Good day. Today I will tell you “When they go to the cemetery after a funeral.” Visiting a cemetery after a funeral has a number of points that relatives and friends need to know.
Firstly, it concerns the welfare of the living. On certain dates they have a greater chance of being heard by the deceased. This means a little peace of mind in the fact that all their appeals reach the addressee. To ease the weight of loss a little, knowing that they are seen and heard by the people they love.
Secondly, your arrival also matters to spirits. They are remembered - in another world this is valued and supports the deceased. How to properly address the deceased so that he comes to his grave in the cemetery and hears you, for more details, see the article whether the dead see us in the cemetery.
In addition, in the article “When people go to a cemetery after a funeral,” I will talk about one technique that does not require any magical intervention, but helps to see the deceased - calling someone to sleep by going to the cemetery. You will learn how to behave correctly in such cases so that the dream does not turn into trouble.
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When after a funeral they go to the cemetery.
People go to the cemetery to communicate with loved ones. And there is always the hope that they will see you, hear all the apologies, suffering and pain. That you needed them, dears. If all the conditions are met, then they will really see you.
One of these important conditions is the day of the visit. You can go whenever you want, but on some days the chances of being heard increase significantly, because these are significant days for the deceased and they can expect visitors:
- 3 days after the funeral;
- 9 days after the funeral;
- 40 days after the funeral;
- six months;
- year;
- birthday;
- day of death;
- parental Saturdays (first Saturday after Easter/Trinity/Christmas);
- radonitsa;
- individual dates.
- Navi day.
- Beltane or Walpurgis Day (those who died from fire).
- Ivan bathed (drowned and drowned in the water).
- Halloween. (All Saints' Day)
On these dates, the line between the worlds of the living and the dead is thinner, that is, it is much easier to reach them and invite them to communicate. Be sure to show respect to the deceased and say hello and goodbye when visiting.
Traditions of visiting graves: where did it come from and what does it mean?
Visiting the ashes of ancestors is a ritual event that was established many thousands of years ago. Then people endowed everything around with divine meanings. In particular, the transition to another world (death) was recognized as an otherworldly phenomenon of the transformation of an individual. The deceased became an accomplice of divine or devilish forces.
In any case, approaching the Highest gives, in the view of the ancients, power unprecedented for a human being. From heaven or hell, the spirit will be able to take revenge for past insults or reward for good deeds.
To appease the deceased, it was necessary to show honor to the resting place. The graves were not abandoned. At first they were marked with runic symbols. Then came the tradition of fencing and decorating with flowers and trees. Orthodox Christians put up a cross - a symbol of faith.
Abandoned burial sites that have fallen into disrepair mean the spiritual death of the family. Descendants forgot about their ancestors and erased them from memory. Consequently, they became mired in sinfulness and left the ancestral path of development and prosperity.
Individual dates.
Visiting relatives, father and mother, is best done on Saturdays. Especially on the above mentioned parental Saturdays. Saturday is also cemetery day. Therefore, it is better for parents to set aside these particular days, and on others to visit other loved ones.
If the deceased has not yet moved away from the line between the living and the dead, then some individual dates may be important to him. For example, New Year, wedding day. It also depends on the personal relationship between him and the visitor.
For example, a husband comes to his wife’s grave on the day they met. There is a special connection between them on this day. This means that there is a huge chance that his wife will come to her grave and hear him. If your husband gave flowers that day, then it wouldn’t hurt to bring the same ones to the grave. Find out what flowers are best to bring to a grave here.
Particular believers celebrate certain dates of their faith. Muslims have one, Orthodox have another. Therefore, these days you can find them in the cemetery.
Pomana.
It is advisable (and on obligatory dates, and possible during other visits) to make a pomana if you are not indifferent to the future of the deceased. It has a beneficial effect on his soul. Pomana can be performed in four ways.
- Leave candies, fruits, cookies, and a memorial scarf in a bag on the cross. Since the dead person is helpless (there is no body), relatives feed strangers on his behalf. This can improve the fate of the deceased in the next world. This way he does something good for his neighbors, which means he covers up his bad deeds during his lifetime.
