Female masturbation - the benefits and harms of masturbation

What do women do when they are alone with themselves? Usually, they are happy to talk about their activities to anyone who is willing to listen. However, even the most chatty ladies have a “hobby” that even their best friends don’t know about. Why do girls masturbate or what is female masturbation? This will be discussed in this article.

Why do women masturbate?i

Some women begin to masturbate since childhood, when they discover that touching and stimulation of certain intimate areas brings unconscious pleasure that they want to repeat again and again.

Those ladies who remain dissatisfied after sexual contact with their partners also resort to masturbation.

Women are attracted to masturbation by modern prohibition. Currently, any information on the problems of female sexology flows like a river from all media.

Therefore, women are not averse to being a little naughty, especially if the public does not discuss them for it. Moreover, not receiving enough pleasure from sex, ladies are quite capable of using self-satisfaction techniques.

Often women do not hesitate to stimulate their erogenous zones even during intercourse. Partners, as a rule, are not outraged by this; on the contrary, they either get even more excited or rush to satisfy their ladies with similar stimulation.

Women masturbate using different methods: if 80% like to stimulate the labia minora and clitoris, the rest like to insert various objects into the vagina that resemble the male reproductive organ.

NEEDS OF THE HEART

There is a common misconception that sexual activity is dangerous for the heart. It's the other way around. For women, abstinence and dissatisfaction are harmful - they increase the risk of myocardial infarction. And among men who enjoy sexual pleasure, the risk of dying from cardiovascular disease is halved, according to a study conducted at the University of Bristol in 1997. Having sex is an excellent physical exercise that increases your heart rate, sweats out toxins from your body, and improves muscle tone. Does it follow from this that we must keep a strict record of our sexual acts in order to ensure our health and longevity? “You can achieve a mechanical orgasm, but it will not bring either deep feelings or an experience of the fullness of being,” argues sex therapist Alain Héril. “Sexual flourishing is achieved not through quantity, but through the quality of our interactions.”

How do women caress themselves?2

Most often, women give themselves pleasure by stimulating their erogenous zones by stroking, rubbing and pressing with their fingers, much less often by vibration stimulation.

You can influence the clitoris by stroking or rubbing its body, stretching the labia to the sides and pressing on the pubis. Stimulation of the clitoral head is used less frequently, as it causes pain. When a point of the clitoris is massaged for a long time, its sensitivity weakens and it begins to go numb.

Forms of masturbation:

insertion into the vagina of objects resembling the male genital organ - 10%;
use of hydromassage - 4%;
hip squeezing - 4%;

friction of the intimate part against some object - 6%;
use of a vibrator - 26%;
manual caresses of the vaginal and clitoral areas - 48%;
other methods - 2%.

According to a survey conducted by the Masters and Johnson Institute program, 265 women aged 18 to 35 responded to questions about masturbation. It was found that only a small part of them, during masturbation, place an object resembling a phallus into the vagina. There are also few ladies who like to complement masturbation with breast stimulation. At the same time, it could be called curious that each woman chooses a position for masturbation individually according to her feelings.

About 6% of ladies prefer to caress themselves while lying on their back, others do it on their side, sitting or even standing. There are ladies who like to stimulate themselves in a knee-elbow position by placing their hand between their legs. Some people rub their erogenous zones against various objects, or stroke the clitoris and vulva with a smooth or soft cloth.

Approximately 3% of women enjoy squeezing their thighs during masturbation; some bring themselves to ecstasy by directing a water jet to the perineum area. Very often, women use special creams and lubricants, but they do not have much significance. Many women who resort to self-satisfaction have used vibrators at least once in their lives, but a quarter of those surveyed chose this device as the main tool for achieving orgasm.

Can masturbation replace regular sex?3

If sex becomes an obsession for a woman, then it can influence the lady’s personality, changing her sexual behavior and adding problems in relationships with the male sex.

Men are able to achieve the same orgasm both during traditional sex and during masturbation. Women do not have this ability; for them, unity with a loved one comes first, and sex itself is not so important. Handjob can provide only a small release, but it is impossible to deliver real sexual satisfaction, which is given by male hands, lips and other genitals.

