Poems - For forty days after the death of V. Vysotsky
Some forty years have passed and two infant additions have passed.
He was there - and now he’s gone, It’s as if the lights were turned off, And the darkness thickened sharply. And the world plunged into darkness, Where penumbras live, Where chaos knits a mess, Stringing on the border the Uncleanliness of aspirations.
This continues for centuries, And will continue forever, Until the river of oblivion Spurs its course from afar In endless whirlpools.
Until suddenly, across the path From heaven, like a fallen breakwater, An angel in the flesh appears - Ni.
How to give a funeral speech
Experts have developed a couple of unspoken rules that will help you pronounce the funeral thing clearly, clearly, understandably and expressively.
It is necessary to adhere to three main criteria:
- brevity = success;
- preliminary preparation will help you feel confident;
- The speech must be given by a person close to the deceased.
The ideal option is to do it in five minutes. For exactly this amount of time the audience will pay attention to the one who decides to speak about a colleague, a loved one or a friend. You can't improvise at a wake. This always leads to failure. Preliminary preparation and rehearsal in front of the mirror will help you make a good impression.
What to say during a funeral ceremony?
During this process, a funeral speech is given. It should be logical, concise and in compliance with clear time criteria. The ideal option is no more than 5-7 minutes. Speech must be clear, intelligible, and prepared. Otherwise, the words will seem disrespectful to the deceased. Therefore, it is better to think over your words in advance and prepare short abstracts.
There is no need to retell the biographical information of the deceased. It is acceptable to recall one or two bright moments from his life or an interesting fact that reflects a specific characteristic. It is worth choosing one quality that fully describes this particular person. It is recommended to remain silent about any weaknesses, sins or negative traits. It is also better to keep an ambiguous attitude towards the deceased to yourself.
Words of sorrow must literally flow from the soul, then they will definitely touch the hearts of other people. You can thank fate or God for the fact that this person visited the speaker’s life and took an active part in it, but you cannot emphasize that it was by God’s will that he left this world and all that remains is to come to terms with the outcome. The funeral speech must end on a positive note.
What to say at the wake after the funeral?
Everyone chooses an individual approach, but there are several accents that should not be forgotten when pronouncing the last words about the deceased.
Plan of memorial speech:
- an appeal to everyone who came to the funeral;
- a short introduction;
- designation of who a person is to the deceased;
- a story about how the death occurred and how it affected the speaker;
- listing the positive qualities of the deceased;
- a short conclusion;
- expressing our deepest condolences.
In this speech, it is permissible to focus on one’s own feelings, to talk in detail about exactly what emotions were experienced when the message was received that a friend, colleague, relative or loved one had left our world. It is not recommended to talk in detail about the suffering or exactly how many days or hours he sat in a hospital bed. Speech should remain bright, but emotions cannot be completely hidden either. In conclusion, it is worth once again expressing condolences to the relatives of the deceased and communicating his value to this world.
There is no need to completely turn attention to yourself and talk about a possible similar incident from life. Each loss is individual and now a specific person is experiencing grief; he will not sympathize with another or switch to his problem in the past.
Poems - Forty Days
Forty days and forty nights. Forty terms, deserted and bitter. Forty rooks will peck out your soul, like a dried crust of bread.
Again, alas, there is a mismatch between the gray slush in the heart and the cold, with the tender green of young grass, with the flood, with the friendly shoots.
You are exhausted, my mother. For you now - an earthly bed. And the soul, without begging for anything, flew into the night sky.
In the lace of April foliage Joy jumps like a sunbeam. Forty days, lonely and dead, Like the trees of an abandoned dacha.
Poems - We remember, we love, we mourn
In our lives, unfortunately, there are difficult moments when we have to say goodbye to loved ones, family and friends. This is life and we need to accept with dignity what no one can change. It is important during life to try to be the right person for yourself, so as not to miss anything important. Poems - We remember, we love, we mourn are collected in this section.
Loved ones don't die. Don't cry to those leaving behind. After all, it’s only candles that melt, Hearts don’t fade away, no... Don’t curse, don’t blame anyone or anything. Loved ones soar like birds, And they feel calm and at ease. Loved ones don't leave. They will forever be in us, Protecting, warming Day by day, hour by hour. Loved ones don't disappear. They live in me, in you, They bloom in spring with nature, And they burn like stars in the darkness. Loved ones don't die. Don't cry to those leaving behind. After all, it’s only candles that melt, Hearts don’t fade away, no...
