“I’ll introduce myself for those who don’t know me: my name is (name). We have worked together with (name of deceased) for the past few years and I would like to say a few words in memory of him.
***
I will always remember you, my dear, beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care will remain with us forever"
***
Based on the examples presented above, several basic rules can be identified:
***
There are no sins and atrocities, O Lord, greater than Thy mercy! To the slave of the earth and vain desires, forgive the sins for his/her sorrows!
***
The philosopher knew that everything has its time, Fate cannot be deceived: The poet has been lonely for centuries - May the glorious one be completed
***
There is no water in the funeral cup! Let us not grieve: The midnight star will rise - We will meet again!
***
Let it flow from the righteous heights, Until the end of days, the melody of your soul - Why be sad about it?
Why 40 days and what happens during this time
It is the Orthodox faith that has a unique view of the afterlife and believes that prayer on the fortieth day can influence the verdict that our God will pronounce on the soul.
***
It is important to ask the church to pray for the deceased, so it is worth ordering services in the church:
***
But it is much more important for relatives and friends to sincerely and fervently ask the Lord for mercy for the deceased. In addition, you can read a prayer to Saint War for the repose of your soul.
Option #5
Dad always insisted on bringing us all together as often as possible, seeing us all together and that in life we always stick to each other. So today, as usual, he gathered us all together. But this time is the last time he is with us.
Dad was an amazing person - a real fighter and taught us this. Probably, the quality of his personality was influenced by his childhood, in which he often did not have the basic necessities. He pulled his family out of dire need and always achieved his goal. He was inventive and optimistic and taught me in difficult circumstances to turn to this quality within myself for support. Optimism now helps me out on difficult days. For this I will always be grateful to him.
He was an excellent, caring, sensitive and loving husband and father. He never refused me care and help. He built a house, grew a beautiful garden, gave me an education and a roof over my head. He was always a true master and supporter of the family. It was always calm and reliable with him. What more could you want from your own father? There is nothing that he could have given that he did not give to me and my mother.
Today I lost not only my parent and guardian angel, but also my best friend. Because dad, when my childhood ended, technically moved from the status of a father to the status of a friend. Together we realized common plans and he listened to my opinion and often asked for advice. This means a lot to me and gives me a lot of strength and self-confidence. Now I won’t be able to talk to him, discuss and make plans... But I promise, dad, that I will finish everything you started and do everything the way you wanted, planned and dreamed.
I will always remember you, visit you and love you, father. You will forever remain for me an example of a man and a person. I don't want to tell you goodbye. I'll say "goodbye." You will always be present in my life in one form or another, in my heart and in my thoughts, even though I will never be able to talk to you again.
Procedure: funeral rules
- The meal is simple, especially if there is a general church fast. Even if there is no fasting, you should avoid eating meat and under no circumstances donate it to the temple.
***
A funeral speech is a sad speech, but not melancholy. Man has not ceased to exist, he is simply now in a different form and world.
***
There is a category of people whom the Church does not remember and does not serve a memorial service for:
Important! Almsgiving is a good deed, which, like prayer, affects the eternal life of the deceased.
Types of funeral words in prose
The burial and farewell to the final journey ends with a funeral dinner. During the meal, relatives say mournful words. After the funeral, opening speech of family members, girlfriends, friends, colleagues speak out. On the anniversary of the tragedy, they go to the cemetery to show that their pain in their hearts will remain with them after his departure.
Words of grief are expressed orally or in writing. A mournful and meaningful speech is suitable for a funeral; funeral toasts are appropriate before the start of the meal.
In the church, the priest speaks words of sorrow on the anniversary of death. Obituaries are issued in writing, notifying about the sad date.
Words of sorrow for the death of a husband or wife
The death of one of the spouses is a tragedy that not many people cope with without moral support.
A husband or wife is first and foremost a friend who walks side by side through life; the loss causes severe pain and leaves an unhealed scar on the heart.
What to say at a wake for 40 days. Funeral poems and words for a woman
- Days of commemoration after death: on the day of the funeral, 9 and 40 days, after 1 year. The essence of the wake. What to say at a wake? Funeral words and funeral speech. Lenten menu.
***
The funeral should help the soul ascend from earth to heaven to heaven. Funeral prayers, words and speeches - the essence is a petition before God for the deceased before passing a sentence.
If this option does not suit you, then it is better to organize the funeral earlier - before the start of Lent.
***
What do the 3rd, 9th, 40th days after the death of a person mean? What should you do these days?
***
On all these days, it is very important to order the commemoration of the deceased in the Church, submitting notes for commemoration at the Liturgy and memorial service.
***
If you constantly remain in active concern for others and do good to them, then not only peace will be established in your soul, but deep satisfaction and joy.
***
- If he was baptized in the Orthodox Church, then you need to come to the church and order an absentee funeral service, as well as order magpies, memorial services and pray for him at home.
***
It is possible to alleviate the fate of the deceased if you perform frequent prayers for him and give alms. It is good to work for the Church in memory of the deceased, for example, in a monastery.
***
Is it true that on the 40th day, the commemoration of the deceased must be ordered in three churches at once, or in one, but three services in succession?
