Funeral speech at a funeral text - farewell words spoken in memory of the deceased by his family and friends. They are pronounced over the grave of the buried with all their hearts. The speaker talks about important and significant events associated with this person, his achievements, and also speaks on the good side about the character and personality of the deceased. It is advisable if he says this orally, and not reads it from a piece of paper.
Quite a lot of people attend funerals and wakes. Mostly these are relatives and friends of the deceased, but there are others - colleagues, acquaintances, school friends and others. As a rule, the head of the family or the oldest and closest person is the first to pronounce the funeral words. If he is in a strong emotional state, then others present can speak at the wake.
“My grandmother was a wonderful person with a difficult but interesting life. She, along with her three younger brothers and sister, were raised by her mother alone during the difficult post-war years. To say that they lived poorly then means nothing.
say. She had to endure many difficulties and hardships, but she never lost her optimism and presence of mind, constantly helping her mother and taking care of the younger members of the family. And later, having married her military grandfather, she steadfastly endured all the hardships of service. In any circumstances, she always maintained exemplary order at home and taught all family members to do so. Grandma was sometimes strict, but fair. I am glad that I managed to learn from her neatness and order, the ability to organize my life. And her famous apple pies were simply incomparable, no one else could do them! I will always remember you, my dear, beloved grandmother! Your warmth, love and care will remain with us forever.”
If others don’t know you well, then at the beginning of your speech you should introduce yourself and explain under what circumstances you met the deceased. The funeral speech should contain words of gratitude towards the deceased and reflect his positive qualities. You can mention any significant moment that occurred with the participation of the deceased.
“I’ll introduce myself for those who don’t know me:
my name is (name). We have worked together with (name of deceased) for the past few years and I would like to say a few words in memory of him. He was a true professional in his field, a Specialist with a capital S. Many of our colleagues, young and not only, learned the basics of their craft from him and often used his advice and help. He was very patient and responsive, he could always listen to everyone who turned to him for support, advise something, help out, and never refused anyone’s requests. He could perfectly lift the spirits of anyone who was upset, confused or depressed about something. The countless funny stories, toasts, jokes and anecdotes he told could amuse anyone. We will all greatly miss him at our dinner gatherings and corporate events, where he invariably shone at the table, lifting our morale. There is no other person like him in our team. And maybe it won’t be in my memory anymore. We will all miss him greatly. Until the end of his life, he will remain in my memory and the memory of all our colleagues as an example of perseverance, sparkling cheerfulness, activity and professionalism! Rest in peace dear colle
It is advisable if you prepare the words for the wake in advance and memorize them. Because a well-formulated text will sound good and be perceived by others. And sluggish, boring speech with hesitations can be regarded as disrespect for the deceased and his family. If you are afraid that you will forget the words, you can take with you a piece of paper with a sample of the funeral speech. You need to pronounce words clearly and slowly. You need to speak confidently and so that others can hear you, but not too loudly.
"Friends! The deceased worked honestly at the (name) enterprise for more than twenty years. We all knew him as a decent, honest and modest person. They were valued for their skillful hands and reliable character. We will miss his many invisible but irreplaceable contributions to the work! The bright memory of him will remain in our hearts!”
“Friends, the best of us has gone to another world. We are all deeply saddened. Our souls are bleeding from untimely loss. The deceased was a support to all of us. He was the first to help, did not wait for requests or
complaints. His kind heart and wide soul were always open. He was a clear light and guide in a difficult and dangerous world for all of us, his friends! May the soul of this magnificent man rest in peace! We will always remember him with a feeling of light sadness mixed with secret melancholy!”
“All his life, our father was a worthy example not only to his children, but also to those around him. In everyday life, he demonstrated a wise understanding of true values, kindness and devotion. Any person left him with an enlightened soul. And to us, his children, our father instilled a love for people, a high sense of responsibility and devotion to the Motherland. We consider his departure unfairly early. Eternal, blessed memory to him!”
