Names of relatives: who, by whom and to whom after the wedding?

Who can be called godfather (godfather)? Who are godfathers? Almost anyone can answer this question. Godmothers are the baby’s godparents in relation to each other and to the physical parents. That is, this concept unites all people who in life are obliged to care for and raise one child.

For the groom: what are the names of relatives after the wedding?

Members of the bride's family become relatives of the groom after the wedding. Many guys know the names of the newlywed’s mother and father even before the celebration. But what they call relatives of the next rank is usually what they hear for the first time.

Who?	By whom?
Who?	In Russian	In Belarusian
Wife's mother	mother-in-law	Tseshcha
Wife's dad	Father-in-law	Cests
Wife's sister	sister-in-law	Svajachanitsa
Wife's brother	Brother-in-law	Shuryn
Wife of wife's brother	Daughter-in-law	Bratava
Wife's sister's husband	Brother-in-law	Svayak

It is interesting that in past times, if the bride or groom did not have a father and mother, then imprisoned parents took their place. Now this wedding tradition is a thing of the past!

Why does nepotism thrive?

So, work on acquaintance or so-called. Nepotism in many countries of the post-Soviet space has become quite common today. It has been observed in many organizations that they hire mainly only “their own people”. Let's look at why this happens.

First of all, this is due to the shortage of jobs. There are always many more people wanting to find a job in times of crisis, which we are currently experiencing, than there are employers willing to provide it. Accordingly, every big or small boss has relatives, friends or friends of friends who are looking for work and who “need help.” This is the main reason for the popularity of dating work. Why does nepotism still flourish? Here are some reasons:

Networking work is popular, first of all, in those organizations where it is not the result of the work that is important, but the process. For example, in budgetary and government structures that do not care about their profitability, but “eat up” funding;
It is at such enterprises that it is possible to pay wages to an unnecessary or ineffective employee, because it is not paid from the manager’s pocket;
Several candidates always apply for one place, therefore, if their level is equal, preference is given to “our own”;
A manager needs “his” person in a certain position, whom he can completely trust, especially if we are talking about some gray schemes in work, which is not uncommon now;
Directive from above: a superior simply calls the manager and says that he should hire such and such a person;
The head of the entire company simply does not know that nepotism is rampant at lower levels, since he does not personally communicate with job candidates.

Is it worth fighting nepotism? In most cases, this will be an absolutely pointless waste of time and nerves. If the manager has decided to hire someone through an acquaintance, you are unlikely to be able to convince him of this.

Now consider this situation: you have the opportunity to get a job through an acquaintance. Is it worth taking advantage of this opportunity? This type of employment can have its advantages and disadvantages; let’s highlight them separately.

For the bride: names of future relatives

After the wedding, the newlywed has many new relatives, each of which has its own historical name. And to make it easier for you to remember who is related to whom, we have compiled a table with the names of the main members of the groom’s family according to their degree of relationship.

Who?	By whom?
Who?	In Russian	In Belarusian
Spouse's mother	Mother in law	Svyakrov
Dad spouse	Father-in-law	Svekar
Spouse's sister	Sister-in-law	Zalouka
Spouse's brother	brother-in-law	Dzever
Husband's brother's wife	Daughter-in-law	Nyavestka (yastroўka)
Spouse's sister's husband	Son-in-law	Zyatz (shvarga)

Advice: according to tradition, the bride must prepare gifts for her future relatives - the groom's family - that should be presented to them during the wedding banquet. If you want to please your beloved’s parents, then be sure to include the purchase of gifts in your wedding preparation plan.

Why is it good to be a recommender?

A priori, we will agree that you yourself are satisfied with the working conditions, and do not lure your friend into a “so-so job” in order to take revenge for something. It’s good to be a recommender for a number of reasons:

Help the company find specialized specialists, earn loyalty, and increase its authority. Especially if you can reach valuable passive candidates who are not actively looking for work.
Help a good friend and evoke a wonderful feeling of recognition and support. It’s like the story of “pay it forward” - when the good done will definitely return in some new manifestation.
Find another friend at work. In addition to your soul mate in the workplace, you can also find a loyal colleague and assistant.

What is the danger then?