***
If the deceased was baptized, then the funeral service can be performed in absentia, and the soil received after the funeral in absentia can be sprinkled in a cross pattern on any grave in an Orthodox cemetery.
***
Funeral services can be ordered if the deceased was a baptized Orthodox person and not one of the suicide victims. The Church does not commemorate the unbaptized and suicides.
***
- It is important not only to “order” a memorial service and funeral service, but for the relatives and friends of the deceased to take part in them prayerfully.
***
Is it true that suicides are commemorated on Radonitsa? What to do if, believing this, they regularly submitted notes to the temple commemorating suicides?
***
Doesn't mean anything. The Lord ends the earthly life of each person in due time, providentially caring for each soul.
***
Sad events are confusing, at a crucial moment all words fly out of your head. The speech at the wake can be written in advance to control emotions.
***
Remember the last parting words spoken to you, what the person who passed away taught you.
***
- End the funeral speech with words of gratitude, make a promise that you will never forget the deceased, and that you will keep the memories deep in your heart.
***
According to Christian custom, the presentation can be concluded with a short joint prayer.
An example of a speech at a funeral, how to speak correctly
There are no instructions on how to speak correctly at a funeral. Just be sincere, but only mention good things. In Western countries, they often write down their speech on paper in advance, so as not to get confused or say too much. If you feel that it will be difficult for you to give a speech impromptu, write it down completely or just key phrases.
Example 1. Speech at Father's Funeral
The loss of my father became a reason for me to rethink my life. Now I don’t have the strong support behind me that I was used to since childhood. My dad was an authority on many things. I often called him for advice when we were far from each other. He was an optimist in everything. No matter how his life turned out, he tried to cope with difficulties and thereby set an example for me. His persistence always led to positive results. It seems to me that these traits of his character passed on to me. May he rest in peace!
Example 2. Speech at a friend’s funeral
I knew... from the moment she moved into our house. We met in the front door and often visited each other like neighbors. She was a very sincere person and a good housewife. With her encouragement, I learned how to make hodgepodge and started renovations. I was impressed by her love of life, practicality, and ability to solve everyday issues. I would like to thank her for her support, ability to listen, and help with advice. I will miss you my friend. God bless you!
You might be interested:
- Condolences on death
- Words of grief for the deceased - words of grief for relatives
- Memorial service
January 31, 2019
How to behave and what to say at a wake on the day of a funeral?
A heavy burden falls on the shoulders of the relatives of the deceased: organizing the funeral and knowing the rules of behavior at such events.
***
Organization. For a fee, all events will be planned by a special service.
***
- Invite relatives, friends, and colleagues of the deceased to the wake. If a family does not want someone at the funeral, they should let the unwanted guest know.
***
Set up a small first aid station. There are a lot of tears and grief at the funeral, and fainting is not excluded.
Option #6
My grandmother has always been distinguished by her amazing organization and strong-willed qualities. At a young age, she was left alone with three children, without any help or support. And I was able to raise and train them to be decent people. Not one of them became an alcoholic, drug addict, or criminal. All children worked and work, gave birth to their children and are raising them with love and care. And how she knew how, in extremely cramped circumstances, to organize decent living conditions for herself and her children... I have never seen such exemplary and effective management anywhere else. This is her talent. What it cost her, no one knows.
Grandma never complained to anyone; it was simply impossible to force her to waste time on whining, empty chatter or idle time. As long as I saw her and remember, she was always busy with something, constantly solving everyday problems – hers and her children’s. She worked until her last day and tried as best she could to support her adult children. She never spared attention, care and affection for her loved ones.
The main quality of a grandmother is her subtle, sharp mind. Irony and an amazing sense of humor. She taught us to always drink from this source in difficult times. And I still use her lesson. He has repeatedly rescued me from seemingly hopeless life situations. I can’t express in words how much warmth she gave me... and now she didn’t take it with her, leaving it to me for the rest of my life.
Thank you, dear, for being with me, for keeping so many of my secrets... thank you for your care and kindness, for the light with which you illuminated my childhood and subsequent years. You are forever in my heart, I love you now and will always love you. And I promise, I will fulfill everything that we agreed on.
Condolences on the death of a friend's father
If one of your friends’ father died, you shouldn’t say: “Hold on, be strong, and so on.” Best of all, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend to talk about him and your feelings for him. Sympathy and attention are what your boyfriend or girlfriend needs. Allow the person to speak out, cry, even scream - this way you will help remove a heavy burden and ease the pain.
Official, memorized words of condolences will not help in such a situation. Say that you are sincerely sorry and want to help. If you knew the deceased personally, tell him about his merits, tell him why you respected him. You can recall a life story that shows the openness, good nature, and sense of humor of the deceased.
Your sincere participation will help relieve the peak of tension and feel a little better. A frank conversation about the feelings experienced in connection with the death of dad is one of the best cures for unbearable, spiritual emptiness.
Approximate sequence of speech:
- the speaker introduces himself, says who he is related to the deceased;
- expresses grief over the event;
- lists the most important deeds or achievements of the deceased;
- talks about positive personality traits;
- gives several vivid life examples, recalls any joyful moments;
- concluding his speech, he emphasizes that the deceased will always be remembered.
The main condition is not to give the speech a gloomy mood, to make it solemn.