“Our grandfather was a very kind and good person. His path was long and difficult. He perceived all the difficulties that befell the country as his own. He worked and raised children without complaining about the lack of benefits, lack of food or amenities. He raised children and was a support for his grandchildren. This magnificent man will be greatly missed by all of us. May his memory be blessed!”
Words of condolences are expressed not only in
the time of funerals, but also on days of remembrance of the deceased. They say a speech at funerals 40 days later, a year from the date of death, as well as during Parents' Saturdays and other Orthodox holidays. Speeches can be made both at the cemetery and during funeral dinners.
At this event, all deceased relatives and friends are remembered. They remember what they were like during life, what they were interested in, what they loved. Words of condolences are spoken and the blessed memory of the deceased is honored. It is forbidden to say anything bad about the deceased or to recall old grievances. It’s either good or nothing, says the popular saying.
At the hour of remembrance, until the pain of loss has subsided, the first thing to remember is delicacy
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Find out how to choose words of condolences, read examples of words of condolences and obituary rules. These guides will provide insight into the ethics of remembrance
and provide
the right words of comfort
.
But the funeral speech
has its own specifics.
In it you address a whole circle of guests
who have gathered to console loved ones, remember the deceased themselves and listen to what friends and relatives have to say about him.
Your words are awaited, and your funeral speech
may sound with
more pathos
than is customary when expressing condolences in person.
Words of grief directly at the funeral should be extremely brief, but speech at the wake may not be limited to a couple of phrases.
Funeral speech at a wake
Focus the audience's attention on the character trait that your story demonstrates.
Any negative trait has a bright side. Examples of complimentary synonyms:
About a grumpy person you can say, “He taught me a lesson in looking at the world critically.” About the tight-fisted one: “Caution, rationality and foresight are what we all lack today, and what we can learn from the deceased.” Carelessness in finances: “He was so confident in a better future...” Suspiciousness: “Knew human nature...” Not very smart: “Trusting, naive, trusted people so much...” Arrogant: “Knew his worth, only the best entered his circle... » Stubborn, stubborn: “Principled...” Amenable, without a core: “Conflict-free... His credo is compromise.”
In a funeral speech, it is appropriate to share personal experiences in relationships with the deceased.
Preparing for the funeral
So, the 40-day commemoration begins. The procedure for holding them is not much different from the third day, except that the intensity of passions has subsided a little, and the day is much more important.
First of all, a wake is not a reason to get drunk. This is seeing off a loved one to the best of worlds, saying goodbye to him, the opportunity for everyone to remember something good about him, and only then following traditions and heart-warming speeches. But no particularly original speeches are needed. This won't make it any easier for anyone.
You should not invite people with whom the deceased did not have the warmest relationship, even if they had known each other for a long time. A wake is a person’s last holiday, and there is no need for him to spoil it. So it is best if only family and friends are present.
Funeral meal
You can hold a funeral dinner at home, or in a restaurant - it’s not the location that matters. Of course, there are also many superstitions associated with ritual meals, for example, that knives and forks should not be used during meals. And why? No one knows. They wrote on some website, a neighbor confirmed it, which means it’s impossible. Well, isn't this stupid?
Although sometimes the meal is given too much importance, here is an example of a memorial table for 40 days. Menu
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Of course, this is not a constant. The funeral menu depends not only on the imagination and financial capabilities of the organizers, but also, for example, on the calendar, because if there is a fast - Great Lent, etc., then it is better to abstain from meat.
Drinking alcoholic beverages is acceptable, but is strictly discouraged. After all, it is a sin.
Solemn speech
So, 40 days after death. Wake. “What should I say so as not to offend the deceased?” - and a panicked search of the Internet begins in search of the most original toasts.
Usually a responsible person is appointed who is relatively in control of himself, and he thinks through his speech in advance. But each of those present must say at least a couple of words. Since they are at the wake on this sad day, it means that this person was dear to them. After each speech, it is important to observe a minute of silence - during it it is better to pray than to stress yourself out and, as a result, cry.
