When a drunkard lives in a family, her life turns into a living hell. Most often, it is a man, a husband, who takes the path of alcoholism. But it happens that a fatal illness overcomes his son. For a mother, this is a great grief, but she must not give up, she must fight, including offering her prayers to save her son from drunkenness. They help you gain strength, overcome despair, and not give up.
In moments of greatest mental suffering, the prayer addressed to the Lord for the son’s drunkenness becomes strong and effective.
Prayers to Matrona of Moscow
You can turn to different Saints for help and support. Among them is Matrona of Moscow, whose appeal has already repeatedly confirmed the effectiveness of the spoken words. It is better to learn the prayer for your son to stop drinking by heart and read it in front of the icon of the Matrona of Moscow in church or at home.
Blessed Elder Matrona, our intercessor and petitioner before the Lord! You look with your spiritual gaze both into the past and into the future, everything is open to you. Enlighten the servant of God (name), give advice, show the way to solving the problem of drunkenness. Thank you for your holy help. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Prayer to Matrona brought relief from a terrible illness to many. The desire to help one’s own child, to save him from an addiction, will not go unnoticed by the Holy Matrona of Moscow. A prayer for a drinking son will definitely be heard, and the one who prays will receive help and support!
It is better to read the words of the prayer so that no one distracts the praying mother. But if this is impossible to do, or the drinking son is in the same room where the mother is praying for his healing and deliverance from drunkenness and alcoholism, you need to read it while being at a certain distance from him.
Recommendations from a psychologist for parents
When communicating with a drinker, you must behave calmly but confidently. The mother's behavior should show that the situation is under control and everything can be corrected.
Useful tips for parents:
- If, for no apparent reason, your son begins to abuse alcohol, you need to maintain a friendly atmosphere at home. In the face of scandals and reproaches, he is unlikely to reveal the reasons for his drunkenness or ask for help.
- It is advisable to have conversations with the addict on the topic of the harm of alcohol or even give examples of friends who managed to overcome their addiction.
- When your son often drinks the bottle, it’s a good idea to redistribute responsibilities. He should have his own business, extra free time and parasitism only contributes to the development of alcohol addiction.
- It is necessary to vividly describe to the addict the prospects without and with alcohol. He must understand what he is losing by giving up a sober lifestyle.
- You will definitely have to take measures to protect the addict from the negative influence of his current company and regularly drinking friends.
An adult must be gradually prepared for the need to go to a rehabilitation clinic. A voluntary decision to undergo treatment shows better results than forced therapy, after which addicts relapse.
Prayer before the icon “Inexhaustible Chalice”
To prevent a son from drinking alcohol, he must receive a positive example in the family and feel the help and support of his loved ones. In this case, the help of mother and father is especially great if he is not a drinker and leads a healthy lifestyle.
It would be good if during this period it is possible to involve your son in attending church, but even if this does not happen, prayer in front of the “Inexhaustible Chalice” icon will help to overcome the illness, in addition to other actions taken.
Oh, Most Gracious Lady! We now resort to Your intercession, do not despise our prayers, but mercifully hear us, wives, children and mothers, and heal those who are obsessed with the serious illness of drunkenness and for the sake of our mother, the Church of Christ, and the salvation of our fallen brothers and sisters and relatives. Oh, Merciful Mother of God, touch their hearts and quickly raise them from the falls of sin, bring them to saving abstinence. Pray to Your Son, Christ our God, to forgive us our sins and not to turn His mercy away from His people, but to strengthen us in sobriety and chastity. Accept, O Most Holy Theotokos, the prayers of mothers who shed tears for their children, of wives who weep for their husbands, of children, the orphaned and the poor, abandoned as lost, and of all of us who fall before Your icon. And may this cry of ours, through Your prayers, come to the Throne of the Most High. Cover and protect us from the evil deception and all the snares of the enemy, and in the terrible hour of our exodus, help us to pass through the airy ordeal without stumbling with Your prayers, deliver us from eternal condemnation, may God’s mercy cover us for endless ages. Amen.
The prayer “The Inexhaustible Chalice” can often be the only way to save a son from binge drinking. Its effectiveness has been tested by time and has returned more than one lost person to normal life.
