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Fornication in Orthodoxy, or as it is also called malakia, is a type of fornication, which in turn is distinguished by the acquisition of pleasant touches, and in the Christian religion such a sinful act is considered as a fornication sin. Let's take a closer look at what kind of sin masturbation is, how clergy speak about it, and how to get rid of this addiction.
Handjob among girls and women
Female masturbation is considered the same great sin as male masturbation, because everyone’s thoughts and deeds are equal.
The harlot should stop thinking about sinful desires and thoughts, and be sure to repent of the committed act.
But young children, particularly girls, often do not know the meaning of the action they perform. Most often this occurs due to discomfort or itching in the genital area.
Parents should gently find out why the girl is doing this action and try to eliminate the reason. It is recommended to wear more comfortable clothes and bathe your child more often.
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Forms of masturbation
Experts distinguish the following forms of masturbation:
- reflexive, unconscious - inherent in people who have inflammatory processes of the foreskin in men and internal genital organs in women. It happens due to poor hygiene, diseases of the gastrointestinal tract, and endocrine system. In children it manifests itself due to simple curiosity;
- some have to deliberately masturbate in order to satisfy sexual desires before marriage or during marriage, but during a long separation;
- psychopathological masturbation – requires special treatment. Takes the form of mental illness. It is impossible for a person to cope with it on his own.
What do the holy fathers say about masturbation?
Theophan the Recluse wrote that masculinity is a mortal sin, since the person who commits it succumbs to forbidden passions. He is weak and not ready to fight temptation, which takes up a lot of his energy and time.
Sinful masturbation, according to Theophan, “dries up and causes premature death... it can also cause insanity.”
To the question of the priest, Abba Serapion replied that according to the Bible, the second son of Judah, Onan, was punished with death for not allowing the seed to spill into his own wife (where the meaning of the word masturbation came from).
The sin of fornication is much more terrible, and if a person cannot restrain his desires, then it is better to abolish his desires in marriage, in a more righteous way.
Church position
The Orthodox Church firmly takes the position that masturbation is a grave sin and views masturbation as an unnatural way to satisfy sexual feelings.
Masturbation forms a way of thinking, a way of life, aimed at not taking anyone or anything into account, satisfying one’s own needs and requirements. A person who seeks such pleasures turns into a complete egoist . What happens to a person when he deviates in this direction? He becomes a slave to his desires and instincts. Blindly looking for ways to satisfy his passions. They drown out the voice of reason and begin to dominate it. Nothing is sacred to him. Christianity is implacably opposed to this.
A person who lives by his passions will always betray, he is a traitor.
In the army, traitors are shot. The same execution takes place here, but in a different form. These traitors, trying to satisfy their lustful passions, do not receive the benefits on Earth, the pleasures for which they strive. Soul and body suffer. The prisoner of passions himself does not notice that he has long been in the power of the devil.
The word “debauchery” comes from the word “disrupted.” Disorganization, stench of the soul. The stench comes from a depraved person, struck by the grave sin of fornication.
How to get rid of handjob once and for all
The first step is to be absolutely sure of your desire to overcome masturbation. You should turn to yourself and try to understand the reason for bad desires and actions.
You need to go to church and confess, telling it like it is. The priest will help you and give advice. Do not stop praying daily, especially when the sinful desire is strong. If giving up malakia is very difficult, then to help yourself, you can start visiting church more often and surrounding yourself with icons at home.
To get rid of a sinful habit and thoughts about it, you should pray to the Most Holy Theotokos, who is a symbol of purity and chastity. The main thing is not to stop believing in cleansing and sincerely wishing for it.
Prayers for masturbation
Prayers that should be read at home with a sincere desire to get rid of a bad habit and cleanse your mind and body are presented below. You can also turn to saints who either were themselves subject to the same passions during their lives, or who helped get rid of fornication.
Lord Jesus
Almighty God, who created all creation with wisdom, raise me up with Your hand, having fallen through many sins: grant me Your help, and grant me freedom from worldly temptations, from the devil’s snares, and from carnal lusts. Have mercy and forgive me all who have sinned all the days of my life; anoint my soul with the oil of grace and generosity of Your only begotten Son, the Lord God and our Savior Jesus Christ, with Him all glory befits You and the Holy Spirit forever. Amen.
