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In Orthodoxy, family, raising children and relationships between married couples are of high importance. The family is called a “small temple”, thanks to which the family hearth is under the intercession of all the holy calendar and even the Almighty.
As you know, nothing is perfect in this world. Also in the family, where various disagreements and misunderstandings occur, but the main thing to remember is that you are not just a couple, you are a whole union consisting of two people and who is responsible not only for themselves, but also for their children before all the Saints and the Lord .
Patrons of the family
Each person has his own uniqueness - character, views, shortcomings. These are the ones that can be difficult to put up with day after day. Then the Spirit of God and his saints will come to the rescue. Prayers against scandals can be addressed to different heavenly patrons:
- Our Lady Theotokos - after all, she was an earthly example of how to endure suffering, poverty and injustice;
- Xenia of St. Petersburg - considered the patroness of the family, a miracle worker;
- Holy angels and archangels - they can teach not to pay attention to temporary things;
- Our Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ - He always showed love for people, even when they were unworthy of it, and taught everyone to do the same.
You can choose any icon of the Mother of God, reading your petitions before her holy face.
What to do if you pray, but the conflict cannot be resolved?
It happens that a person reads prayers for a long time against quarrels and scandals in the family, but the situation does not change for the better. In this case, it is advised to humble yourself before the situation and strengthen your prayer, as well as go to Confession and Communion more often, while observing fasting.
It is especially important to listen to each other more often and support all family members. It is not without reason that they say that the family is a “small church” that must be protected and preserved from external adversity. You need to try to pray to the Lord constantly, giving thanks every day for the day you have lived and for everything that you have.
Ideal marriage - does it exist?
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Is it possible to build a relationship without quarreling at all? Prayers help only partly here. The point is that you just need to be able to express your opinion correctly. It does not happen that people always agree with each other on everything. From the outside it may seem that this is exactly what is happening for someone, but in fact it is just an illusion. Often people deliberately create the appearance of an ideal relationship, but in reality they are simply cold and indifferent to each other.
There is nothing terrible if the thoughts of the wife and husband on some issue do not agree. A compromise solution must be found. This is the essence of marriage - to make concessions, find a common denominator, and jointly make efforts to solve problems. This is what mature individuals do.
It is also normal to feel angry and dissatisfied at times. Of course, then you need to read a prayer to make peace and ask for forgiveness. It is also advisable to learn to express your point of view so that the other person understands that you love him, but disagree on some issue. After all, each spouse is an individual and has the right to his own opinion, his own view.
Psalm for reconciliation with a loved one
If disagreements constantly arise between a married couple literally out of the blue, without any serious reasons, then they simply begin to give up. It may seem to a person that it is no longer possible to find a common language with a loved one and that it would be easier to separate and start a new relationship from scratch. Being in this constant series of disagreements, it is quite easy to forget about the main thing, namely the chants that come to help maintain family relationships.
There is an opinion that if you write a strong psalm for reconciliation on a piece of paper and carry it with you all the time, it will have a much greater effect. However, it is not enough just to rewrite the text; you must also adhere to some rules:
- Take clean soft paper (instead of paper, you can use a piece of genuine leather or fabric).
- In a calm and relaxed atmosphere, sit down and try to put your thoughts in order. It is best to have pleasant mental images in your head while texting.
- Before writing out the text of the chant, you can say the prayer “Our Father” 3 times and then cross yourself the same number of times.
- After which, in a peaceful mood, begin the census of the chants. It is worth noting that it is recommended to rewrite the prayer book only yourself.
- The fabric or paper should be folded four times and carried with you at all times. Moreover, the closer to the body it is, the better. The most suitable place to store the amulet may be a pocket located in your underwear.
Work on yourself
Even prayer does not always help avoid quarrels in the family. At such moments, psychologists recommend using an important rule: you need to speak out in such a way as to talk only about your feelings. You can’t blame someone else for everything and resort to insults. This will not lead to the desired result.
