Children's prayer for deceased parents up to 40 days, on the anniversary

Prayer for a deceased loved one is an important action that the living must perform. One day our parents will no longer be alive, no matter how sad it may sound. This event will be the saddest event in my entire life, the most bitter loss and acute sadness in my hearts. Parents are the most sacred thing in the world. In order for loved ones to feel good in Heaven, and for us to feel calmer on earth, we need a prayer for deceased parents, which everyone should know.

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Special days for reading prayers for the repose of the soul of a deceased parent

Exactly 8 times a year the day comes when everyone should forget about their problems, worldly worries and devote all their time to prayer to their parents. What are these days on which it is important to pray?

parents' Saturday;
all Saturdays of the second, third and fourth weeks of Great Lent;
Radonitsa;
Trinity Saturday;
Dmitrievskaya Saturday;
Day of the Dead Warriors, i.e. 9th May.

It is on these days that it is very good if every child visits the temple and begins to read a prayer for their deceased parents. You can bring food with you, which must be laid out on the funeral table. Usually these are candies, cookies or fruits.

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There is no need to think that children’s prayer for deceased parents is a tribute, a day when everyone remembers their loved ones. First of all, it is communication with the dead. They hear everything and will protect every loved one living on earth in every way. You can not only come to church, but also visit the cemetery to read the Psalter so that life in Heaven becomes the happiest, most joyful and eternal for your beloved parents.

When deceased parents are remembered

In Orthodoxy, people who have died for up to forty days are called newly appointed. The third, ninth and fortieth day, the date of the beginning and end of life, and the day of the angel are considered the main ones. On such days, relatives gather to honor the memory and order a service in the temple. Saturday is dedicated to remembering all relatives. In addition, there are days to honor parents:

Saturday day one week before the Great Saint;
Saturdays of the second, third and fourth weeks of Great Religion;
Radonitsa on the second resurrection after Christ's day;
May 9 commemorates those killed in the Second World War;
Saturday before Trinity;
the date of September 11 of the Beheading of the Prophet, Forerunner and Baptist of the Lord John;
Dmitrievskaya Saturday November 8th.

On days of honoring parents, people come to the church, where services are held for the repose. They bring a donation to the funeral service for the eve table, food, excluding meat products. After the service, food is given to church employees, orphanages and nursing homes. Food is also donated on other days when services for the deceased are held.

From the day of death until the fortieth day, the soul of the deceased stands before God and this is an important moment, just like the birth of a child.

On the issue of commemorating suicides, the church does not give a clear answer. In this case, each situation is considered individually. There are unconscious actions in a state of insanity. If a tragedy happened to loved ones, you need to visit the church and talk with the priest. It is not prohibited to read prayers at home, but the main thing is to do good deeds. According to church canons, unbaptized people are not commemorated within the walls of the church, but this can be done at home.

Text of prayer for deceased parents

“Lord Jesus Christ our God! You are the keeper of the orphans, the refuge of the grieving and the comforter of the weeping. I come running to You, orphaned, groaning, and... crying, and I pray to You: hear my prayer and do not turn Your face away from the sighs of my heart and from the tears of my eyes.
I pray to You, merciful Lord, satisfy my grief over separation from the one who gave birth and raised me, my parent (name); accept his soul, as if it had gone to You with true faith in You and firm hope in Your love for mankind and mercy, into Your Heavenly Kingdom.
I bow before Your holy will, which was taken away from me, and I ask You not to take away Your mercy and mercy from him. We know, Lord, that You, the Judge of this world, punish the sins and wickedness of the fathers in children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, even to the third and fourth generation: but you also have mercy on the fathers for the prayers and virtues of their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
With contrition and tenderness of heart, I pray to You, merciful Judge, do not punish with eternal punishment your deceased servant, unforgettable for me, my parent (name), but forgive him all his sins, voluntary and involuntary, in word and deed, knowledge and ignorance, committed by him in life him here on earth, and according to Your mercy and love for mankind, prayers for the sake of the Most Pure Mother of God and all the saints, have mercy on him and deliver him from eternal torment.
You, merciful Father of fathers and children! grant me, all the days of my life, until my last breath, not to cease to remember my deceased parent in my prayers, and to beg You, the righteous Judge, to order him in a place of light, in a cool place and in a place of peace, with all the saints , from here all illness, sorrow and sighing have escaped. Merciful Lord!
accept this day for Thy servant (name), my warm prayer and give him Thy reward for the labors and cares of my upbringing in faith and Christian piety, as He who taught me first of all to lead You, My Lord, in reverence to pray to You, in You alone to trust in troubles, sorrows and illnesses and keep Your commandments;
for his concern for my spiritual success, for the warmth of the prayer he brought for me before You and for all the gifts he asked me from You, reward him with Your mercy, Your heavenly blessings and joys in Your eternal kingdom.
For You are the God of mercies and generosity and love for mankind, You are the peace and joy of Your faithful servants, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen".

