Unfortunately, people tend to die. Death always comes unexpectedly, you never know how tomorrow will turn out. After the death of a person, there are many things, clothes and accessories left that are quite suitable for use. However, the very awareness of the situation repels many. Some people are afraid because of their religious beliefs, others believe in the heavy energy that is transmitted. Some people simply find it unpleasant to use the deceased’s belongings, but sometimes situations force them to do so. This issue should be understood from different points of view.
What people usually do
People in such situations act differently: some take them to church or a shelter immediately after death, some consult with a priest before taking any action, and some keep them and do not distribute them until they die. until things decay. The latter does not seem entirely reasonable, although very natural - loved ones want to keep at least something in memory of the deceased person, and his things become a symbol, an illusion that nothing happened to him, he just left the house for a short time. However, it is still not recommended to keep what belonged to a person, but to find out when after death you can distribute the things of the deceased. There is a belief that these things preserve the energy a person possessed during life. Therefore, most religions (Orthodoxy included) do not advise preserving such items.
Bed sheets
One of my friends could not part with the bed linen on which his beloved died - it gave him the minutes of his last memories. Only when we offered to buy him exactly the same bedding in return, he agreed.
Why is it impossible to store things after death, in particular, bedding on which a loved one died?
It is believed that during sleep, internal energy is released and absorbed by the bed linen on which a person sleeps. When a patient is dying, the energy is heavy, and the bed absorbs information about the disease and the corresponding negative energy. This is why it is not recommended to use a bed on which someone has died.
Please note that we are only talking about the bed on which someone died. You can't use it.
Why you shouldn't save the things of the deceased
Now let’s clarify whether it is possible to distribute the things of the deceased. As we have already said, storing them is not recommended. The fact is that the death of a loved one, naturally, is associated with pain and suffering both for him and his relatives who are left alone with themselves. These experiences mix and create powerful negative energy around the deceased’s belongings, which accumulates more and more over time in the room where they are stored. This is especially true for everything that was in direct contact with the body, such as jewelry or costume jewelry, clothing, and especially bed linen. However, you can always take the jewelry to church and check with the priest whether you can wear them. It is likely that he will advise you to consecrate them, and after this the jewelry can be calmly put on, while remembering the deceased and praying for his soul.
By the way, priests say that you can wear a cross that belonged to a previously deceased person, despite the fact that there are completely opposite opinions on this matter. There is a superstition that by putting on the cross of a deceased person, a person thereby takes upon himself his lifetime sins, but this is really just a superstition.
The opinion of psychologists and a logical view of things
From a psychological point of view, many people tend to see the reasons for their failures and justify missed opportunities with mystical moments. So, on one of the forums, a girl living alone with her mother notes that they often wear each other’s things (the family is quite poor). At the same time, the heroine feels that she is repeating the fate of her mother: she tripped in the same place and almost broke her arm, becomes just as irritated at work, and cannot arrange her personal life. The girl was advised to consult a healer. She, of course, assured her that it was all about her mother’s things. When the heroine stopped wearing them, everything returned to normal.
Many people tend to see the reasons for their failures in mystical coincidences, for example, in wearing maternal things
Any psychologist will say that this situation is typical: girls from childhood copy the behavior and communication of their mothers. If a mother’s personal life does not work out, then there is a high probability that her daughter will also have problems with this, because she does not see before her an example of a normal relationship between a man and a woman. And clothes have absolutely nothing to do with it. And the fact that in the end everything worked out for the heroine is purely the result of self-hypnosis and work on herself (the girl received the instruction that now everything will change).
When mom's clothes can help her daughter
The clothes of a loved one, especially a mother, can be considered for yourself as a strong amulet and protection. This way, the young girl will feel more confident.
Letters and manuscripts
As for letters, manuscripts, diaries, it all depends on the relatives themselves, whether they want to leave the papers of the deceased as a keepsake or not. Some may consider it unethical to store and perhaps read the texts of even a deceased person; for others, this will be the only item that they will keep, and the best memory of the deceased. But if relatives decide to get rid of his papers, under no circumstances should they be thrown into the trash; it would be much better to burn them so that prying eyes cannot read them.
However, in general, priests are of the opinion that the memory of a person should be preserved not in things, but in minds. Therefore, the best answer to the question of when you can distribute things after a deceased person is: as soon as possible, and you should not leave a lot of things. A much better solution would be to get rid of them, which we'll talk about later.
How to deal with jewelry and valuables of the deceased
Jewelry and other expensive items can be worn after preliminary cleansing of negative energy. But often those close to the 1st line put on similar things without performing any manipulations. It all depends on the inner feeling: if there is no discomfort, you can use such items at your own discretion. But there are a number of features that should be taken into account: what the deceased was like during life, what metal the jewelry was made of, how they were obtained by the deceased, etc. These factors can influence the energy of different types of products.