Direct or indirect, but responsibility for the “protégé”. Failures of the recommended will automatically contact you.
Your expectations or what is recommended will not be met. When the recommended person, say, understood “lack of subordination in the team” as familiarity, but this is not so. Or you recognize previously unknown unpleasant personal qualities in a friend or acquaintance.
Damage to reputation:

a) if you are a spammer recommender, bombarding your manager with frankly inappropriate resumes; b) if your friend turns out to be talkative, and your friendship story is colorful. When a friend tells unnecessary things about you, at the very least you will not like it, and may even harm your career (depending on the facts told, of course).

For parents: who is related to whom in the family?

After the wedding, the parents of the bride and groom should also know who is related to whom in their large newly formed family in order to understand how to address each other.

Who?	By whom?
Who?	In Russian	In Belarusian
Daughter's husband	Son-in-law	son-in-law
Son's wife	Daughter-in-law (for husband's father), daughter-in-law (for husband's mother)	Sister-in-law
Father of the bride/groom	Matchmaker	Matchmaker
Mother of the bride/groom	Matchmaker	Matchmaker

Working through acquaintances: disadvantages

The “patron” may be fired. Often leaders don't last forever. And in this case, you will either be fired after him, or your working conditions will radically change, not for the better for you.
Envy and intrigues in the team. Nepotism often causes disapproval, to put it mildly, among colleagues. But people are different, very often they constantly “put a spoke in the wheels” of those they don’t like, they can even set them up in a big way.
Obligations to the recommender. If you got a job through an acquaintance, you will psychologically feel an obligation to the one who helped you. In the future, he may also ask you for some service that you may not like.
Checks from above. If you work in a relaxed manner (and with nepotism this is what usually happens), then when audited by higher management, you may be fired for poor quality of work. And in this case, even your “patron” will not be able to help, since he is powerless before the top management and will think, first of all, about his own place.
Lack of professional growth. Since when working through an acquaintance, an employee most often works “at half strength,” he does not grow professionally, and may even degrade.
Negative reputation. If you were hired through an acquaintance, this may cause the creation of a negative image, which will greatly hinder you in future employment.

Now you can see for yourself the main pros and cons of dating work, and you can draw a conclusion about whether this option is right for you specifically.

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Origin of names of relatives

The origin of the names of family “titles” is interesting, which may also help you remember what relatives are called. Most of the names come from Indo-European and ancient Indian forms, the translation of which directly hints at the person's status and kinship after marriage:

Husband - according to the Indo-European interpretation, comes from the phrase “adult man”.
Wife – “capable of giving birth”, because a woman was previously seen as the source of new life.
The father-in-law is the “beginning of the family,” and the mother-in-law is a derivative of it.
Father-in-law - from the phrase “to bring into being”, i.e. “parent of the wife,” and mother-in-law is a derivative of it.
Brother-in-law, sister-in-law - from the word “one’s own”.

According to folk etymology, there are interpretations of the names of close relatives:

Daughter-in-law – “who knows who”, because in ancient times, to avoid incest, the bride was looked for in distant villages, which is why almost no one knew the girl.
Daughter-in-law is the next status of a daughter-in-law, meaning that she is pregnant. Another interpretation is “son’s wife.”
Son-in-law - from the word “to know”, because after the wedding he becomes a familiar and significant person. Another interpretation is from the word “take”, i.e. the one who takes the bride down the aisle.
Father-in-law and mother-in-law - “to console”, because After the wedding, the parents rarely see their daughter, and her life in the new home is not always sweet, so the mother and father console the newly-made wife during their short meetings.
Father-in-law and mother-in-law are “the blood of all,” because the father-in-law unites all relatives by blood. Another interpretation is “one’s own shelter”, because After the wedding, the bride was brought to a new place of residence - to her father-in-law's house.
Brother-in-law – “to trust”, because The husband's brother was considered a confidant in many matters and an assistant in solving life's problems.
Sister-in-law - from the word “evil”, because usually the groom's sister did not like his wife, who, in her opinion, always did everything wrong.

Responsibilities of godfathers

In fact, godparents are engaged in the spiritual education of the godson, so in theory, people who are deeply religious, devout, who observe all church commandments, honor religious holidays, and most importantly, who want to raise their godson and take an active part in his life should take such a step.