Prayer to the Wonderworker and Saint Euthymius of Novgorod
St. Euthymius had from the Lord a wonderful gift of delivering those suffering from carnal passion.
Father Saint Euthymius! From your youth you have loved Christ, and through His grace we are strengthened, you have put to death all carnal wisdom, by your pure life and meek disposition you have pleased the Lord, and by His grace, laboring on the throne of the holiness, you have appeared to the flock of Christ of Great Novograd, a good shepherd, your soul take care of your flock. Likewise, even after your death, the Chief Shepherd Christ glorified you with the donations of miracles flowing from you, showing us the image of a virtuous life in you. In the same way, I, sinful and sad, falling to the side of your relics, I earnestly pray to you: give me a helping hand, raise me with your prayers from the depths of sin: for I am overwhelmed by the waves of carnal passions and other countless everyday worries. Be that I, a sinner, warm to Christ, a representative and prayer book, and even if I am delivered from the drowning of sin, I will reach the refuge of an immaculate life by the grace of Christ, and with a pure life I will glorify my Savior, who redeemed me with His blood: and having finished this life, I will receive eternal life in the Kingdom Heaven, where the Most Honorable and Magnificent Name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit is glorified, now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to St. John the Long-Suffering
Rev. During his life, John was often tempted by demons, who kindled lust and passion in him. The saint, in order to get rid of filth, tested himself, exhausted himself with hunger, wore heavy chains, and completely, leaving only his head on the surface, buried himself in a hole. Once the saint spent the entire Great Lent in this position.
O sacred head, reverend father, most blessed Abbot John, do not forget your poor to the end, but always remember us in holy and auspicious prayers to God: remember your flock, which you yourself shepherded, and do not forget to visit your children, pray for us, father sacred, for your spiritual children, as you have boldness towards the Heavenly King: do not keep silent to the Lord for us, and do not despise us, who honor you with faith and love: remember us unworthy at the Throne of the Almighty, and do not stop praying for us to Christ God, for You have been given the grace to pray for us. We do not imagine that you are dead: even though you have passed away from us in body, but remain alive even after death, do not depart from us in spirit, keeping us from the arrows of the enemy and all the charms of the demonic and the machinations of the devil, to our good shepherd even more than the relics your cancer is always visible before our eyes, but your holy soul with the angelic hosts, with the disembodied faces, with the heavenly powers, standing at the throne of the Almighty, worthily rejoices, knowing that you are truly alive even after death, we fall down to you and we pray to you: pray about us to the Almighty God, about the benefit of our souls, and ask us time for repentance, so that we may pass from earth to heaven without restraint, and from bitter ordeals, demons of air princes and from eternal torment, may we be delivered from eternal torment, and may we be heirs of the Heavenly Kingdom with all the righteous, from all eternity have pleased our Lord Jesus Christ: to Him belongs all glory, honor and worship, with His Father without beginning, and with His Most Holy and Good and Life-giving Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Prayer to Saint Martinian of Caesarea
Saint Martinian was tempted by a harlot who came to his house. The monk threw himself on the hot coals to extinguish the growing passion and lust in his body, and stood there until he completely got rid of the misfortune. During his life he traveled a lot, moving from place to place, retiring to remote corners where there were no women.
Kontakion, tone 2
As skilful ascetics of piety, and a sufferer of honest will, and a desert dweller and inhabitant, let us worthily praise in song the ever-honorable Martinian: for he has trampled upon the serpent.
Ikos
From end to end, the broadcast of your red virtues and Divine deeds passed: when you were young in age, you desired to live in the deserts, singing to Christ, singing psalms and prayers ever after: but growing day and night in illnesses and tears, you ended your pure life and, wise, you have put to shame the evil one, for you have trampled upon the serpent.
Prayer to Saint Moses Ugrin
Rev. Moses was captured by the King of Poland and then ransomed by a wealthy Polish woman. A noble Lyakhina tried to involve her captive in a fornication, but the righteous husband did not succumb, since a pious life was more valuable to him. Then the Polish woman left the teacher. Moses was thrown into a pit, she was not given food for many days, she ordered him to be beaten, then she condemned him to be a eunuch and drove him away with dishonor.