At a wake, you should not sing, recite a poem, dance (even under the pretext that the deceased loved to dance), etc. Seeing off a loved one on their last journey is, of course, a tragic event, but it is better to give it an aura of philosophy than hysteria .
Do not forget that there are church holidays of remembrance - for example, Radonitsa, when it is worth going to the deceased in the cemetery and putting the grave in order.
Unfortunately, most people remember death exclusively at someone's funeral. But remember that you will still have the opportunity to meet the deceased face to face at the Last Judgment and, with a successful combination of circumstances, in the Kingdom of Heaven. So the separation is only temporary, and it is better to spend the allotted time for the benefit of your own soul.
It should be understood that at a funeral a funeral speech is made, which is addressed to the entire circle of guests. A funeral is a rather difficult event and relatives choose a person with good diction and who knew the deceased well.
If you are reading a memorial speech, then you should not rely on improvisation; there is nothing wrong if you record the speech. Optimal speaking time up to 5 minutes
. You should not retell the entire biography of the deceased. The speaker must select the brightest, most important, good moments that highlight all the best qualities of the deceased.
Since you personally knew the deceased, you can remember a kind deed, good words, or moments, and also emphasize how significant this person was to you. At the end of the speech they usually talk about what the deceased taught us, what benefits he did, that he did not live his life in vain.
In a funeral speech, you cannot recall the shortcomings and bad deeds of the deceased; remember that good things can be said about a bad person. For example, if a person was greedy, then we can say that although he did not always know how to share joy with others, he is an example for us of how to be happy ourselves and achieve everything with our own work! In this way, guests will learn about the deceased, his busy life, and good deeds.
Warm words warm the souls of guests and relatives, thus making the loss easier to bear.
An example of composing a speech:
1. Appeal
:
Dear guests [Name]! -Dear relatives and friends! -Dear family and friends of our beloved [Name]
2. Who you are
:
I am the husband of our revered [Name]. -I am the sister of [Name] whom we remember today. -[Name] and I have worked/served together for a long time/in recent years.
3. About how it all happened
:
My mother was ill for a long time; we understood what would happen, but when we got a call from the hospital... -When I found out that [Name] died, that evening I couldn’t think about anything else. -Although my grandfather lived a long life, the news of his death shocked me. -Today is 9 days since my mother left us. -A year ago we said goodbye to [Name], a respected and worthy person.
4. A few words about the best qualities of the deceased
:
Grandmother was the kindest person, often receiving guests in her cozy house in the village. -She was very generous, and her smile gave everyone a good mood. -He was known as an optimist and a person with whom it was easy to go through life. “He was a support for all of us; you could always rely on him in difficult times.
Remember that a eulogy at a funeral should come from your heart.
, just take a pen and write about what is in your soul, describe the deceased. It’s better if your speech is not formally correct, but sincere, which will touch the hearts of the guests.
An example of a funeral speech here contains few facts from life, but the speech was spoken from the heart:
Dear relatives and friends! I am the husband of our revered [Name]. Having learned about the tragedy, I could not believe what had happened for a long time, I could not think about anything all evening and it still seems to me that this was just a dream. Not many people know how pure and bright a person [Name] was. Already at the age of 18, she made her first journey, and this passion for seeing new things remained forever in her heart. We met on one of these trips; it was an unforgettable month in an unforgettable city. We both considered ourselves free as birds, and did not want to tie the knot, but this acquaintance turned everything upside down. She was an incredibly kind and sympathetic person. She always helped strangers, always took into account the opinions of others and avoided conflicts. I’m glad that, although for so little, I was with her and was able to enjoy the purity, tenderness and feelings that [Name] gave me. I will always remember you [Name], your warm smile will forever remain in our hearts!