Types of female masturbation4

Just like in men, female masturbation is divided into several types:

Childhood (early) is typical for girls from 5 to 8 years old. Usually they are pushed to know their own body by their peers or older girls. It is impossible to achieve orgasm at this age.
Puberty. Appears with the development of secondary sexual characteristics: the appearance of pubic hairs, the growth of mammary glands, and may coincide with the onset of menstruation.
Mature masturbation. Typical for young girls from 16 to 20 years old. This usually applies to high school girls and students.
Substitute masturbation. They affect women who are not in a relationship and do not have sexual activity: divorced women, widows, single women, etc.
Masturbation is menopausal.

Female Orgasm

Female orgasm - the opinion of a gynecologist
Is an orgasm necessary for a woman?

is necessary
for a woman , as it provides
complete emotional release
, which has a beneficial effect on a woman’s psychological state.
In addition, during sexual arousal, blood flows to the external and internal genital organs. After orgasm, the congestion of the organs goes away quite quickly. If orgasm does not occur, the blood stagnates, which can lead to various disorders or be the background for their development. Why no orgasm?
The ability to have an orgasm is given to all women, like the ability to pronounce the letter “R”.
Was everyone taken to a speech therapist in childhood - no. Some children learned to pronounce all the letters themselves, others were taught by speech therapists, and the rest burr all their lives. Same with orgasm. Some women, already in adolescence, begin to experience orgasm either from various activities (climbing a rope, running after a bus, riding a bicycle, etc.) or discover a method of masturbation (accidentally receiving pleasant sensations from a shower, etc.) . Orgasm comes into their lives even before the start of sexual activity. By the beginning of sexual activity, their brain already knows what the impulses coming from the genitals should lead to and forms an orgasm. Another part of women during adolescence, even if they experience pleasant sensations in the genital area, are either ashamed of these sensations and suppress them (at the time of education or fear), or all attempts to strengthen these sensations (through various variants of masturbation) do not end in success. The beginning of sexual activity triggers several scenarios. Option one.
Sexual life quickly begins to bring pleasure, there are no problems with orgasm.
Option two
A girl who knows how to get an orgasm on her own cannot achieve it during sexual intercourse with a man.
This is probably the most common scenario. There are many reasons for this, but the most common are:

A man prepares a woman very poorly for sexual intercourse
, she does not have time to become fully aroused, sexual intercourse proceeds very quickly - the woman actually does not have enough time.

A woman gets used to clitoral orgasm
; the sensations from the vagina are pleasant, but they are not enough for an orgasm to occur. Often a woman gets out of the situation with additional stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse, but even when orgasm occurs, a feeling of dissatisfaction remains, since the orgasm was half independent.

A woman experiences emotional rejection towards a man
and/or pain. Of course, in this situation it is almost impossible to get an orgasm

The formation of orgasm is assigned to some specific action
that is absent during normal sexual intercourse. The simplest example is a shower. A woman gets used to enjoying the shower, but the nature of stimulation during sexual intercourse cannot give her the same sensations. Or the need to squeeze your thighs during orgasm - in certain positions this is impossible and a woman cannot achieve what she wants without this. There are also some psychologically fixed rituals.

The peculiarity of the location of the vagina in the perineum
(there are three options - anterior, middle, posterior). Each of the options corresponds to a position in which a woman gets the most pleasure and a position in which she may simply feel unpleasant. For example, if the entrance to the vagina is located posteriorly, the most acceptable position will be the knee-elbow position, and the “cowgirl” position will be extremely difficult and uncomfortable.

The effect of emotional suppression
- a woman considers sexual intercourse to be something dirty and indecent or an experience of sexual violence - all this prevents the woman from having pleasure.

The presence of gynecological diseases
- pain, discomfort associated with this - does not allow you to experience orgasm.