- Ask someone passing by at the cemetery to take a gift. By this, he would, as it were, testify to death, testify to the respect shown to the dead.
- Invite a stranger to dinner after the cemetery. The same principle is to feed on behalf of the deceased, to please one’s neighbor.
- In the high year, before going to the grave, mana is distributed to three hands - to the first three people who meet.
How to call the deceased to sleep.
For such a dream, it is necessary to come along the road that was taken to the funeral of the deceased, and to leave along the road that was used to leave him. Down to the smallest detail - the route, the same turns, the same path between the graves. The soul will follow you along the funeral road (following the funeral call) into sleep.
Usually this is done closer to night, so that the only thing left to do at home is go to bed. It is important not to put too much stress on yourself at home.
During such a visit, it is advisable to bring something to the grave, commemorate it fully, light a candle and ask for news, an answer to your question. Using this method, you do not force, but ask to come.
Therefore, the deceased may agree, or maybe not. There are several reasons for this:
- Availability of communication. Most often this works when there is a close connection - family, friendship, love. The moment of emotional connection is important; it is what holds the channel between the deceased and the living. If it is not there, then communication may not work out.
- A really important matter for the dead. For simple questions, it is better to choose a safer method. This is a more dangerous method and is not used often. Because the untimely deceased can take the living with him.
- The right offering. Showing respect, care and attention will play a positive role in the matter. If you do not follow this rule, you may face consequences.
- The location of the soul. The soul may be in the "waiting room" for its fate, or it may be in purgatory or another place.
- New incarnation. If the spirit has already passed into a new life, then it will not come to sleep.
Therefore, it is important when they go to the cemetery after a funeral.
What to do if burial sites are far away
In modern conditions, it is not always possible to go to the ashes to restore order. A specialized service will take care of these duties for a fee. But commemoration cannot be delegated completely.
Organize the following events:
- Keep a photo of the deceased, read the psalter.
- Share good memories with your children. Do not forget the ancient friends of the departed.
- Order a memorial service at the church, light candles.
When to go to relative crosses is a personal matter. While honoring the buried, do not forget about the living. They need you much more.
What is typical for meeting the dead in a dream?
The meeting is organized according to the rules of the dead world. Or rather, on the verge of contact between the living and dead worlds. This is a border place; a person does not penetrate into the world of the dead and does not call the deceased to his territory. This means that it does not disturb his peace, does not interfere with after death.
A dead person will not become alive, but a living person can die. Therefore, you cannot cross the border. If you abuse the method, if you cross borders, then you can feel the influence of the forces that are responsible for observing the rules of the border world. They can discourage you in any way and prevent you from seeing the dead person again.
Why is it forbidden to visit graves often?
Centuries of experience have proven that memory loss has a detrimental effect on everyday life. If you constantly run to the mounds of your relatives, then your energy will go to waste. And energy is given to a person to solve his own pressing problems: creating a family, raising offspring, self-realization.
Time is a resource of life. Spending it on trips to burial sites means depriving other purposes. There won't be enough for everything. The material sphere or heart region will be affected. Children, living parents, friends will feel abandoned. What's good?
Religious beliefs
The clergy do not strictly regulate the frequency of trips to the tombs. They are inclined to recommend that it is not the piece of land above the coffin that should be honored, but the soul. The order of interaction with burial is traditionally fixed. Once a year, paint, dig, plant flowers.
Devote the rest of your time to funeral prayer. Ask the local priest to read the name of the deceased in a special service. Focus your efforts on glorifying your ancestor with godly deeds. Then the soul will rest in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Explanation of psychologists
Forgetting the deceased is unacceptable. However, excessive immersion in sadness is a path along the beaten path of the newly deceased. Nervous overload undermines the body. Diseases will take over the body, but there will be no strength to resist.
It’s even worse when children are involved in the hikes. The younger generation has no place among the dead. Remembering grandparents once is enough for the educational process.