Causes of drunkenness in men
Alcoholism consists of physical and psychological dependence, which is especially dangerous and insidious.
Psychologists have identified the main reasons why young, strong and healthy men are drawn to the bottle. 1. Failures at work. 2. Problems in your personal life. 3. Inconsistency of one’s own strengths with the goals set. 4. Depression. The first thing a mother needs to do if her son drinks is to understand her child and under no circumstances judge him. Who knows what's going on in his life. Maybe his girlfriend left him or there was a conflict at work. Often men over 30 years of age drink because they are unsettled.
His peers already have families, separate housing and successful jobs, but he has none of this.
Understand your child and gently encourage an open conversation. Psychologists know how to help an alcoholic son; he needs to see the root of the problem himself.
Push him to the right thoughts. Let him analyze the situation himself.
Prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker for his son's drunkenness
A prayer to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker can help in getting rid of your son’s drunkenness. She is an example of the safest and most affordable way to return her beloved son to normal life. And although turning to the Saint is not a panacea, reading a prayer helps not to give up, gain strength to support your beloved child and receive help from above.
Holy Wonderworker, Nicholas the Pleasant! I turn to you with a motherly request.
You always help those who ask you for assistance in matters of life.
So listen to my request.
I ask you to have mercy on me and send my son deliverance from bitter drunkenness, which is destroying his soul and body.
I ask you, Wonderworker Nicholas, to send disgust on him in vodka and
to any other alcoholic drinks.
Deliver my son from internal cravings that are harmful and harmful to health, let everything intoxicated become disgusting and tasteless for him.
Do this, Saint Nicholas, so that my son will never again be able to drink alcohol without feeling disgust in his soul and strong disgust.
Do this, Pleasant of God, who became famous for his miracles during his lifetime, so that my son will not be able to drink alcohol either day or night, not at a party, not at home, not on a weekday, not on a holiday.
May Your strong word forever stop my son from his destructive drunken passion.
Just as none of the Saints ever drank vodka, so may my son, the Servant of God (son’s name), never drink it and forget about it forever.
Amen.
Prerequisites for the development of alcoholism
As noted above, in our society there is a high tolerance for alcohol abuse. Literally everything is considered a reason for drinking: from a promotion to a large-scale purchase. We are even more lenient about drinking alcohol if the reason is sad: the death of a loved one, divorce, financial difficulties.
Alcohol doesn't solve any problems. On the contrary, it can aggravate existing ones and add new ones. When a son drinks, justifying his behavior with life’s difficulties, it is important to point this out to him in time.
Narcologists have heard many explanations of the behavior of alcoholics. They often say that the initial prerequisite for drinking alcohol was an extraordinary event: the illness of a loved one, family difficulties, financial losses.
There is some truth in these stories. We tend to turn to drinking in difficult life situations. Alcohol helps you forget for a while.
It's important to remember that drinking is not the norm. If a loved one drinks a few glasses of vodka after a sad event, this is not yet a reason for concern. You need to sound the alarm when drinking becomes a habit. A week passes, another, a month, six months, and your son still relieves stress with alcohol? It's time to take action.
What prayers are there so that your son doesn’t drink?
The Church believes that a drinking person is possessed by demons, and only God and prayer can help him.
However, God does not come where he is not expected, and an alcoholic is often in a difficult spiritual state and cannot understand his problem himself. In this case, it is up to his loved ones to save the demon-possessed person. Priests recommend that the mother read the prayer to the martyr Boniface or the “Inexhaustible Chalice” prayer about her drinking son, which is read near the Icon of the Mother of God.
Mothers of sons of alcoholics should be churchgoers, take prayer seriously, and do good deeds in the name of saving the patient.
If a young man has realized his problem and is ready to fight it, you will be interested in an article about traditional methods of treating alcoholism.
Pre-revolutionary Russia
This problem has long been recognized as a national Russian trait, but this was not always the case - before the revolution, our compatriots drank much less than Europeans, and, nevertheless, the problem existed even then. However, in those days, people firmly knew that without God it was impossible to overcome any adversity, so they turned to Him and the saints for help. The well-known image of the Most Holy Theotokos “The Inexhaustible Chalice,” which became famous in the city of Serpukhov, was approached by both drinkers themselves asking for relief from their illness, and by their relatives.