O wonderful and God-bearing Father Moses, a great servant of Christ and a great miracle worker, we humbly fall down to you and pray: let us be partakers of your love for God and neighbor, help us to do the will of the Lord in simplicity of heart and humility, to fulfill the Lord’s commandments without sin, look with compassion for every soul of your faithful admirers who seek your mercy and help.
To her, all-merciful servant of God, hear us praying to you, and do not despise us, who demand your intercession and bring you a worthy song, we please you, Father Moses, we glorify you, purity of the lamp, glorifying the merciful God, in the Holy, Originless Trinity of the glorified Father and Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Good day, Sergey! The Holy Scriptures and the teachings of the Church unequivocally condemn homosexual sexual relations, seeing in them a vicious distortion of the God-created nature of man. If anyone lies with a man as with a woman, then both of them have committed an abomination (Lev. 20:13). The Bible tells of the grave punishment to which God subjected the inhabitants of Sodom (Gen. 19:1-29), according to the interpretation of the holy fathers, precisely for the sin of sodomy. The Apostle Paul, characterizing the moral state of the pagan world, names homosexual relations among the most shameful passions and lewdness that defile the human body: their women replaced their natural use with an unnatural one; Likewise, men, abandoning the natural use of the female sex, were inflamed with lust for one another, men committing shame on men and receiving in themselves the due retribution for their error (Rom. 1:26-28). Do not be deceived... neither the wicked nor the homosexuals... will inherit the Kingdom of God, the Apostle wrote to the inhabitants of corrupt Corinth (1 Cor. 6:9-10). Patristic tradition is equally clear and definitely condemns any manifestations of homosexuality. “The Teaching of the Twelve Apostles,” the works of Saints Basil the Great, John Chrysostom, Gregory of Nyssa, Blessed Augustine, and the canons of Saint John the Faster express the unchangeable teaching of the Church: homosexual relations are sinful and subject to condemnation. The people involved in them do not have the right to be members of the church clergy (Basily the Great pr. 7, Gregory Nis. pr. 4, John the Faster pr. 30). Addressing those stained by the sin of sodomy, the Monk Maxim cried out: “Know yourselves, accursed ones, what vile pleasure you have indulged in!.. Try as quickly as possible to get away from this foulest and foulest pleasure of yours, to hate it, and whoever claims that it is innocent, consign him to eternal life.” anathema as an opponent of the Gospel of Christ the Savior and corrupting its teaching. Purify yourself with sincere repentance, warm tears and feasible alms and pure prayer... Hate this wickedness with all your soul, so that you do not become sons of curse and eternal destruction.” Discussions about the position of so-called sexual minorities in modern society tend to recognize homosexuality not as a sexual perversion, but only as one of the “sexual orientations” that have an equal right to public expression and respect. It is also argued that homosexual attraction is due to individual natural predisposition. The Orthodox Church proceeds from the constant conviction that the divinely established marriage union of a man and a woman cannot be compared with perverted manifestations of sexuality. She considers homosexuality a sinful damage to human nature, which is overcome through spiritual effort, leading to healing and personal growth of a person. Homosexual aspirations, like other passions that torment fallen man, are healed by the Sacraments, prayer, fasting, reading the Holy Scriptures and patristic works, as well as Christian communication with people who believe in God and are ready to provide spiritual support . God bless you! Archpriest Alexey
How to repent of the sin of masturbation
In confession, it is better to call masturbation sinful or prodigal touches. The main thing is to speak honestly, openly and not be shy.
Although it is difficult to speak without embarrassment, the more truthfully and without deceit you tell about everything, the purer your soul will become, and the easier it will be to cleanse yourself.
You can write on a piece of paper if you are completely ashamed to admit your actions, and give the piece of paper to the priest.
Church ministers who constantly accept confession listen to everything they can during their lives, and they try to make it easier for a person to confess if they see that he is honest and open to conversation.
Causes and forms of malakia
Some psychologists, physiologists, and sex therapists consider masturbation a natural process or a bad habit. But mostly doctors agree that this is a disease and it needs to be treated. Causes of the disease:
- mental disorders - mental disability, increased excitability of the nervous system, stressful conditions;
- diseases of the genital organs in children, inflammatory processes in adults, increased sexual excitability;
- non-compliance with genital hygiene;
- childish, teenage handjob - interest in the genitals, adolescence, increased hormonal levels, increased sexual excitability;
- inability to perform normal sexual intercourse – prolonged separation, adolescence.