Wake after funeral
People who were invited there usually come to the wake. This is understandable, because lunch is ordered for a certain number of people. At the wake, over a quiet, unhurried conversation, the deceased is remembered with kind words. You can make a speech for everyone present, or you can just talk with your closest neighbors at the table.
Usually a wake is held on the 3rd day after death, that is, on the day of the funeral. The Slavs believe that it is on this day that the soul of the deceased appears for the first time before the Lord. Therefore, the main and first dish at a wake is funeral kutia - a Slavic ritual dish. Kutya grains symbolize resurrection to a new life, and honey - the sweetness of peace in another world.
At a wake, loud jokes, noise, laughter and swear words are inappropriate. You can laugh if such an atmosphere arises on the initiative of the relatives of the deceased, when, for example, in a conversation they remember some funny incident related to him. This is a good memory that works no worse than prayer. It is not customary to drink alcohol at funerals.
At the end of lunch, you may be given pies, cookies or sweets to take home. You cannot refuse a treat; you can treat it to other people. After all, it is generally accepted that the more people remember the deceased well, the easier it will be for his soul to ascend to heaven and go to heaven.
After the wake, when saying goodbye, you need to once again approach your relatives and say simple words of sympathy. Then you can leave. It would be very noble not to leave grief-stricken people unattended. You can call or stop by in the coming days to show that life goes on, and your communication will also continue.
What is the meaning of a funeral ceremony?
It is important to know that the essence of the funeral rite is to make the transition of the soul of a deceased person to another world painless, to help the soul appear before God, to feel peace and tranquility. And this is achieved through prayers. Everything that will be said about the deceased person on this day: kind words, prayers, good memories and speeches will help the soul to withstand God's judgment. Therefore, it is so important to observe all the traditions associated with this day and know how to conduct a commemoration 40 days after death.
The main thing on this day is to pray. You can do this yourself, or you can invite a priest.
Funeral speech at a funeral, farewell words to the deceased
Conclude that the person did not live his life in vain and promise eternal memory in the hearts of the relatives and friends of the deceased. “May he/she rest in peace! Everlasting memory!" You can end your funeral speech with these words, but many will do this. It is better to choose an appropriate epitaph that is in tune with the personality of the deceased:
- If you or the deceased are believers, look here: religious epitaphs, Christian epitaphs, prayer epitaphs or phrases from the Bible.
- If, on the contrary, the deceased is a consistent atheist, then here.
- For the deceased of a philosophical mindset - here, as well as epitaphs about the meaning of life.
- There are many beautiful ideas for words of grief in universal ones or in epitaphs on behalf of the deceased.
Protocol of commemoration At a wake, you need to stand and honor the deceased with a minute of silence. The leader’s mission is entrusted to a person close to the family, who will be able to control his emotions in a mourning environment.
Commemoration on the fortieth day in the church
Church commemoration is the mention of the name of the deceased during prayer during the Liturgy for the salvation of the soul and the eternal good of the person being remembered. The ceremony is carried out after the relatives of the deceased submit a note “On repose”. It is important to know that this note contains the names only of those who were baptized in the Orthodox Church.
For the relatives of the deceased, the best type of donation would be a candle for the deceased. At the moment of installing the candle, you need to pray for the repose of the soul, asking the Lord to forgive the voluntary and involuntary sins of the deceased person.
According to the canons of Orthodoxy, funeral services (40 days after death) are not held before the established date. If, by coincidence, it is necessary to carry out the ceremony on an earlier date, then on the next weekend after the forties, it is necessary to give out alms. A church commemoration will also be held on the same day.
Option 4
Hello, my name is Petrov Petr Petrovich, I worked with the deceased for many years, was his colleague and friend, one of the closest people in his circle, not counting his relatives.
Today is a mournful day and we see off Sidor Sidorovich on his final journey. In such sad moments, the personality qualities of the departed person are always more noticeable and what and who he was, the significance of what he did is felt more keenly. Looking back, his intellect, experience, intelligence and impeccable professionalism become especially clearly visible. Of course, he was one of the brightest and most valuable members of our team (team, organization, etc.).