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When your closest, dearest, loved one leaves. The whole world will appear as a bitter drama, where everything turns black, even the snow. And never! Nothing in the world can replace the warmth of their hands. While you are alive, do not be stingy, give your love to your family...
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Our loved ones do not die - They return as warm rain. They even return from paradise, To see how much we love and wait. Having run through the gardens and across the field, Having given water to both the flowers and the forests, Having breathed their fill of the native air, They rise up into the heavens. They rise up in evaporation, turning into a cloud again. And again they spill - like a downpour, To see our love. Our loved ones don't die.
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You can’t hear your dear one’s voice, You can’t see your kind, sweet eyes. Why was fate cruel? How early you left us! Great sorrow cannot be measured, Tears cannot help my grief, You are not with us, but you will not die forever in our hearts. No one could save you, Died too early. But the bright image of your dear We will always remember...
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There was a man and suddenly he was gone. His heart stopped beating. Mom is crying, my beloved is crying, What have you done, you have ruined him. But everything could have been different. And you won’t help your grief by crying. You yourself don’t know how to continue to live; you just forget to love while you’re alive.
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When a person leaves, memory collects bit by bit Facial features, eyelid wrinkles, Graying hair,
And there he is alive, comes in dreams, Laughs, cries with you, And even the wind in the heavens fills reality with voices,
After all, having let go of the soul with the soul, We cannot let go with the heart of the One who left a trace, albeit a small one, there, whom, it seems,
We will all miss it so much, But this is life, where can we go?.. Now - read and honor. And remember, reviving with your heart.
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You are in my heart forever... So it was, is and will be... My love cannot be killed, Let people know this... And even on the day, That dark day... She was not destroyed... She is always with me, like a shadow... My dear and beloved... My love cannot be killed...
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It’s so hard for me to live without you, And you, you tease and worry. You cannot replace the whole world for me... But it seems that you can. I have my own in the world: Deeds, successes and misfortunes. I only need you for complete human happiness. It’s so difficult for me to live without you: Everything is uncomfortable, everything worries... You cannot replace the world, - But it cannot replace you either!
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You will live in eternal memory, And no matter what anyone says, There, behind the cemetery fence, The world keeps the memory of you. People like you will not be forgotten so easily, Your eyes will remain sparkling with tears. And for a very long time people will carry you bouquets of scarlet roses. Are you sleeping. But everything is so unusual. Everything reminds me of you. And only the rain knocks so quietly, barely audible. As if he were saying hello.
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Please say a few words, And you remain silent in peace, Please come back from the world of dreams. I beg you, wake up!
Tell me, where did you go early? Tell me, what happened? Yes, there was time, suddenly it’s gone, It’s so fickle.
The fire of the burning candle went out, Without allowing anything to be corrected, Taking you away from us forever, Stealing you and no one.
You won't see us again, And you won't shake hands with your friends. And you won’t talk about your problems. You won’t be happy.
Yes, under the verdict of the big system, the pattern of life is inexorable, And now those with whom you were once friends bring you flowers.
Oh, the evil conduct of life has taken you to dreams. You remember your friends, But you only come to them in dreams.
They won’t forget you. You can’t be forgotten. And your kind smile will forever be in your memory.
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All the poems are for you, my angel, Pain pierces every word in them, And the soul will not find its peace Until we are together again.
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The ring glitters on your finger. And you are beautiful in your dress! But... Your face seems to be sleeping... Now it’s in vain to wake you up. You will become a bride in heaven, you will become engaged with cherished words. Tears glisten on mom’s cheeks, Father looks with crazy eyes. There are a lot of flowers, candles, people and tears, But these are tears of grief and loss. And it seems that this is not serious! There can be no such retribution with you! For everything: for the life you lived, And for the beautiful love that you gave, And for the smiles. Even for the words that you spoke in fits of anger! Now you are silent, lying with your eyes closed. It’s like you’re sleeping, and now you’re going to wake up! But this is what insidious fate planned: You will never smile again.
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Someday, I firmly believe in this The day will come when I will finish my earthly journey And the Lord will return my loss to me... In another Galaxy, in the rays of dawn I will be next to you again... I will be a reflection of the poet A silent shadow, a simple haven... You will be able to return again When you want to go to a quiet, warm house, I will forgive everything, I believe selflessly, The day will come when we will meet you...