Commemoration of deceased parents

Death is not the end of life, it is a transition to another dimension. During life, a person can pray and ask forgiveness from the Lord for sins committed, but after death, the soul awaits its fate for the newly appointed person. That’s why it’s so important for children to pray for their parents, because dead people can no longer ask for themselves.

The soul especially needs mention of the first forty days of torment and private judgment. From the first to the third day she remains in the places of earthly life and is accompanied by an angel. Commemoration from the third to the ninth day occurs in honor of the nine angels who serve the Lord and intercede for the souls of the dead. For six days the soul substance surveys heavenly life and forgets the sadness of the mortal body in which it was during life.

About remembering the dead at home

Within the walls of your home there should always be a memory of your parents; do not be afraid to remember them in your room, standing in front of the icons. Home prayer is a real salvation for loved ones of the deceased. You can ask Father in more detail about how exactly the text should be read, because it must be included in the morning address to a relative or in the evening. Those who have passed on to another world feel much freer as soon as we begin to read the sacred text for them. All prayers are as short as possible, so you can easily learn them by heart yourself.

Why you need to pray for the dead

During life, a person himself can turn to God with a request or repentance, he himself does good or helps others, and takes care of his soul. All his deeds and actions later help him in the afterlife.

After death, this opportunity disappears, and the human soul can only hope for the help of loved ones who have not forgotten him. The Monk Paisios of Athos compared prayer for the deceased with offering food to a prisoner - just as food helps the latter survive suffering, so the holy text helps the soul to cleanse itself of sin and ease the posthumous fate. It is especially important to remember those who did not have time to repent during their lifetime.

This is also important for the relatives of the deceased. Turning to God helps them, eases the pain of loss and gives them hope.

Prayer for deceased parents up to 40 days

It is very important to remember a deceased soul as quickly as possible, especially if a relative has died recently. For this, many people order magpie in church. This is a special liturgical rite that lasts from the day of death of a loved one to 40 days. Sorokoust can be ordered again as soon as the first reporting days are over. Such periods of remembrance can only be ordered in the church for a year or six months. Also, sacrifice takes place here - these are the most ordinary candles that we are used to lighting and placing on lamps with prayer. True, everything is not arranged like that here: for the departed there is not a bright lamp, but sand, into which everyone puts a lit light from a pure heart.

What happens to the soul after death?

According to Orthodox canons, each prayer of children for their deceased mother should be said at its own time. This or that text has meaning on certain days after death, so it is necessary to clearly understand what exactly happens to the soul of the deceased after the transition to another world. Orthodox priests advise loved ones never to grieve for their deceased parents. After all, death is not the end, but just a transition to another state. And in it the soul will not experience pain and suffering, especially if during life the person was a sincere believer and revered the laws of God above all else. Even the most sinless soul, according to the relatives of the deceased, has its own sins, and therefore it will face the temptations of demons and the judgment of the Almighty.

Have you ever wondered where the rules for remembering loved ones on the third, ninth and fortieth day after death come from? Many Orthodox Christians do not understand the significance of these days for the departed soul. Some perform the commemoration according to the rules, while others believe that it is not too important. However, we must not forget that it is on these days that a strong prayer for the deceased mother or father is very necessary for them, because at such moments it is decided where exactly the soul will be destined.

Keep in mind that in the first few days after death, demons tempt the soul and try to take it to hell. However, a fervent prayer for the deceased mother, read by children, can help the soul cope with all temptations and stand before the judgment of God.

Do not forget that this court can be called private. It decides where the soul will be directed before the Last Judgment. If she is found sinless and admitted to heaven, then this decision will not be revised in the future. But in the case when the sins turn out to be too strong, and the soul is destined for hell, only a prayer for the deceased mother, read regularly and with a pure heart, can become the basis for revising the decision on the day of the Last Judgment, when the fate of everyone now living will be considered and when -or a person living on earth.

Since the soul itself can no longer ask for itself and repent of what it did during life, it is the children who, with their prayer for the repose of the soul of the deceased mother, can save her from eternal torment in hell. Church ministers always clarify that even one moment in hell cannot be compared with all the suffering on earth. Therefore, it is worth always remembering your deceased relatives and working spiritually to help them find peace in the best of all worlds.