Option three

The woman did not experience orgasm before the onset of sexual activity, and nothing changed with the onset of sexual activity.
Option four
A woman has an orgasm with one man, but not another.
For reasons, see option two. How to learn to have an orgasm?
I’ll immediately answer those who, after reading the question, said, “Find a good and skillful man.”
Of course, a good, competent and skillful man can handle it. Returning to the example with the letter “P”, such a man will become a speech therapist for a woman. The problem is that there are few such men, and there are much more women who want to experience orgasm. What to do?
There is one very simple principle - first study and practice, then play.
Let me give you an example again:
at a resort you pass by a court where they play tennis and you are offered to play, even though you have never played this game or even held a racket in your hands.
Someone, taking a racket in his hands, begins to play and quickly feels during the game how to hit the ball so that the ball hits the field. Others don't succeed and the ball flies all over the court, but not where it should be. In this case, they suggest practicing against the wall - feeling the racket, the impact of the ball, the rebound force, etc. Having acquired this skill, a person goes onto the court prepared, he already knows how to hit the ball so that the ball flies further or closer, higher or tangentially. Education and training, when it comes to orgasm, is necessary for your body to learn what different types of stimulation of the genitals and erogenous zones feel like. In order for the mechanisms of concentration of impulses coming from the nerve endings of the genital organs to be firmly established in the parts of the brain responsible for the formation of orgasm. To bring this, essentially, reflex to automatism. With some preparation, and most importantly desire, almost every woman who has not experienced an orgasm during sexual activity will be able to begin to experience it. In order to learn how to experience an orgasm, you need to understand how it is formed. How an orgasm is formed
The genitals and erogenous zones contain special nerve endings that differ from other (pain, temperature, etc.) nerve endings in the structure of the sensitive part.
These nerve endings, in response to various types of stimulation (friction, vibration), begin to send nerve impulses to the brain, which in response to this triggers various processes in the body (a rush of blood to the genitals, increased lubrication, increased heart rate, increased sensitivity of certain areas body, etc.) In addition, all nerve impulses coming from nerve endings during stimulation of the genital organs are summed up in one area of the brain, exciting it more and more. It's like a spring twisting effect. When the excitation of this focus of the brain reaches a certain limit, a cascade of reactions is triggered (muscle contractions, cramps, the release of special substances in the brain), which releases this accumulated energy and returns to a calm state. Simply put, it's simple 6th grade physics - you spin a flywheel until the electrical energy generated is enough to light a light bulb. Options:

Multiple orgasm
- in some women, the focus of excitation that forms in the brain sums up nerve impulses well, can quickly accumulate critical energy and, after it is released, retains increased excitability to any stimulus coming from the genitals.

The orgasm is erased, weak
- accordingly, nerve impulses are poorly summarized, there is little energy to launch a cascade of vegetative reactions

An orgasm is not formed
(despite the fact that there are pleasant sensations) - the source of excitation cannot accumulate enough nerve impulses to trigger a cascade of reactions, or the impulses are not strong enough, or they do not add up, but simply dissipate. This focus can easily overwhelm the cerebral cortex (your consciousness)

Orgasm in a dream or other unusual situation
- it is known that our consciousness can create hallucinations (that is, easily reproduce visual, auditory and tactile images), so it is not difficult for the cerebral cortex to collect impulses (from vivid visual, auditory or tactile experiences) and create a focus of excitement, forming an orgasm. In addition, such orgasms, as a rule, occur when a woman has a long period of abstinence and the nervous system as a whole is overstrained. In this case, orgasm should be perceived as self-regulation of the nervous system, a kind of fuse effect.

Training
The main goal:
to teach the sensitive receptors of the genital organs to react quickly and intensely to stimulation and to accustom the mind to accept these sensations and enhance, rather than suppress them.
It is known that problems with orgasm in most cases are treated in only one way - masturbation (knowing your body and reactions to various stimulations). However, masturbation is different. A common mistake:
it is believed that masturbation is a great way to get to know your body and learn to experience orgasm, but masturbation “in a hurry” (pardon the pun) only does harm, since orgasm, if it happens, is often superficial and not bright, and unpleasant the sediment then only makes the problem worse.
Therapeutic masturbation
is, first of all, the development of one’s sensuality, the suppression of shame and the elimination of disgust towards one’s genitals.
Masturbation, which is beneficial, is a long process (even if it is less frequent, but it is complete). In the next part I will tell you how to start enjoying sex life and start having orgasms. I’ll tell you what the G-spot is from an anatomical and physiological point of view and other nuances.