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Hearts burn and candles cry for our dear ones. And early in the morning, in the afternoon and in the evening We remember them, we yearn and grieve For their souls we ask for eternal peace Let us preserve love and memory And we pray on our knees And again we yearn and grieve.
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You are gone, the whole world has darkened... my heart is beating barely audible... I don’t believe that you are gone. Why did it all turn out this way? You left, taking everything with you... Tears froze in my eyes... And in my heart there was only silent pain... We will forever remember YOU...
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Don't be afraid, mom, and don't cry, dear! I will come to you in a dream, When the soul, getting used to flight, Lights up in the heavenly heights. I know that your suffering cannot be relieved. Remember, Mom, every day with me In the deep sleep of your memories, My soul will return to the earthly world. In that sweet dream we will be close again. You can feed me, hug me. My friends, calls and jokes pour in. You can't remember a happier day. The ordinary will be there, like a holiday, touches, gestures and words. You will cry: “What have you done, you prankster?!” “Oh, mom, mom, you’re always right!” Let the bitterness of the loss subside. Know that everything is destined for us by fate! No one knows the path forward in life. In your dream, I, mother, am here with you!
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You will never be there again. My whole life stopped for a moment. Where did trouble suddenly come to me Such that I said goodbye to you. She pushed the air slowly with her hand, You are not here. And it won’t happen anymore... It seemed to me that you were here, with me, But it’s not you... There are strangers everywhere. I look inquisitively into the void And I don’t feel the buzz in my ears, I don’t see, I don’t think, I don’t know, I don’t want And I don’t even love and hate. She walked along the wall quietly to the corner, leaned her back, and began to sob. You will never be there again. How scary that I realized this...
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The candle light flickers, Reflecting on the portrait.. Tell me, who knows, Why do the children leave? A defenseless child's gaze - This is the point of no return, You begin to understand How happy you once were... Somewhere they will be greeted with jubilation by a host of loved ones and loved ones. For us, with a final kiss, to see off those who have lived their lives. This grief cannot be overcome. Yesterday I, almost a girl, Like a cut-down mother, Losing a child... The omnipresent smell of roses... The glare of the sun on the portrait... There is no answer to the question, Why do children leave...
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The soul shrinks into a ball, He was given a short term.. And he couldn’t do much, Although he wanted to continue to live, But alas... The time is over and life can be too short.. And it’s not easy to part, but you can’t return anything, And a sharp knife for the heart... And it’s better not to touch anything, Did you want to help? well... You can’t help in any way And the strip of the knife won’t grow together You’re dying slowly You scream as if you’re not breathing, But it’s all in vain... He’s gone to another world forever...
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You are far away - out of communication zone And inaccessible - I’m so sorry, How I want to hear your voice And tell my sadness, Talk about what happened, About what I will dream about. From a distance I appreciated how you can understand me. You are my elder brother, my support, my closest friend. The fact is that I know we will meet soon, When we arrive at our father’s house. Well, for now I don’t see you, And I have to wait, no matter how you look at it, As soon as I hear on the phone: “...Out of network coverage.”
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Your image will remain in me, I will not forget your voice, I miss you, I will not live without you.
You left so quickly, We didn’t say goodbye, It’s surprising because before, We didn’t even communicate.
Every night, I feel sad... You know, Arkashik, I miss you, I’m waiting...
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I feel bad without him... Unbearable I just exist, I don’t live Oh, Lord, give me some strength! I don't ask for more anymore
Separation is cutting more and more, suffocating There is no air. Only bitter blue smoke All sounds strain the ear and soul, And the world has become somehow gray and empty
Closing my eyes, I’ll imagine that he’s nearby, Will make my heart tremble in my chest, His face with an empty and sad look And quietly I whisper: “Don’t go...”
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I asked God to return everything, It was as if He didn’t even want to hear me, I’ve gone through a short life, We won’t be able to see you anymore...
When we met secretly, When we played checkers, Then everything was cool, You were with us, Arkashka!
Now you’re not here, I’m filled with sadness, I remember it all the time, and I miss you very much...
When I dream of you, I hear a voice, That timbre of the voice is painfully familiar to me, Suddenly I wake up abruptly, And I see your image in front of my face.
Perhaps you came, Well, for God’s sake, I ask you: “You come to me more often, I’m always looking forward to seeing you!”