Sidor Sidorovich knew how to calmly, constructively and effectively (and this is the most important thing) to solve the most complex problems, achieving maximum results. And he did this throughout his entire career. But this path was not easy and not fast. He started it from the very beginning stages and got almost to the end, having undergone many professional transformations along the way. For me, he has always been and will remain an example of a true professional, as he should be - passionate, persistent, persistent in achieving goals, constantly learning and developing, growing above himself. I and many of my colleagues always learned from him, and now we will miss him greatly. He did a lot to develop our organization and strengthen its position in the industry. His responsibility and sensitive, sincere care for people forever left a mark on our hearts. That’s what Sidor Sidorovich was – a noble, decent man.
We will remember you, Sidor Sidorovich, respect, love and thank you. You are forever in our hearts. Farewell.
Signs and superstitions
As always, when people encounter something unknown, superstitions begin to appear around the event. They do not bring any benefit, only further distracting from the main thing. It is not for nothing that the very word “superstition” means believing in vain. And in principle there cannot be any signs regarding funerals.
It’s really not worth throwing away the things of the deceased: who would be pleased with such a disdainful attitude towards what was acquired through back-breaking labor? It’s better to sort through them and what was not very expensive for the deceased, but you don’t want to keep for yourself - donate to charitable organizations or start distributing to those in need, not forgetting to ask them for prayers for the soul of the deceased.
Many are afraid of damage and the evil eye, but this is absurd and wrong. There are no such things in Orthodoxy. Nevertheless, people come up with some rituals for themselves, for example, not cutting their hair for forty days after a tragic event or sincerely believing that during this period one should not bite seeds, etc. This is ridiculous, but energy and willpower, which is spent on these dubious rituals is better spent on something that will really ease the fate of the deceased. And remember that you are either Orthodox or a superstitious pagan who worships the oak tree and believes in the power of a pinned pin that protects against all evils.
Funeral farewell speech at a funeral example
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He built a house, grew a beautiful garden, gave me an education and a roof over my head. He was always a true master and supporter of the family. It was always calm and reliable with him
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Because dad, when my childhood ended, technically moved from the status of a father to the status of a friend. We implemented common plans together and he listened to my opinion and often asked for advice.
This means a lot to me and gives me a lot of strength and self-confidence. Now I won’t be able to talk to him, discuss and make plans... But I promise, dad, that I will finish everything you started and do everything the way you wanted, planned and dreamed. I will always remember you, visit you and love you, father. You will forever remain for me an example of a man and a person.
Farewell speech examples of funeral speech
My grandmother was a wonderful person with a difficult but interesting life. She, along with her three younger brothers and sister, were raised by her mother alone during the difficult post-war years.
To say that they lived poorly then would be an understatement. She had to endure many difficulties and hardships, but she never lost her optimism and presence of mind, constantly helping her mother and taking care of the younger members of the family.
And later, having married her military grandfather, she steadfastly endured all the hardships of service. In any circumstances, she always maintained exemplary order at home and taught all family members to do so.
Grandma was sometimes strict, but fair. I am glad that I managed to learn from her neatness and order, the ability to organize my life.
Option 2
He (indicate the name of the deceased if necessary) was an amazing person with a difficult and interesting life. Ivan Ivanovich always said that a person has three things that make him a person, these are work, friends and family. And today we all gathered to say goodbye to you - the person who considered us the main components of his existence.
Lately, you have often said that you look less and less into the future and more and more often turn to the past... And you notice that over time, children and family become more and more important to you, and your role in their life becomes, on the contrary, less and less noticeable . I don't agree with your last statement. We miss you. We miss you. And your role in our destiny forever remains the most significant. Without you, the whole world has become different and it is still unclear how to live with this.
We measured our lives, our victories and mistakes - by you. The world you were in seemed very solid to us. I promise that we, your children and grandchildren, will not leave each other, we will support each other the way you always did.
