wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
Christ, being our Head, takes care of us, protects and sacrifices Himself for us. In the same way, every man is required to be the head of his wife, and not just the one who gives orders and authoritatively imposes his will. May God help every husband to behave with his wife the way Jesus Christ behaves with us.
Obeys her husband
The Word of God says:
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church, and He is the Savior of the body. But just as the Church submits to Christ, so do wives to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24)
The corrupt spirit of modern times makes some women feel humiliated when they read these Bible verses and see themselves as less important before God. Is not it? The fact that you are called to show submission does not mean that you are of lesser value before God, but it is a need so that you can live in harmony, reflecting the character of God and to fulfill the calling He has placed on our marriage, namely – reflect the relationship between Christ and His Church. At the end of this chapter, God said through the Apostle Paul:
So let each of you love his wife as himself; and let the wife be afraid of her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)
When it is said "afraid", it does not mean afraid for fear of being punished, but to have the right attitude of respect, that is, afraid of offending your husband and spoiling a good relationship.
Cling to your wife
The original concept of this commandment concerns intimate relationships, which must be initiated by a man. Let no one think that it is sinful or wrong for a wife to take the initiative in intimate relationships. Only every man should know that God wants him to take the initiative, both in relation to creation with his family and in other aspects of life. When difficult situations arise in the family, a man is expected to be the one who seeks a solution, who takes the right attitude and acts in resolving this difficult situation.
Loves her husband with tenderness
When the Apostle Paul instructed Titus on how to teach people in the Church of Crete, he said:
So that the old women also dress decently for the saints, are not slanderers, are not enslaved to drunkenness, and teach goodness; so that they admonish young people to love their husbands, to love children, to be chaste, pure, caring for the home, kind, submissive to their husbands, so that the word of God is not reproached. (Titus 2:3-5)
The word translated here as “to love our husbands” is the Greek philandros, meaning to love with tenderness. There is also something important - the husband is put before the children here. A wise wife will always love her husband with tenderness - even when the children are still small, or when there are many of them. She will not neglect her husband under the pretext that she has a lot to worry about. And then, children are completely safe and satisfied when they see the tender and loving relationship of their parents.
If you are married, do not accept the teachings of those who say that you must be equal to your husband in everything. This is not equality but usurpation and in the end it will make you unhappy and bring pain and sorrow to your husband and other people. If you want to experience the true joy of being a wife, choose to live your marriage according to the role for which God created you.
Translation: Moses Natalya
What should a girl, a woman be like according to the Bible?
Lately, many people have been focusing on how a girl or woman should look, how she should dress, talk, behave, and very often we sometimes put emphasis on appearance, without noticing the inner beauty.
Today I would like to raise the following questions: What should a girl and a woman be like according to the Bible? Should we focus our attention only on external beauty? What does God say about this? Is the inner beauty of every girl and woman valued in our world?
And so, as I have already said, many people focus their attention on external beauty, I would like to focus on internal beauty.
I will name those qualities that determine the inner beauty of every girl and woman:
1. Fear the Lord - that is, every girl, woman should have the fear of God, that is, if she has the fear of the Lord, she will hate evil, will not be proud, will not be arrogant, and deceit will not come out of her mouth. (Prov. 31:10-30)
2. Chaste - that is, she preserves herself until marriage and in marriage, be faithful to her husband. That is, every girl who has not yet gotten married must keep herself pure and pure, and a woman who already has a husband must not cheat on him, but lead her life purely and immaculately. (Titus 2:3-5)
3. Honest - that is, every girl, woman should be honest, first of all, with herself, this is very valuable. I would also include integrity and loyalty, oddly enough, but in our time unmarried girls must be principled, that is, be able to say “yes” and “no” when necessary, and it is very important to be faithful in everything, as before marriage , so in marriage. (1 Tim. 2:11)
4. Not a slanderer - that is, do not tell lies that discredit the honor and dignity of other people. Be honest and tell the truth. (1 Tim. 2:11)
5. Reasonable - that is, approach any situation with wisdom. ( Prov. 19:14)
6. Hardworking - that is, one who does not waste her time, but is ready to give her time and energy to something useful that will benefit her and those around her. (Prov. 11:16)
7. Respect and obedience to God, parents, husband - that is, every girl and woman should have respect for their parents, no matter how old they are, and most importantly, they should have respect for God. For example, when a girl has a husband, she must also honor and obey him, that is, show due favor, remembering that the Lord stands over her husband. A great example for us is Sarah, who was submissive and obedient to her husband (Abraham), she even called him lord. (Eph. 5:22, Col. 3:18, 1 Cor. 7:3, 1 Tim. 2:11-15, 1 Pet. 3:6)
8. Be able to remain silent - many girls and women like to talk a lot and sometimes this leads to bad things. That's why sometimes you just need to be silent, knowing when to speak and when to keep your mouth shut. (1 Cor. 14:34-35, 1 Pet. 3:3-6)
There are many other qualities, but I focused my attention on the most common ones.
The Bible says:
Let your adornment be not the external braiding of your hair, not gold jewelry or finery in clothing, but the innermost person of the heart in the imperishable beauty of a meek and silent spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. (1 Pet. 3:3-4)
We should not only think about how to decorate ourselves externally, we must not forget to decorate ourselves internally, because internal beauty is valued much more than external beauty. We must not forget that by decorating ourselves internally, God greatly appreciates this.
In our world, no matter how it is, the most valuable thing is inner beauty. Time passes and our external beauty deteriorates, but what is inside remains forever and has no price.
I think that this article will be useful not only for believing girls and women, but also for non-believers.
We very often focus our attention on appearance, and this very often happens in churches, forgetting that the Lord teaches us to dress internally, we rush to judge someone for their clothes, not paying attention to what our actions are, what our heart is, and How are we even dressed internally?!
Therefore, in conclusion, I will say, decorate yourself with what cannot be worn out in a year, that cannot become small or tear, decorate yourself with what remains eternal!
Honoring your wife
It is very difficult for some men to understand why women expect to be treated with respect, such as shaking hands before getting off the bus or on the stairs. But God teaches us to do this:
Likewise, you, husbands, treat your wives prudently, as with the weakest vessel, showing them honor, as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that there is no hindrance in your prayers. (1 Peter 3:7)
May God help all husbands to fulfill the role given by God and thus present to the world the character of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Translation: Moses Natalya