Pregnant women are prohibited from walking on non-recommended days. Their body is constantly being rebuilt. Life-giving forces are aimed at the formation of the fetus. It's no good to tear off pieces and give them to the dead.
Reasonings of esotericists
A person is obliged to harmoniously distribute his own potential. You're supposed to grieve, but not forever. By sinking into despair, you betray the memory of a loved one. His immortal particle needs to feel not only your burning tears. He needs to contemplate the joy of those left behind on earth.
Obsessing over issues is harmful to living things. The aura darkens, causing damage to organs. And there is no more energy left for creation. Personal and family space is seriously damaged. In fact, it gradually becomes thinner, and then the very life of the grieving person is erased.
Frequent stay in a mournful atmosphere leads to a skew of energy towards the negative. The field is supposed to be cleaned. But these people usually don’t do it.
How does the location of the soul affect sleep?
The soul can be in different places. For example, if this is purgatory, then the dead may not be allowed to go to sleep. Send a messenger instead, who will take the form of a person close to you. And he will say what is supposed to be said, what the dead man indicated.
If the dead man himself came, then his time, actions, topics and words will be limited. Let us note two points here.
Firstly, with his words he can change your life and even afterlife (yours, his), say something that you are not supposed to know, which has a strong impact on reality.
Secondly, before going to bed you need to clearly know your goal, what you want to know, say, receive. Because time is limited.
What to cook on the 40th day?
The purpose of a funeral meal is to remember the deceased person and help his soul rest in peace. Food is not the main component of lunch, so it is not necessary to set a rich table and feed the people who come with delicacies. When creating a menu, you need to follow several important rules:
- An obligatory attribute of the funeral table is kutia. It is prepared from rice or millet, as well as pancakes without filling. In Orthodox traditions, kutia has an important sacred meaning. It helps to comprehend the frailty of existence and alleviate the bitterness of the loss of a loved one;
- it is advisable to bake pies with different fillings in accordance with the long-standing funeral custom of Christians;
- if the fortieth day falls on fasting, meat dishes should be excluded from the menu. If not, then it is recommended to prepare simple meat dishes, such as cutlets or cabbage rolls;
- It is allowed to serve fish in various forms. These can be both first and second courses. Fish is one of the important symbols of the Christian faith, so there are practically no restrictions on its preparation;
- For salads, it is better to choose lean dressings. It is advisable to exclude the use of mayonnaise and other artificial sauces;
- Traditionally, the deceased’s favorite dish is prepared on the fortieth day;
- Do not overfill the table with sweets. It is enough to put on the table several plates with cheesecakes, cherry pies, cookies and sweets;
- Compote, bread kvass, fruit drink, berry jelly, and lemonade are good drinks for a funeral meal.
Why is this method dangerous?
Since a dream does not require any intervention from anyone else, for example, a magician, the responsibility lies only with the person. Under no circumstances should you leave with a dead person in your dream. This could result in death. And it will be only your decision.
Therefore, sleep is rarely used for very important issues. Because there is no reason to take risks, for example, for the hidden money of a deceased person. But when you can’t let go of a person, when it’s hard for you to cope with a loss, you want to say goodbye, when you need reassurance, forgiveness - then this method is suitable.
You need to leave the deceased as soon as you receive an answer, when the objectives of the meeting are completed. The meeting itself takes place only for knowledge, for the peace of the living. No more.
If everything is done correctly, there will be no consequences. The main thing is not to leave with the dead and treat him with respect. Also, you should not look into the eyes of a dead person - this can cause his anger. Often the eyes of the dead are empty. They themselves lower their gaze in dreams.
Not all dead people are called to sleep. It is better not to call criminals or those who died a violent death. They are in negative worlds. This means that the dream will be negative.
The guards are often released with them. And if something goes wrong, then you get it both from the warden and from the heart. Sometimes the souls themselves say not to come to them, not to run into trouble.
Such meetings can damage people’s psyche, so it’s better not to overuse it. The method is suitable for balanced people, and if there are any mental problems, then it is better to use other methods of contact.