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For us, he is alive and somewhere nearby, In memories, in the heart and in dreams The soul is always alive, it knows everything And sees how we are suffering now! There has become more than one angel in heaven, And this is obvious, I know for sure! Today, tomorrow and all our lives We remember, love and mourn!
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There is no such thing as death, it doesn’t happen... It’s just that someone’s gentle Soul suddenly flies into the sky... Even if life here is good... You fluttered like a bird into the sky... An angel with a crystal soul... And when you want to be with us... You quietly fly over the Earth ... A timid Angel, with childish eyes... You whisper, - I am always with you... As if you are sending greetings to your mother, So that a bitter tear does not freeze... You light stars in the sky, So that it is brighter on Earth... And so that the most loved ones in the world Preserve the memory of you ... There is no death, there is no... You wait for us, we will meet you... Only Angels know about this... Flying quietly over the Earth...
Poems - After Death
Oh God, how easy it is for me: There is no more heaviness and feelings, That only the form is felt - My intellect seems empty
There is no more body - there it lies, lies motionless, But the Soul is still alive, And everything frolics only, laughing
Oh God, your game is perfect! Oh God, how You thought of everything! And now I see, unforgettable, the Creation of wondrous beauty
Oh my mentor, is it you? That Angel who helped me, Who gave Light in the pitch darkness, And sometimes saved my life?
Who spoke to me at night And to questions.
What would be appropriate during a funeral speech?
At the wake, performances by one to three people closest to the deceased are encouraged. If everyone decides to speak, it will turn into a five-hour show with everyone saying the same thing. You can add a few words to the overall speech if you wish, but they should not take more than three minutes.
Relatives do not have to reveal their souls and feelings in front of all the guests; they are already exhausted from organizing the funeral, so a speech from one of their relatives or friends will be enough. If a person understands that he is not mentally ready to speak, it is better to refuse or express his condolences in a couple of sentences than to waste the time of those around him.
If we are talking about the funeral of one of our colleagues, it is recommended to choose one or two representatives who will say a good funeral farewell from the entire team. He must be an excellent speaker who can convey everyone's feelings.
Poems - And after death the Russian will drink
A speech is heard from the large rostrum - When we give the people the surplus, the dear one will begin to cherish them reverently, collecting them bit by bit in a savings book.
From the Internet he will download Not naked women, but business reading material And he will be able to start his life from scratch, Just offer him an alternative.
He drives his family to Galatasaray, where he sells his nesting dolls with a bang. A well-fed paradise will come to your native land, Where everyone will have a bowl and a spoon.
Or maybe it’s enough to make your ass laugh? She feels good when she's without a fork. And after death.
Why 40 days and what happens during this time
It is the Orthodox faith that has a unique view of the afterlife and believes that prayer on the fortieth day can influence the verdict that our God will pronounce on the soul.
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It is important to ask the church to pray for the deceased, so it is worth ordering services in the church:
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But it is much more important for relatives and friends to sincerely and fervently ask the Lord for mercy for the deceased. In addition, you can read a prayer to Saint War for the repose of your soul.
Poems - Life after death
The larva of the mosquito father of the egg is young, Stuck to the old mosquito, who has seen the world, You say a lot, if you don’t know everything, You’ve seen and knew in your lifetime, you chat in many languages, So, tell me quickly, don’t be offended, Tell the truth, what will happen to us mosquitoes after death,
And to be precise, life is a whirlwind, What would be worth telling in the transfer, And even if you can prove the truth like this, When we all grow old and end up on the surface of our native reservoir and disappear.
What phrases should you avoid?
At a funeral, it is recommended to avoid phrases like “there is no need to cry or be upset”, “I understand you perfectly”, “we can’t do anything”, “after all, God decided everything for us”, “over time you will feel better and you will return to former life." These clichés will not help you cope with loss. It is unlikely that the grieving person will perceive these words as support addressed to him. You cannot wish death on someone who is guilty of a tragedy or complain that he has not yet been punished. It is necessary to speak exclusively about the deceased in a positive way, to temporarily forget about the existence of offensive words and tactlessness.
Procedure: funeral rules
- The meal is simple, especially if there is a general church fast. Even if there is no fasting, you should avoid eating meat and under no circumstances donate it to the temple.
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A funeral speech is a sad speech, but not melancholy. Man has not ceased to exist, he is simply now in a different form and world.
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There is a category of people whom the Church does not remember and does not serve a memorial service for:
Important! Almsgiving is a good deed, which, like prayer, affects the eternal life of the deceased.