Types of female masturbation5

There are two main types of female masturbation:

Adaptive methods of sexual satisfaction that can be used by both the lady herself and her partner during sex.
Maladaptive - this is the name given to the impact on the clitoris through friction, muscle tension, a stream of water and the use of various objects and sex toys.

There are also differences in the methods of handjob:

No penetration

If a woman can get pleasure without inserting the penis or other objects into the vagina, then the greatest attention should be paid to clitoral stimulation. This method is characterized by the use of various means to irritate the clitoris: fingers, shower, cloth, etc.

With penetration

When penetrating the vagina, the clitoris and G-spot are stimulated. In this case, you can also use various devices or dildos. Particularly sophisticated onanists or simply great inventors can adapt for these purposes even fruits or vegetables that are suitable in shape and size.

MEN ARE ALSO CONCERNED

“For men, frequent ejaculations reduce the risk of prostate cancer, as confirmed by an American study conducted on 30 thousand men,” says cardiologist Frédéric Saldmann. Here are the exact statistics: starting from 12 ejaculations per month, the effect of reducing the incidence becomes noticeable, and after 21 ejaculations per month, the risk decreases by one third. Prostate massage and ejaculation help expel carcinogenic cells. They also reduce the formation of calcifications (calcium oxide crystals) that accumulate in the prostate. Research suggests that in the absence of sex, masturbation can protect the prostate.

Pros of female masturbation6

The benefits of female masturbation have long been proven, since self-satisfaction techniques have a positive effect on the health of women.

If a woman reaches orgasm while masturbating, her mood improves and serotonin, the hormone of happiness, is produced.
By suggesting to her partner the most intimate places, the stimulation of which gives the greatest pleasure, a woman has a positive effect on the relationship with her partner.

There is scientific evidence that masturbation is the most accessible and elementary way to provide physical and mental release.
Masturbation provides the same pain-relieving effect as traditional sex.

The harm of female masturbation7

Most often, the reason for female masturbation is dissatisfaction with sexual life with a partner. At the same time, they experience sexual arousal, which leaves behind some psychological traces, which subsequently begin to dominate the personality and cannot be controlled. As a result, women develop neuroses and mental disorders.

Female masturbation, like male masturbation, can be obsessive or temporary. If masturbation becomes a constant necessity, then this affects the degradation of a woman’s personality, her sexual behavior and communication with male representatives. This contradicts the female attitude towards sexual contacts, since ladies do not strive to have sex with the first person they meet, preferring to enter into intimate relationships with proven partners who meet all their criteria and meet the requirements.

Therefore, during masturbation, they cannot fully satisfy their spiritual needs, which means they do not feel happy.

Until recently, female masturbation was something between dementia and sinful behavior. Church ministers predicted the most severe torments for lovers of self-satisfaction, from uterine prolapse to various ailments in the female part. But modern science has long proven that masturbation is one of the mechanisms of influence on the female reproductive organs, which affects them in the same way as ordinary sex, which means that it is more useful than harmful.

Education and prejudice are two poles that should never intersect. Previously, parents were so afraid of corrupting their children that in adolescence they tied their hands to their beds at night, or came up with all sorts of “safeties” so that the children would not put their hands where they were not supposed to. It would not be surprising if such behavior created a certain behavioral stereotype and complexes in the child.

Violating hygiene rules can introduce an infection into the body and cause infection.

According to sexologists, frequent masturbation can complicate sexual relations with a partner.

Treatment of the consequences of masturbation in men in Saratov, Russia, pathological masturbation can be cured

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During the period of hypersexuality, when the penis stands on everything that moves, some men engage in masturbation. But the consequences of masturbation in this particular case cause concern for the Sarclinic doctor. Aggression, nervousness, bad mood, emotional instability lead to the development of neurosis and other pathologies of the nervous system. And most importantly, as a result, venocorporeal erectile dysfunction can develop, which often ends in complete impotence.