Anniversary prayer for a deceased parent

For the Lord God, the world is not divided into the living and the dead. There are only those who live on earth and those who are in Heaven. If a lot of time has passed since the death of a loved one, and the anniversary of death is coming very soon, then you can give to the deceased in the following way:

invite everyone who was closely acquainted with the deceased;
organize a wake at home or in a cafe;
be sure to go to the cemetery early on the day of the funeral and read a prayer there, placing beautiful fresh flowers on the grave;
gather everyone for a funeral dinner;
go to church, light a candle for the repose, and on the way out help all the poor with money (if you have extra).

Prayer for deceased relatives
Prayer for the unbaptized deceased - here
Prayer before reading the Akathist -

It is impossible to do without prayer, which frees the soul from torment and gives strength to every deceased person. You can’t even imagine how good it is in Heaven, especially if prayers are read for the deceased. After all, this is real peace for the soul. And here is the prayer itself, which is important to read on the anniversary of the death of a loved one:

“God, merciful Lord, remembering the anniversary of the death of Thy servant N (Thy servant N), we ask You to honor him (her) with a place in Thy Kingdom, grant blessed peace and bring him into the radiance of Thy glory.
Lord, look mercifully on our prayers for the soul of Thy servant N (Thy servant N), whose anniversary of death we remember; We ask You to number him (her) among the host of Your saints, grant forgiveness of sins and eternal peace. Through Christ our Lord. Amen."

A few rules for what to order for a death anniversary

If the date of death falls in the first week after the celebration of Great Easter, then a special Easter canon is sung at this time, and for the second week it is necessary to order mass, proskomedia and requiem.
Be sure to take the prosphora and eat it after the church service at home on an empty stomach. This is a kind of memory of the deceased.
Always pray and read a prayer - this is the most valuable thing for those who are in Heaven.

What prayers need to be read

After the death of her husband, the widow must read the Psalter and the widow's prayer for her deceased spouse during the first forty days after death. Kathismas are read one per day, and after each kathisma there is a corresponding prayer.

Prayer for a deceased husband, as for every newly deceased husband, is very important

A widowed woman faced with such grief can easily become despondent, which is a great sin. Therefore, prayer becomes the means that protects from vague thoughts and helps to move on with life. After the forty-day period has expired, the name of the deceased is remembered in the evening prayer.

Advice! Prayers should be read in church or at home. You can pray not only with a special prayer, but also in your own words. Perhaps this will make it easier to express your requests for your late husband. This is especially true for memorial dates.

You should definitely turn to the Mother of God, who during her lifetime experienced the crucifixion of her son. In the first forty days, the soul of the newly deceased, according to the Holy Fathers, is in great need of the prayers of loved ones. After all, she will have to go through the Judgment of God on the fortieth day, after which the soul goes to hell or heaven. But even after this you must not forget to pray for the repose of your deceased spouse.

How to pray for an unbaptized mother?

It happens that children belong to the bosom of the Orthodox Church, but their parents never accepted baptism, leaving life not aligned with God. How to pray for the deceased mother in this case? After all, everything that we told earlier is done only for Orthodox Christians who have been baptized. Is it really possible to leave mom’s soul without repentance and prayer?

These questions, as it turns out, worry many parishioners of the Orthodox Church. On this score, clergy advise praying at home in your own words. This cannot be done within the walls of the temple. Also, if you wish, you can read a prayer to Saint Uar, but, we repeat, this can only be done at home.

Our parents were always by our side during life, and they do not leave their children even after leaving life. Often it is through their prayers that we cope with our troubles and life’s trials, so our primary duty is to ask God for the souls of our mothers and fathers.

What do you need to know about praying for living parents?

Prayer is our way of communicating with God. Many people do not understand that everyone has the right to pray, even murderers and rapists. The grace of God makes a heartfelt turn to God possible, even if it seems to us that we are not worthy of it.

What should be a “real prayer” for parents? She:

Honest
True
Sincere

You don't love your father and don't want to pray for him? First realize this fact yourself, and then humbly turn to your guardian angel or Archangel Michael - the leader of all heavenly forces. Ask for enlightenment of heart and mind. You will be heard.

Archangel Michael, the leader of the heavenly forces, will soften and invigorate the suffering heart and soul.

Never tell yourself that your prayer is fruitless, that God will not hear it. Give the right to judge to God, the Mother of God, and the saints. They'll figure it out better than you.