You showed and taught us how to be a strong family and we learned and will try to cope. But we, dad, will not forget you, and we are unlikely to be able to let you go so quickly. Even now you will have to work as a guide for us on the path of life. Thank you.
The importance of some days
Commemoration is accepted on the third, ninth and fortieth day
, because this is a particularly significant time for the deceased.
Therefore, the question of 40 days after death and how to remember in order to alleviate the fate of the deceased is always relevant and requires more careful consideration.
Funerals are usually held early in the morning on the third day. Consequently, the soul of the deceased will still be present at them and observe the process. There is a custom of putting money in a coffin - you shouldn’t do this: the times of Ancient Greece and Ancient Egypt, when this was seen as a practical necessity, are long gone.
- Akathist for the one who died.
- Akathist for the repose of all the departed.
- Prayer canon to the Most Holy Theotokos.
But even if the deceased person was not baptized, he can be saved by the intense prayers of his loved ones. Usually they pray to the holy martyr Uar for the unbaptized.
How to give a speech at a funeral
A few simple steps will clear the fog in your head and make the task easier and clearer. A funeral speech at a funeral should ripen in the soul and lie on a sheet of paper. To do this, take the following steps:
- Consult with those who have already had similar experience. Perhaps among your friends there is a person who gave a speech at a funeral. His example will become a kind of basis, a direction in which one should think.
- Think about your relationship with the deceased. What good things do you remember, how did he help in life, and so on. Here you can also consult with your loved ones. With those who were constantly with the now deceased person.
- Write down everything you remember. From this information, extract the main thing. That which characterizes a person from the best side.
How are you There is no need to dryly ask relatives how they are doing; if there is a need to maintain a conversation, it is better to ask how you are feeling? What's on your mind? However, if you are not a loved one, then just inquire about the funeral itself and ask if there is anything I can do for you. 4. Everything will be fine, don't cry! You should not try to cheer up the relatives of the deceased with such expressions; after all, this is mourning and these days relatives most often want to think about today, and not about the future. 5. Future-oriented wishes do not apply to words of condolences: “I wish you to come to your senses quickly after such a tragedy.” 6. It is considered bad form to find positive aspects in a tragedy and devalue the loss. No problem, give birth again! He was very sick and finally got over it! Remember that people here have gathered to honor the memory of the deceased. 7. Of course, not with secrets and gossip. And remember the kind deed, words, care that was shown to him during his life. Emphasize the significance of the deceased for you personally and express confidence that this view of yours is shared by all those present.
In your speech, avoid complex “curly” phrases, participial and participial phrases, cliches and banality. Speak from the heart! At a wake you cannot talk about shortcomings: “It’s either good or nothing about the deceased” - this is the basis of the etiquette of commemoration.
You should not remember, especially out loud, about failures, weaknesses, sins and grievances. Forgiveness, reconciliation, recollection of better things - this is the necessary aura of the memorial ceremony. It is appropriate to supplement the words of grief with a quote from the thoughts of the deceased: orders, instructions, commandments or moral maxims that he voiced during his lifetime. Then the funeral speech should begin with a mention of the benefits that he brought to loved ones and society.
Christian traditions of remembrance of the dead on the 40th day
The ritual of remembrance has been known since the very beginning of Christianity. The purpose of the ritual is to give the soul of the person who has passed into another world peace and tranquility, and to help to know the eternal heavenly Kingdom.
To do this, relatives, friends and relatives of the deceased must gather at the funeral table. When a wake is organized for 40 days after a death, what should you say to those present? It is believed that the more people remember the deceased in their prayers, the better it will be for the soul of the person for whom they are praying. On this day, it is customary to remember moments from the life of the deceased, focusing on his virtues and good deeds.
Life does not stand still; if earlier the wake was held in the house of the deceased, now it can be done in a restaurant or cafe. The traditions of Orthodoxy oblige to receive more people on this day than on the 9th day, because the soul leaves the earth, and not only relatives, but also everyone who wishes to do so must say goodbye to the person.