Of course, severe impotence can be treated at Sarklinik. But why bring yourself to severe erectile dysfunction. It’s very bad when at the most crucial moment the penis hangs like a sausage, although during foreplay everything seems to be fine - an excellent erection. But the peculiarity of venocorporeal erectile dysfunction is precisely that there is a rapid discharge of blood from the penis, and the erection sharply weakens at the most inopportune moment. And who needs a man with a hanging penis? No one! Women don't like people like that. You need to see a sarclinic doctor to solve both psychological problems and medical aspects.

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Rules of masturbation8

If a girl has not yet gotten to know her body and wants to expand the boundaries of her sensuality and sexuality, then she will need a couple of tips from experienced masturbators:

You need to create a comfortable atmosphere so that there are no distractions and try to relax. Relaxing music can help with this.

To tune in to the right wave, you can fantasize, watch erotic magazines or videos. When excitement begins to increase, you can begin caresses, slowly stroking yourself in the most sensitive places: stomach, breasts, shoulders, thighs, etc.

Gradually you can begin to stimulate the perineum. By experimenting, you can choose the pace and movements that will bring you the most pleasure. You don’t need to follow any rules or recommendations, you just have to surrender to the moment and enjoy it.

HORMONE OF TENDERNESS

The hormone that is produced in this state and binds us to each other is called oxytocin. Its concentration in the blood increases during hugs and kisses and reaches a peak at the moment of orgasm. It is known that oxytocin “starts” the process of childbirth and promotes the emergence of maternal attachment to the child. Less known is that it also plays an important role in preventing breast cancer. Oxytocin is produced when nipples are caressed, and thanks to it, carcinogenic elements are removed from the female breast. “Women whose breasts are regularly caressed are better protected against breast cancer, as a 1995 study showed,” explains gynecologist and sex therapist Sylvain Mimoun. “Love making improves metabolism both in individual organs and as a whole. Regular sex also reduces the risk of inflammation, which creates the preconditions for cancer and cardiovascular disease. Therefore, those who are going through a period of sexual abstinence are advised to caress themselves.”

Men's opinion about female masturbation9

Vladislav, 32 years old

I know that my wife often masturbates during sex and I take it completely calmly, it even excites me. In addition, you have to worry less and not spend a lot of time and effort on arousing her. She will already prepare herself, so I can say I’m already in the hot seat. Of course, I don’t mind “warming it up” myself, but we’re already used to it.

Mikhail, 25 years old

In general, I have nothing against female masturbation, but sometimes I want to feel like a sort of Casanova seducer and lead my friend into sex, otherwise it turns out as if I’m being used as a plug. It's a shame.

Arthur, 19 years old

A woman masturbating is simply the height of eroticism. I start right up with half a turn. It even seems to me that no one can excite a woman more than herself. Sometimes I ask my beloved to play with herself. So I better understand what kind of caresses she gravitates towards and gain experience.

Alexey, 28 years old

I believe that if a woman is not in a relationship, then such a release will benefit her, but if she already has a partner, then this is just a waste of energy. Unfortunately, I already had such an experience. My girl loved to satisfy herself, it exhausted her so much that she had no strength or desire left for me. I chose to part with her, because I don’t see the point in competing with women’s fingers.

Victoria Fomina

Expert

Doctor sexologist of the highest category, psychiatrist, psychotherapist. I have been working as a sexologist for more than 10 years. I help couples resolve problems in their sex life.

Here are some more facts about female masturbation. Statistics say that 48% of women masturbate three times a week, regardless of whether they have a sexual partner. Girls prefer to masturbate with their fingers - yes, many have different sex toys, but a realistic substitute for a hand has not yet been invented. And to this day, female masturbation is actively condemned by society. Although statistics show that girls do this on an order of magnitude than men. For many women, this is a common thing, because you can achieve orgasm with your fingers in just a couple of minutes and without much effort. But a charge of vivacity and good mood is guaranteed.

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