Unfortunately, very often the prerequisite for christening is a strong friendship between the baby’s parents and his future godparents. And when the moment comes in which their paths and interests diverge, the godparents stop communicating not only with the receiver’s blood mom and dad, but also with him. It turns out that the godfather (godfather) violates the vow made before the Lord, which is a sin.

Therefore, if you want to become a godfather, think carefully about what obligations this status imposes on you, and what the consequences will be if you renounce them.

Now you know the interpretation of the concepts, so it’s time to list the responsibilities towards the adopted child:

The first, and perhaps most important thing, is the child’s churching, that is, instilling in him religious knowledge, motivation to serve God, reverence for laws and observance of commandments.
Blood parents should also participate in this, but the main role is given to godparents, as spiritual mentors. Therefore, when choosing future godfathers , it is necessary to take into account their attitude towards the church: atheists, agnostics or people leading, to put it mildly, an incorrect lifestyle, or asocial personalities are definitely not suitable for this role;
Raising the receiver, instilling in him spiritual and cultural values (in essence, this is socialization).
After natural parents, godparents are second in authority: they can take part in any aspect of the child’s life. The responsibility of the recipients is to raise a kind, sympathetic, religious person and citizen, and for this he needs to talk about goodness, love, friendship and respect, conscience and justice;
In the event that one of the blood parents or both of them die or become physically or financially disabled, their godfather and godfather must take full care of the godson and provide him with what the parents cannot for any reason.

Final tips

In conclusion of the article, I would like to give two pieces of advice regarding the names of relatives after marriage:

When preparing for the celebration and compiling the list of invitees, as well as the seating arrangement of guests at the wedding, write in parentheses who this person will be. Each time you edit the list and look at these names, you will easily remember them.
The question often arises of how to call relatives: by name or by their relative “status”? It all depends on people's preferences! If earlier it was customary to use the names of relatives in speech, now more and more often they are addressed by their first name and patronymic. The exception is godfathers and matchmakers, who often jokingly like to address each other this way.

The MyWed.by portal has listed the names of relatives so that you know who, by whom and to whom after the official marriage. Your new extended family members will be pleased to know that you have learned their official “titles” and are treating them with respect!

How to choose godparents for your baby

It is not difficult to answer this question. Think about what you want to give your children, how to raise them, what to teach them, and find a person who, in your opinion, can do it just like you. What to look for?

as mentioned above, these should be people close to the church. It is not necessary to look for religious fanatics, but at a minimum they must be baptized and observe God's laws;
do not focus on whether you like the person or not, whether you will enjoy communicating with him or not. You don't choose a friend for yourself, you choose another parent for your child . Therefore, look no more at personal preferences, but at the moral and spiritual qualities of future godfathers;
pay attention to how a person relates to his spiritual development: whether he strives for self-improvement or goes with the flow, or maybe rushes from one extreme to another.

After baptism, godmothers will become your closest relatives with whom you need to maintain communication.
The child should get used to their constant presence and will more easily accept them as mentors. Good luck to you! See you soon on the blog pages KtoNaNovenkogo.ru

Look for recommenders

Finding referrals is easy if you are a sociable person with a wide circle of acquaintances. But recommendations for a position also have their pros and cons. Basically they mirror the features described above.

Pros of being recommended:

go to the interview more confidently, because they have already told you a little about you;
assistance in collecting information about the company;
support from a friend during the adaptation period - in a team and during work;
satisfaction of personal ego, confirmation of one’s reputation as a specialist and good friend.

Disadvantages of employment “on a tip”:

career competition with an acquaintance if you occupy similar positions;
biased attitude on the part of the team, saying that you did not achieve your position on your own;
usurpation of you as an employee who can be asked in a friendly way to do something outside of working hours;
spoiled relationships with a friend when work moments are perceived as personal.

Work.ua believes that the benefits of recommenders and recommended are attractive enough to take the risk of helping someone find a job or asking for such help. Especially if you are passionate and generally not afraid to take risks in life. The main thing is not to turn patronage into nepotism, which you yourself will later tell legends about.

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