Funeral speech template
For example, for anyone who doesn't know me, I... and I want to say a few words in memory of my... more
Make your funeral speech touching. Important advice. Express your personal feelings and thoughts, but avoid trite phrases and expressions. Think about those moments and events where you were close to your loved one who has passed away.
For example, I will miss our fishing trips together... For example, I will miss the heated discussions after Sunday lunch...
For example, give characteristic expressions or a particular expression of emotion that everyone remembers.
Tell us about anecdotal situations, real life events that captured you and characterize the personality of the deceased. Tell us about holidays, adventures, work, etc.
For example, that she or he was a great storyteller, how he or she experienced many joyful moments.
Describe the character of the deceased. Give examples. Highlight the positive aspects and your shared secrets.
For example, recall funny expressions if the deceased had any; share how kind he or she was to everyone; describe how she or he faced difficult life situations with dignity.
- Never talk about bad habits.
- You can also talk about how he or she achieved their goals in life.
- Refer to the family connections of the deceased - wife, husband, children and other relatives. Tell what he or she meant to each of them.
For example, they shared their love for each other in joy and sorrow. (Many people will tell you to turn to family connections if you ask them how to write a eulogy).
At the end of the funeral speech, it is best to quote the deceased’s favorite poem.
Or perhaps the deceased wrote poetry himself. Read them.
Organization of the funeral table
The purpose of a memorial dinner is to remember the deceased person, pray for the repose of his soul, provide psychological support to those in need, and thank people for their participation and help. You cannot organize a dinner with the goal of impressing the guests with expensive and delicious dishes, boasting of an abundance of dishes, or feeding them to their fullest.
The main thing is not food, but uniting in grief and supporting those who are having a hard time. It is important to take into account the main rules of Christianity: limiting the intake of alcoholic beverages, fasting and having the simplest dishes on the table.
You should not perceive a wake as a feast. Large expenses in this case are unjustified; it would be much more useful to direct financial investments into charity.
If more than 40 days have passed since the death, a memorial service can be held later, if only the memorial table will be rescheduled. It is necessary to pray for the soul of the deceased on the 40th day.
Options for funeral speeches with poems
There are several examples of funeral speeches with poems at the end, addressed to relatives, family members, friends and colleagues. It is worth noting that farewell messages may differ from each other in the degree of emotionality depending on who they are intended for. Thus, funeral speeches delivered over the grave of a just buried father or husband will be much more emotional than the farewell words of a work colleague.
If he is a close relative, son, daughter of the deceased or his widow, then it is not necessary to identify himself. It is enough to address the audience: “Dear friends and relatives,” “Dear friends and relatives of our (name),” or “Dear guests.”
What speeches are customary to give at a funeral?
She was a wonderful person, and the closest person to me. I apologize, due to the close relationship and mourning, it is difficult for me to talk for a long time. I only hope that she is feeling better now. Rest in peace, mother. An example of a farewell speech to a child (son, daughter) at a funeral
Dear relatives, loved ones, friends... The death of a child is a violation of the natural course of events. It is never possible to admit, realize, accept. He/she was a magnificent person, and unfortunately, he/she had not yet had time to fully open up
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Much, most of my life lay ahead. He/She will always remain in my heart, in my head with me. I will never let you go (name). You will always be there and I will always be there.
Rest in peace.
Example of a funeral speech for a friend
Dear friends, family and friends. Mikhail was my friend, a close friend. We knew each other for quite some time (8 years).
Examples of short verbal condolences
When choosing words of grief intended for well-known relatives of the deceased, it is worth thinking over a deeply personal, sympathetic phrase. Words must be sincere and delicate. In moments of bitter loss, at a funeral, the feeling of falsehood turns out to be heightened.
The choice of words and format of verbal condolences depends on the circumstances. If a narrow circle of relatives and friends of the deceased gathers, the speech can be especially heartfelt and personal.