How to cleanse them of negativity
Jewelry remains on the owner’s body for a long time. They absorb energy and can influence other people if they contain a lot of negativity. But there are methods to eliminate this energy. First of all, use holy water. It destroys any negative impact. It is enough to hold gold or silver items in a container with holy water for 1 hour or longer, how long is decided by the new owner, since only he knew the deceased and can assess how good a person he was. Negative energy is destroyed by spring water, as well as a salt solution and a heat source (candle flame).
It is believed that the one who puts on someone else's ring will repeat the fate of the previous owner and take on his sins.
Cleansing jewelry from negative energy with salt water
Is it possible to wear the gold of a deceased person?
People of different professions and religions speak out:
- psychologists say that being surrounded by the things of the deceased helps to increase the period of grief; it is necessary to give away everything that can evoke sad memories, remove the things of the deceased from the room, there is no need to wear them;
- clergy also have their own opinion: they say that the gold jewelry of the deceased can cause despondency in the new owner, and this is a sin, according to Christian dogmas;
- Esotericists are convinced that gold absorbs the energy of the owner, and such products can store it for quite a long time, and after death there is a particularly powerful release, so you should not take gold jewelry (chains, rings, bracelets) taken from the deceased.
Is it possible to wear a deceased relative's watch?
Deciding whether it is possible to use accessories after the deceased must be done individually in each case, taking into account the personal qualities of the former owner. It is important to take into account the opinions of specialists and clergy:
- Esotericists say: those who wear such a watch can take over the fate of the deceased; it is not recommended to use them if the person was bad during life, had a bad character or was at enmity with relatives;
- priests' answer: according to the dogmas of Orthodoxy, it is recommended to give away the personal belongings of the deceased on his behalf free of charge, this will be counted during the ordeal, when the soul appears before God.
Wristwatch belonging to the deceased
Should I keep my wedding ring?
A wife, like a husband, may well leave as a souvenir a symbol of fidelity, matrimony and love - a wedding ring, but it should not be worn, because gold has absorbed negative energy. Moreover, this is especially pronounced at the moment of death.
You should not bury a person with a wedding ring; if his other half is alive, then the jewelry can be removed from the finger and placed next to the deceased. In addition, it is not recommended to leave your ring in the coffin with the deceased - the deceased may drag the living with him.
When can you give away the belongings of a deceased person?
In the Orthodox tradition, it is believed that the belongings of the deceased must be distributed before the fortieth day after his death. Therefore, the answer to the question whether it is possible to distribute the belongings of a deceased person will be in the affirmative. Relatives have quite a long time for this good deed. Therefore, in principle, it does not matter on what day the things of the deceased can be distributed. Within forty days after the soul leaves the body, according to the Orthodox, it goes through ordeals in order to ultimately end up in heaven or hell. Therefore, any good deed done on earth in her name will benefit her. The more relatives are merciful to those in need, the more merciful God will be to the soul of the departed person. It is assumed that the people who received the items will remember the deceased and thereby influence where his soul ends up (so you can ask them directly so that they do not forget to remember him).
However, according to another opinion, it is better not to touch things until the fortieth day, since the energy of the deceased is too negative to be distributed to strangers. Items can be safely distributed only after this period has expired. In addition, supporters of this position believe that all these forty days the soul is at home, next to loved ones, and it will be simply unpleasant for her to see how quickly her former things are given away. However, the opinion is quite dubious.
But the Bible does not say a word about how many days later the things of the deceased can be distributed, therefore, if you do not listen to what the priests say, you can believe whatever you want in this regard.
The best use of the deceased’s belongings according to all canons
As already mentioned, according to tradition, the deceased’s belongings used to be distributed to those in need near churches and temples. But this was done only after the fortieth day. Such an action will be the best and quite noble. If some item or element of your wardrobe is very valuable to you, as a memory of a person, you should definitely keep it. You also need to keep the item if it has any physical value (for example, any jewelry, equipment) - the church does not criticize this in any way, treating it with understanding. It is important not to resort to any superstitions, which the church has always had a negative attitude towards and still has.
The most important thing is to listen to your heart and feelings. If there is a feeling that the thing will come in handy, will be useful, then it is worth leaving it. The main thing is to weigh all doubts, arguments, and answer yourself whether the thing will bring any troubles, illnesses and negative emotions. If there are no doubts, you can safely use things, remembering with a good word someone who is no longer around.
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What to do with the room of the deceased
After forty days have passed since the death of a person, it is worth doing a large-scale cleaning of his room. Throw away all objectively unnecessary things, including old furniture, which is completely useless to keep, because it is saturated with human suffering. If there is no reason to throw it away, you can sprinkle it with holy water, thereby cleansing it. It is better to put personal items that relatives have decided to keep away in the closet for a while, so as not to constantly come across them, each time experiencing the pain of loss. We have already discussed on what day the things of the deceased can be distributed. If the deceased was seriously ill before his death, then it is better, just in case, to make repairs to the room in order to clear the space of negative energy, if possible.
