Today it is difficult to surprise someone with the words “drinking child.” Groups of young people with cans of beer and cigarettes in their hands on the street are a familiar sight for many, which almost everyone passes by indifferently. No one is bothered by drunken teenagers from other people's families until the problem affects them personally. And only then the question of how to save your son from drunkenness becomes relevant. Many parents find themselves helpless in the face of this fact and do not know how to help their child get rid of addiction.
How parents encourage drunkenness
Sometimes, having the best intentions, parents do things that actually aggravate the situation: they pay back debts and loans, help get them out of the police, cover them up if something happens, solve problems with school, university, or work. And at the same time, they are firmly convinced that they are saving their own son. Such actions must be regarded as criminal connivance, since they actually only help an adult to drink alcohol, without caring about the consequences.
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Advice for loving mothers:
- Stop fighting to save your son, stop lecturing about the dangers of alcohol and your emotions about this, and press for pity.
- Stop proving your love to him, believing that for your sake he will stop drinking. You shouldn’t resort to the other extreme: threatening, kicking you out of the house.
- Try to understand what exactly could have been the impetus for the onset of drunkenness, but do not try to find the culprits.
- Accept the situation as it is and don't try to fight. Remember that struggle gives rise to opposition, which means you can only look for ways to resolve it.
- Offer your son the help of a specialist and support him with all your might during the treatment period.
- An alcoholic cannot understand the harmfulness of his addiction until he himself is faced with its consequences, so stop indulging him.
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Causes and signs of alcoholism
As strange as it may sound, the most common reason why a teenager starts drinking alcohol is overprotection from parents. The goal is to prove to friends that he is already an adult and decides for himself whether or not he can drink, or to resist parental pressure.
An additional factor may be the lack of life goals and interests, and the desire for perfection. The primitive pleasure of intoxication replaces the joy of creative achievement.
Another explanation is weakness of will, when people appear around him who set a bad example and have a bad influence on him. Fear of ridicule from drinking peers forces him to do stupid things. Sometimes a young man is led to drink alcohol by failures and disappointments, stressful situations from which he wants to escape and he simply does not see any other way.
It is not difficult to recognize alcoholism; first of all, the following signs should alert you:
- changes in my son's mood;
- manifestations of rudeness;
- late returns home without explanation;
- interest only in those events where you can drink;
- disappearance of money, valuable items, deception and theft;
- hangover symptoms: headache, vomiting, joint pain.
All this may indicate the initial stage of alcoholism.
When does a person become an alcoholic?
Alcoholism is a chronic disease in which changes occur at the mental and physical health levels. It is with mental bondage that this state begins. There is an obsessive desire to drink all the time. The result is a feeling of satisfaction. A person constantly thinks about a new portion. If you can’t drink, then a change in behavior manifests itself, the mood becomes dejected and irritated.
An interesting fact: taking another portion contributes not so much to the feeling of pleasure, but to the elimination of dissatisfaction. Over time, alcohol is the only and main source of mental well-being. Without it, the colors of life fade, the world becomes uninteresting, problems cannot be solved.
Mental dependence pushes a person to drink strong drinks with constant regularity. At the same time, tolerance develops. This means that pleasure can be obtained from an increased dose. If earlier the buzz came from one glass, then later even a bottle may not be enough.
In parallel with this, physical dependence is formed. It is expressed in the formation of a complex of vegetative reactions that manifest themselves if the intake of a “favorite” drink or dose reduction is sharply limited or absent. At the same time, a person feels:
- nausea;
- increased sweating;
- irritability;
- body aches.
This condition requires constant consumption of alcohol. As the concentration of alcohol in the blood plasma decreases, painful symptoms develop that prompt you to look for a new portion. At the last stage, binge drinking is complicated by delirium, psychosis, and somatic diseases. Over time, personality degradation and dementia appear.
How to help your son stop drinking
What actions should parents take after discovering that their growing child is addicted to alcohol if they want to save their son from alcoholism?
The first thing you need to do is seek help from specialists. It is very difficult to find an approach to an addict, because he is in a phase of complete denial of his problem. And only specialists can help in this case! Get a free consultation with a psychotherapist 8 (800) 200-36-88
- Ask a person who has influence over the boy for help. Perhaps he will somehow be able to convince him of the need to stop drinking and go to a meeting with a doctor.
- Give your son independence in everyday matters and stop patronizing him.
- It is necessary to bring to the consciousness of the teenager that in a state of intoxication he causes harm not only to others, but also to his own health: he destroys the liver, heart, brain, and undermines the immune system. He must understand that alcoholics have a sad future - without family and work.
What not to waste time on
According to statistics, coding and other similar techniques using hypnosis techniques help the minimal percentage of alcoholics who are motivated in their recovery. Almost 90% of those who have tried coding persist for some period, after which they break down and go on a binge with even greater vigor.