If a large number of people gather to see off a person on his last journey, then brief expressions of condolences are more appropriate, because words of sympathy and grief should be uttered by all those gathered.
Here are examples of such words:
- We all hurt, but it’s worse for you than anyone. If I can help you, please contact me right away.
- Be strong. We mourn with you.
- I sincerely sympathize with your loss.
- Our family feels very sorry for you. With the passing of (name of the deceased), we lost a piece of ourselves.
- (Name of the deceased) was such a wonderful person, we always followed his example. He will forever remain in our hearts.
- What a loss! I pray for (name of deceased).
- (Name of the deceased) did so much for me, I will never forget him. I sincerely sympathize with you.
Funeral verses
The reading of poems at a funeral, as well as their choice, must be approached responsibly. The pronouncing of funeral messages in verse should be accompanied by expressiveness and at the same time the absence of excessive pathos, which is inappropriate at events of this kind. The words in the poem and its meaning should be understandable to everyone present and reflect the main purpose of what is happening: to express grief and preserve bright memories of the deceased.
If a person has the ability to write poetic works and decided to compose a poem for a funeral speech on his own or prepared it by borrowing from a famous poet, it would be useful to voice the work before the ceremony to one of his close friends or good acquaintances who personally knew the deceased. Consult with him and decide together how appropriate this particular poem is.
It is worth reading poems by heart at a funeral. Forgotten lines or words of a poem can ruin the whole experience and aggravate the already unstable emotional state of the mourners.
Rhymes in poetry should not offend the ear or be too pretentious. A simple syllable and ease of perception are what is necessary to complete a funeral speech. The main thing is to express the essence - say goodbye to the newly deceased, express the bitterness of loss, condolences to relatives, talk about your feelings and experiences.
It must be taken into account that many people may wish to speak. Therefore, you should avoid reading very long works.
A short poem will save a person from having to cram for a long time, will give him confidence and will allow him to finish a memorable speech with dignity.
Main dishes of the funeral table
When setting the table, it is advisable to give preference to lenten dishes. Kutya should be at the head of the table. This is porridge cooked from whole grains, with the addition of honey, nuts and raisins. The dish represents the rebirth of the soul and symbolizes the benefits of eternal life.
The composition of the dishes mainly depends on the traditions of the family hosting the funeral. Traditionally prepared: pancakes, pies, porridge, cabbage soup and jelly. Various snacks are acceptable: salads, vegetables or cold cuts. Among the first courses: borscht, noodles in chicken broth, beetroot soup. Side dish – buckwheat porridge, pilaf or puree. The Church is against alcoholic beverages; in any case, their use should be limited.
If the wake coincided with fasting, then the meat should be exchanged for fish. For salads, vinaigrette is perfect. Let there be mushrooms, vegetables and fruits on the table. The main thing at a wake is to strengthen your strength in order to continue to tirelessly pray for the deceased.
Option 3
Friends, relatives and everyone present! Today we say goodbye forever to a person dear to us and I would like to say a few words in memory of him. Our family has suffered a huge loss, having lost an important component - you, mom. She was amazingly modest, amazingly tactful, wise and talented
A true keeper of the family hearth. It was thanks to her and her many years of tireless work, support, attention and firm management that our home was a real fortress and a refuge from everyday storms. And all family members were always kind, warm, well-fed, dressed, educated and cheerful. Mom always knew how to console and when not to impose advice and moral teaching. She knew how to find an approach to anyone, although it was not easy. She painstakingly, day after day, created our cozy, comfortable little world, in which everyone is significant and not forgotten. She gave us light, warmth and kindness every day. And we can never forget this.
Now mommy, take a break from your labors and get some sleep. You stayed with us for such a short time, but left love and warmth for several lives to come. And you will remain in my heart forever. You will forever be an example of a real mother, and your lessons (your example) will never be forgotten. We will try to create in our families the same warmth, love and joy that you strived for.