Is it possible to sleep on the bed of a deceased relative?
There is a belief that it is worse to sleep on the bed of the deceased than on his grave. This suggests that the bed or sofa on which the deceased slept absorbed not only the powerful energy of death, but possibly also his suffering and torment during the illness he was experiencing. And the more protracted and painful the illness passed, the more the bed absorbed this negativity. You should get rid of such furniture.
It happens that there is nothing else to sleep on. Then a cleansing ceremony should be performed. And don’t forget that you should try to get rid of the psychological burden.
The deceased’s room or the entire apartment should be thoroughly cleaned, everything unnecessary should be thrown away, and what can be given away to people. It would not be a bad idea to make repairs, especially after a patient with cancer or another disease that brought the deceased a lot of suffering during his lifetime.
Where can you put the deceased's belongings?
There are actually a lot of options. Some mementos can be left in the family, some can be distributed to loved ones. If we are not talking about family, then first of all it is better to give things to those who really need them. If there are no such people around, you can give things to the nearest branch of the Red Cross, the nearest church or any collection point for things for the poor. Nowadays, funeral service bureaus do the same thing, taking the deceased’s belongings and distributing them to those in need in the same way. Completely unusable clothes can be left at trash cans or simply burned, the latter is even better. In any case, it is important not to try to squeeze profit out of the deceased’s belongings, but to do something good for others with their help. Otherwise, according to some superstitious individuals, all sorts of punishments and illnesses may await you. However, it’s not even a question of punishment: it’s simply not very ethical to profit from death. It is also worth adding that there is an unspoken rule - it is better not to give the things of the deceased into one person, but to distribute them among at least several people.
Is it possible to keep the things of the deceased?
Along with the question of how many days after it is possible to distribute the things of the deceased, many are interested in whether they can be kept for themselves - there are different opinions on this matter. Some believe that there is nothing wrong with this; at a time when clothing, especially outerwear, was in short supply, many, even during the life of the deceased, could begin to distribute his things among themselves. Nowadays such a situation is rare, but nevertheless, relatives often tend to keep some things as souvenirs, especially completely new ones. Another opinion says that doing this with the things of the deceased is a great sin and it is absolutely necessary to give away absolutely all items, even furniture from the room where the person lived shortly before his death.
As for the deceased's money, this is a separate issue, but almost the same rules apply to it as to other things. It is necessary to set aside some amount for alms. And of course, thank the deceased for such an involuntary gift before becoming a full-fledged owner or mistress of the funds, regardless of the amount.
When can you give away a deceased child's belongings?
All of the above tips do not apply to children's belongings. They are strictly not recommended to be distributed. To be honest, there are hardly any parents who would agree to accept the things of a deceased child and put them on their own.
In the event of the death of a child, it is best to burn or throw away clothes; you should do the same with toys, under no circumstances giving them away to other children, so as not to transfer negative energy. And just don’t put other parents in an awkward position in which they won’t know how to tactfully refuse. In the same way, there is no need to put clothes on a younger child if something irreparable happens to the older one. However, you can leave a couple of the most significant and favorite toys, but take them out only in a moment of intense grief for the baby.
If you yourself find yourself in such a situation that someone gave you things that belonged to a previously deceased child, pray for his soul, but do not use the things or even leave them at home. You should not store such things, it can lead to a variety of consequences.
Opinion of bioenergetics
Bioenergetics specialists believe that it is undesirable to stay overnight in the house of the deceased, since the restless soul may come to you in a dream.
Popular beliefs:
1. Things absorb human energy.
If during his lifetime the deceased person had good energy and was kind, then these things will only bring benefits to their new owner. And if a person had bad energy, then his things can bring many unpleasant consequences.
Don't interfere unnecessarily, don't interfere too much, there may be less of them. One or more days before death, the last moment of all power is sometimes created in the dying person. Although he is almost always asleep and uncommunicative, he is suddenly fully awake, lucid, participating in life, craving certain foods, or attempting to sit or stand again. Take this time to fulfill his wishes, don't be afraid to break the diet, talk to him and say goodbye. It is possible that these very moments will help you overcome feelings of loneliness and despair.
2. Dead energy.
When a person dies, the soul leaves his body, after which living, positive energy leaves his things. Soon, dead, negative energy takes its place. And such things will not bring anything good to their new owner.
3. Energy of illness.
The physical problems associated with dying—especially pain—can be effectively treated. Taking good care of your body can make a big difference in your last days experience. Pain management can now be provided to almost all people in the last stage of their lives. Treatment for opioid pain allows for greater conscious pain relief. Fear of morphine and other common opioids must be overcome. Modern pain management uses these drugs with a clear goal: to maintain the highest quality of life until the end.