To reduce anger, frequent reading of prayers helps. This must be made a habit; it is necessary to pronounce holy words every morning and at night, before going to bed. You can always find a few minutes to communicate with God. Be sure to read the Holy Scriptures. This helps in many ways:
- a person begins to see his shortcomings;
- understands your significant other better;
- becomes more patient, kind;
- The Holy Spirit helps you do what is right and reasonable.
For this, of course, you will have to work hard, but the result is worth it.
- A strong prayer for the return of a loved one;
- Prayer for the Family of Peter and Fevronia;
- Prayer for everything to be fine - .
Prayer for quarrels by Xenia of Petersburg
“Oh, simple in the way of her life, homeless on earth, heir to the abodes of the Heavenly Father, blessed wanderer Xenia! Just as we previously fell to your tombstone in illness and sorrow and were filled with consolations, now we too, overwhelmed by pernicious circumstances, resort to you and ask with hope: pray, O good heavenly woman, that our steps may be straightened according to the word of the Lord to do His commandments, and yes The godless atheism that has captivated your city and your country, plunging us many sinners into mortal hatred of our brothers, proud self-indignation and blasphemous despair, will be abolished.
Oh, most blessed one of Christ, who has put to shame the vanity of this age, ask the Creator and Giver of all blessings to grant us humility, meekness and love in the treasure of our hearts, faith in strengthening prayer, hope in repentance, strength in a difficult life, merciful healing of our soul and body , chastity in marriage and caring for our neighbors and sincere ones, renewal of our entire life in the purifying bath of repentance, as we praise your memory with all praise, let us glorify the miracle worker in you, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the Trinity Consubstantial and Indivisible forever and ever. Amen".
Prayers for reconciliation between parents and children
quench all strife, take away all discord and temptation.
For You are our peace, and to You we send glory, to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.
Amen.
Second prayer
Lord, God, Almighty, look upon us, Your sinful and unworthy children, who have sinned before You, who have angered Your goodness, who have brought Your righteous wrath upon us, who have fallen into the depths of sin.
You see, Lord, our weakness and spiritual sorrow, weigh the corruption of our minds and hearts, the impoverishment of faith, the departure from Your commandments,
the increase in family unrest, disunity and discord in the church, You see our sorrows and sorrows from illnesses, famines, drownings, burnings and internecine warfare.
But, Most Merciful and Humane-loving Lord, enlighten, instruct and have mercy on us, the unworthy.
All-holy Master, enlighten our minds with the light of the teachings of the Gospel, warm our hearts with the warmth of Thy grace and direct me to the doing of Thy commandments, so that Thy all-holy and glorious name, of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, may be glorified in us, now and forever.
Amen.
Prayer three
God and Father, Creator and Preserver of all creatures!
Grace my poor children (names) with Your Holy Spirit, may He kindle in them the true fear of God, which is the beginning of wisdom and direct prudence, according to which whoever acts, his praise abides forever.
Bless them with true knowledge of You, keep them from all idolatry and false teaching, make them grow in true and saving faith and in all piety, and may they abide in them constantly to the end.
Grant them a believing, obedient and humble heart and mind, so that they may grow in years and in grace before God and before people.
Keep them from all the temptations of the evil world, and let not evil society corrupt them.
Do not allow them to fall into uncleanness and unchastity, so that they do not shorten their own lives and do not offend others.
Be their protector in every danger, so that they do not suffer sudden destruction.
Make it so that we do not see in them dishonor and shame, but honor and joy, so that Your Kingdom may be multiplied by them and the number of believers will increase,
and let them be in heaven around Your table, like the olive branches of heaven,
and with all the elect, may they give You honor, praise and glorification through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.
Prayer four
Root Thy fear in them, and establish love for one another: quench all strife, remove all discord and temptations.
For You are our peace, and to You we send glory, to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages.
Amen.