Icon of the Blessed Virgin Mary “Inexhaustible Chalice”
The life of Blessed Xenia of St. Petersburg contains evidence of assistance to the families of drunkards. Righteous John of Krostad (Sergiev) not only fervently prayed for those suffering from drunkenness, but also helped them with real deeds: he created the House of Diligence, participated in the work of sobriety societies, and composed teachings for those suffering from this sin.
John of Krostad
Here is one of St. John’s statements on this matter: “With <...> drunkenness, the disembodied enemy enters the heart of a person - anyone who is attentive can feel this. This is the reason why, with increasing drunkenness, the tendency to drunkenness increases so terribly (because the power of the enemy over a person increases), why such a force is noticeable among drunkards, attracting them involuntarily to satisfy a passion or internal desire for wine: these unfortunates have an enemy in their hearts. How to cast out the demon of drunkenness? By prayer and fasting. The enemy enters because people indulge in a carnal lifestyle, gluttony and do not pray; it is natural that he can leave them for the opposite reasons: fasting and prayer.”
Read an interesting article on the topic: “Note to Saint Matrona of Moscow: what to ask for and how to send”
The role of sacred words and their impact on humans
Alcoholism is always strongly associated with the serpent. This happened for a reason. Even in the Holy Scriptures the snake is mentioned as a symbol of vice and sin. This creature encouraged humanity to take the wrong path. Alcoholism is a great sin. It destroys families and destroys lives.
It is not the addicts themselves who suffer more, but their families. Alcoholics are not critical and therefore it is not important for them whether they have an addiction. It doesn’t cause them as much heartache as their loved ones.
The greatest suffering is experienced by women who remain with such husbands. It is difficult for them to come up with a punishment stronger than watching their spouse constantly drink and slide into the abyss of addiction. The children in the family take a bad example from their alcoholic father. For them, despite his addiction, he is an undeniable authority, so in the future they will copy his behavior, even if unconsciously.
A dependent person stops thinking like other people. His whole mind is occupied with only one thought - how to find a new dose of alcohol. The habit clouds a person’s mind so much that he ceases to be aware of himself and the world around him. All that interests him from now on is just the bottle. Treatment with medications in such cases can be of little help. If a person does not want to accept therapy, the only option that remains for family and friends is prayer. Only sacred words can convert a person to faith and help him recover from his illness. The main thing on this path is to provide him with support and encouragement. This way a person will feel more confident.
The main advantages of reading prayers over other methods, which often turn out to be completely ineffective:
- no one can demand payment for prayer - this is an impulse of the human soul, which is free;
- prayers are not something extremely clever and complex: words can come from a person’s heart, for saints the level of literacy is not important, for them the main thing is sincerity and repentance;
- prayers act quickly enough if the alcoholic sincerely believes in them;
- An addicted person’s worldview changes, he begins to appreciate every moment he lives.
If a man sincerely believes in prayer, then most likely he will soon give up alcohol on his own
Other ways you can help your drinking son
Complete recovery from alcoholism is possible when a person is willing to do so. Without desire nothing will happen. Is it just a temporary effect?
Coding
This procedure is based on two factors:
- A person's confidence in the expected result.
- Method of suggestion.
The disadvantage of the procedure is that the person will continue to suffer from alcoholism. But he won’t drink. And at this time he may come to the conclusion that he needs to change.
The influence on a person is carried out as a result of providing him with special information, which causes him the necessary emotional experiences, ideas, sensations. At the same time, the patient is not actively involved in what is happening, he does not evaluate, does not criticize the situation, does not analyze it. This method is called “25 frame”. The role of the “25th frame” itself is performed by the doctor.
How to read a prayer correctly
There are several general rules to follow:
- Say the prayer sincerely, concentrate on every word.
- Don’t be distracted, think only about a difficult situation (about how to save a loved one from constant drinking).
- Read words clearly, with expression (aloud or whisper).
- Believe deeply in what is being said.
Words will gain power if they are spoken within the walls of a church or temple with the blessing of the priest.
Holy water is a must. You need to drink it for 40 days on an empty stomach, while fasting at the same time. Store water only in glass.