If before death a person suffered from a serious, incurable illness, then this will leave a mark on his energy, part of which will be transferred to his things. When wearing such clothes, we are exposed to the energy of the disease, which increases the risk of developing a similar disease.
4. Many peoples believe that one should not often remember the deceased. This can prevent a person from finding peace in the afterlife.
Doctors receiving palliative care with these drugs can be very sensitive to it, balance their anti-pain effects with the side effects, and if the pain goes away, they can easily get rid of these drugs. Keep in mind that the dying person has a short time and must live without pain to expel it.
From both a medical and patient perspective, it is important that maximum attention is paid to the skin of the dying person to ensure correct positioning. It is good to change the position on the side and back, but always as often as the patient is comfortable. If it doesn't hold, it may be slightly dirty to keep it in position on the side. Ensure that prone areas are protected from pressure by using soft pads or foam pads. Do whatever is consistent with the patient so that he/she is well and frequent positioning does not exhaust it or cause pain.
5. Under no circumstances should toys of a deceased child be given to other children. Often such a gift can lead to tragic consequences.
6. You cannot wear the shoes of a dead person. After forty days, it must be given to other people.
7. Money received from the sale of valuable belongings of the deceased should under no circumstances be spent on oneself. Such a purchase can only bring misfortune. This money must be donated to a good cause.
Keep the patient's skin clean and dry, especially in areas prone to sweating or other secretions. This is, for example, the genital area, areas under the breasts and other folds of skin. Skin that is regularly treated and protected with a suitable cream is more resistant to the formation of sores, bumps and painful spots.
Changes in body temperature: Your hands and feet may feel colder due to poor circulation. You can try to maintain your body temperature by using socks or warming bottles. If the dying person has a higher temperature, on the other hand, nice little blankets or just the sheet or cover itself are nice. Sometimes this can make a nice cold shingle on the forehead or groin. Fever at this stage is a sign of thermoregulatory center failure, not pneumonia or any other infection.
Also, for most people, wearing a deceased person's belongings is something that is wrong. But there are also those who can wear the clothes of the deceased the very next day.
Father's advice
In Orthodoxy, the answer to the question of when it is possible to distribute the belongings of the deceased is direct and unambiguous - within forty days after death. In contrast to the pagans, who burned things belonging to a deceased person along with him on the funeral pyre, in Orthodoxy these things, as already mentioned, are dealt with completely differently. They are distributed as alms within forty days after the death of a person. However, as Orthodox priests say, nothing bad will happen if for some reason the relatives did not manage to distribute the deceased’s belongings during this period. This can be done calmly later, although it is better to do it within forty days, which, according to Christian tradition, are especially important for the soul of the deceased, whose posthumous fate is decided at this time. It is also possible to check with the priest in the nearest church when things can be distributed after the deceased.
Cloth
In the Orthodox religion, it is believed that clothes and shoes begin to lose the energy of the deceased after 40 days. If you decide to give away the things of a loved one, there is nothing wrong with that. Moreover, you need to give clothes not to one person, but to several people.
When to distribute?
In all sources you will come across the date - 40 days. But the information about this date is different.
- Some say that you need to distribute clothes during these days - by doing this you will help complete the earthly affairs of the newly deceased. After all, those who take the clothes of the deceased will remember him in one way or another.
- Others say that, on the contrary, clothes and other things cannot be distributed for 40 days, but must be kept in the house - all these days the soul is still in the house where the one who is no longer with us lived.
- Jews say that you can give things away right away. You need to give everything except his shoes. It is believed that whoever wears the shoes of the deceased tramples him underground.
What does the church say about this?
Let us note that in the Bible there is no answer to the question of whether the belongings of the deceased should be kept at home for some time or can be distributed immediately. One thing is said that by distributing the clothes of the deceased to those in need, we will do a good deed to the soul of the deceased.
But you can’t give away clothes that a seriously ill person died in - they are saturated with his unhealthy energy.
The women's website sympaty.net addressed this question to the priest, who said that within 40 days they need to distribute clothes with a request to pray and remember the deceased. On the 40th day his fate in the Kingdom of Heaven is decided. Sincere prayer and remembrance of many people will help him in the other world. Keep a couple of things as souvenirs and give the rest away.
Who should I give it to?
You can distribute clothes to both acquaintances and strangers. Everything should be clean and tidy. If the clothes are already worn out, they need to be disposed of. How to get rid of it is up to you.
- You can burn unusable clothes.
- If you don't know who to give everything to, just take the package to the church. There, those who need them will be able to take clothes for themselves.
- In recent years, funeral services have also offered to pick up the belongings of the deceased. They themselves will distribute them to those in need.