Fifth prayer
Great and Almighty, Lord Almighty, You are the source of gifts and mercy for all living people.
Goodness comes from You, and You give us sinners hope.
I am a mother and I thank You for experiencing the feeling of motherhood.
I pray to you for the well-being of my children, I diligently bow down and sincerely repent of my sins.
You, the Almighty, gave life to my children and accepted them with holy baptism, so that they would follow the righteous path and reach the Kingdom of Heaven.
Save and protect my children with your goodness until the end of their days.
Only You are true, hallowed be Your name.
Help me, Lord, to raise them according to Your commandments for the glory of Your name and for the benefit of everyone.
Great Lord, enlighten them with the good light of Your Wisdom, put sincere love into their souls.
Let fear and aversion to any lawlessness be born in their souls and hearts. Decorate, Lord, with chastity and honesty of their souls.
Protect them from slander and unfair slander.
Deliver them from vanity and all abomination.
May my children excel in virtue and holiness, love and piety.
Direct your Guardian Angel to them so that he is with them every minute.
And if it happens that my children have to sin in this life, do not turn away from them, Lord.
Be merciful to them, accept their sincere repentance and cleanse their souls.
And after that, guide me on the true path and protect me from the temptations of the world around me.
Deliver my children from troubles and sorrows, from grief and illness and from various dangers.
Grant me joy and joy from the well-being of my children.
Amen.
Advice from the wise
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Many holy fathers left spiritual instructions for those who spend their lives in marriage. First of all, you need to analyze your own behavior. It is a mistake to remain angry and blame your spouse.
Resentment and reproaches do not contribute to building family happiness. You need to stop reliving the negative situation over and over again.
We must fight our passions - pride becomes one of the main reasons why misunderstanding is born.
The family should serve as a safe haven for a person. But for this you will have to try very hard. May the Lord and all the saints help you in building a reliable union!
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Does this really work?
Just a couple of years ago, a group of neurophysiologists from St. Petersburg reported an amazing discovery - with due effort on their part, a person can plunge into a state of prayerful wakefulness, which - oh, miracle - can help them heal from various diseases. This is not a joke, but a completely serious theory, which, however, has not yet received proper confirmation in practice and therefore faces quite serious skepticism from the scientific community.
Veniamin Shevtsov, psychotherapist with experience, 45 years:
— The use of prayer for healing is based on a person’s deep faith in a positive result. People detach themselves from everyday life, become more confident, stronger and calmer, and accordingly, their immunity is strengthened. But can it be said that it is possible to defeat a disease with prayer alone? A dubious assumption, but I fully admit that it is possible to alleviate suffering.
What if you use prayer against a husband’s aggression towards his wife?
There is no illness here, we only have a purely everyday situation in which the husband shows unreasonable aggression and irritation towards his wife, subjects her to daily obstruction and even uses physical violence. And this is not at all included in the list of signs that a husband does not love his wife: human character is a delicate matter.
On women's forums you can find many descriptions of similar life situations in which such prayers really helped smooth out the corners in relationships between loved ones. They especially helped, in combination with folk methods, to wean a husband off alcohol without his knowledge, if the cause of aggression was drinking.
Elena Mikhaltsova, 40 years old, Moscow:
— The period when my husband Misha constantly humiliated me both verbally and physically was one of the most terrible in my life. I couldn’t sleep: there were literally tears in my eyes. A friend gave me the idea of using a prayer against a husband’s aggression towards his wife. True, she didn’t help her, but she advised me to try, they say, maybe it will work out. I said a prayer every morning for a week. I can’t say that my husband’s behavior changed dramatically and immediately: the aggression dulled slightly, the reproaches became less categorical. But this was more than enough for me to breathe freely. Over time, he became kinder and kinder. Later I found out that he was promoted at work. And now I’m thinking about what helped in my situation: a prayer suggested by a friend or a career development that turned up by the way.