Also, do not fall into despair and resort to the services of charlatans - magicians and sorcerers who promise to cure alcoholism forever with the help of rituals and conspiracies. As a rule, these are good experts in parental psychology, whose motive is the thirst for profit.
It is forbidden to carry out treatment with medications for alcoholism on the advice of friends without prior approval from a doctor. All of them have serious contraindications, and therefore illiterate use can lead to negative consequences.
If you understand that you are no longer able to cope on your own, you are tired and do not know how to deal with your son’s drunkenness, listen to good advice - seek professional help from a narcologist. After the examination, the doctor will prescribe special medications that reduce cravings for alcoholic beverages and develop aversion to them. Restorative therapy, carried out simultaneously with treatment, will help heal the affected internal organs: liver, kidneys, cardiovascular system, respiratory tract and gastrointestinal tract.
Content:
- Why does a person not want to stop drinking?
- What to avoid: 2.1. What are the risks of forced treatment?
- Motivational intervention: 3.1. Emergency intervention. 3.2. Systemic intervention.
Alcohol addicts are only in extremely rare cases able to critically evaluate what is happening and independently contact a specialized specialist. Much more often, they do not believe at all that they have problems with their health, psyche and self-control. They do not want to be treated or live soberly. According to the norms of modern legislation, compulsory therapy is possible only by decision either of a court, if the alcoholic has committed a serious offense, or of a medical commission that has declared the patient incompetent due to a severe mental disorder. And often relatives simply do not know how to help a person cope with drunkenness. The addict is left without medical care, which leads to early disability and death.
Treatment of alcoholism
Alcoholism is a chronic disease and if it is not treated as it should be, it only progresses over time. In some countries, it is equated in severity to cancer, since it is also difficult to cure and also systematically destroys the body from the inside.
It is necessary to take a responsible approach to choosing a clinic - it must be a medical institution with good reviews and competent doctors.
In our center for modern addiction treatment, alcohol addiction treatment is carried out in a comprehensive manner. A team of narcologists, psychologists and psychotherapists, and specialists in other related fields with personal experience in dealing with alcohol addiction have developed their own program that covers this problem from all sides. It is based on a technique that has already helped 100,000 addicts get rid of alcoholism and start a new sober life.
The program consists of 3 important steps:
- detoxification;
- rehabilitation program;
- social adaptation.
Detoxification
The stage of cleansing the body of toxins is carried out through medication in a hospital setting and can last from 3 to 5 days. The purpose of detoxification is to restore the impaired functions of internal organs.
In a specialized center, this process takes place under the close supervision of doctors, thanks to which patients endure the symptoms of withdrawal syndrome much easier and faster than at home. Under the influence of the drugs, the patient gradually recovers from the state of alcohol intoxication. When the patient’s well-being improves, you can move on to the next stage – rehabilitation.
Rehabilitation
An important period, the success of which determines the duration of subsequent remission. The time spent in the center also matters - according to statistics, those patients who recovered for 6 months or more remain clean in almost 90% of cases.
Today, our center practices an integrative rehabilitation model that combines the best elements of the most effective programs: “12 Steps”, “Deytop” and “Therapeutic Community”.
Psychologists and people who have managed to overcome alcoholism work with alcoholics, helping to understand the addiction and change the patient’s thinking. Basically, psychocorrection is aimed at acquiring new healthy habits and hobbies, restoring the spiritual and moral side of a person’s personality.
Social adaptation
Often the patient, returning from the center after rehabilitation, experiences fear of returning to society. The work of doctors at this stage allows us to cope with this fear. In addition, during this period, visits to an Alcoholics Anonymous group are recommended, where former addicts who have managed to return to a sober lifestyle are present and information is exchanged.
It’s good if the son realizes his problem and voluntarily agrees to treatment. But what to do if persuasion does not help, but on the contrary, causes furious protest. There is such a thing as alcoholic intervention, which has nothing to do with compulsory treatment. This is a process that helps motivate you to complete a rehabilitation program. It usually takes place in the form of a conversation with a trained specialist at the initiative of relatives. As a result of the conversation, the person may suddenly realize the need for treatment. Such an intervention allows us to hope that the patient himself will wish to undergo rehabilitation and get rid of alcohol addiction forever.
Social methods
Drunkenness is a social phenomenon. The fight against him has been going on for a long time. Many famous personalities spoke unflatteringly about alcoholics and tried to use various social measures to change the situation for the better.
The state is also not on the sidelines. One of the strict methods was “prohibition”. It has been introduced in various countries. True, it did not give any special results. In addition, anti-alcohol campaigns were carried out.
Currently, the Alcoholics Anonymous organization operates in many countries. People in such groups gather on a voluntary basis. In a circle where no one is in control, you can discuss various situations, feelings, and experiences. Share personal experience, encourage with a kind word.
Thus, such a society does not eliminate addiction and does not force an alcoholic to stop drinking. People come to speak out, talk about their achievements, failures, and hide from loneliness. The group cannot replace professional treatment. However, in combination with it it is possible to achieve good results.
